‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

[Mondaytuesdayhappydays]

SIS and BIL coming for Sunday Lunch, bringing DN and her BF- recently engaged.
Got a little gift for them and card etc, my parents were coming any way so invited Sunday for food as makes sense.

SIS has just WhatsApped to say jokingly that the BF -mega gym bunny - ‘doesn’t do potatoes and trimmings- but don’t worry he’ll just pile his plate high with meat’
Im doing a couple chickens and a gammon between us all so plenty for everyone alongside stuffing, veg, Yorkies , gravey, cauliflower cheese etc but definitely not for a huge piled up plate of just meat!

I replied lightheartedly to SIS to this effect and she’s not a happy camper at all.
Just texted to say wants him to feel welcome so will bring him a couple of raw pork chops or similar to fry - I’ve said bring them cooked and sliced already in a Tupperware as I won’t be frying chops with all the carnage of the roast going on and my parents milling about under my feet ‘helping’

Shes voice noting at the moment can see the symbol
honestly am I just old or a shit hostess or is this how guests who barely know their hosts I might add expect to be catered for ???

I mean veggie/vegan all power to you
but a plate piled up of meat for lunch seems a bit full on to me ??

If money is an issue, ask her to contribute and just get some extra drumsticks or something. You can get the preseasoned ones from Waitrose that come in a foil tray to just bung in the oven with everything else

Sprouts with chestnuts
creamed spinach
broccoli with pine nuts
spiced red cabbage
Yummers! X

He wants to eat a whole chicken but is rocking up with avocado? That’s good of him. I can’t see them getting many dinner invites if this is how he expects to be fed. That’s crazy.

I think your sister is being weird, not necessarily the boyfriend. He exists in the world as a functioning adult I assume...very unlikely he expects to be personally catered for as standard wherever he goes. He's going for dinner at his girlfriend's aunt's house. I can't imagine HE put in a request for meat only and plenty of it.

Think your sister is being a tad over-zealous about making him feel welcome.
I'd be annoyed with her.

Me neither. Butter, cream, honey, bacon in veg etc not needed weekly I don't think.

@MumWifeOther I think OP is already cooking 2 chickens and a gammon, I wouldn’t have space in the oven to throw in some extra drumsticks

Just meet up at a carvery, he can have what he wants then.
Easier all round.

This isn't even your child's boyfriend its your sisters. Nah. Suggest you go out.

He’s been watching too much Eddie Abbew!!

YANBU. He and the young woman are very ill mannered and clearly have no understanding of etiquette when you’re being hosted.

I’m British Indian so know quite a bit about Hindu, Islamic and Jain food practices but that doesn’t change the fact that they’re all still preferences. The difference is you are choosing to make a distinction based on what YOU deem to be a worthy reason (which is your prerogative) but materially there’s no difference. Personally I don’t think it’s my place to be judging whether someone’s reasons are good enough so always try to cater for everyone regardless of my personal opinion. I’m also atheist and don’t see why someone being entrenched in a fairytale means they are anymore worthy than someone doing it temporarily for sport or competition reasons; if something is important to someone then I’ll respect it so I’m an equal opportunity “panderer” if you like 😂

I think my culture has coloured my view on this subject because people have been conditioned to never question religion, however I’m well aware of how many religious people are happy to make others jump through hoops to accommodate their preferences but then have no trouble “temporarily” dropping those exact same preferences on other occasions when it suits them.

Is everything organic?

Because a plate high with meat is very expensive!

I bet it's like shitting out boulders if all he eats is meat. I would not want to be this man 😬

He would get what everyone is having end of.
So she should bring ready cooked chops I'd expect her too aswell .

I haven't read all the thread/replies so may be repeating.

I'd also be asking DSis if her and her DD are up for a lifetime of meeting his demands when it comes to meal times..

I see someone has already got in with the Henry VIII comment.

All the comments about ‘just’ buying an e tra chicken, on top of the large gammon and large chickens already planned are ridiculous. It’s not just the cost - how many ovens do they think people have ?

OP isn’t running a restaurant. She probably has a standard home kitchen, not an Asda rotisserie.

OP is also not responsible for the boyfriend’s daily food intake. He can have some pork chops for breakfast before he comes.

I’d put the meat on plates to avoid anyone going without, and then veg and potatoes in dishes so guests help themselves.

Pathetic seeing all these women fuss around a grown man’s dinner

All sounds delicious. What time can I come round?

Even a carvery won't let you double or triple up on the meat on the grounds you won't touch the tatties and veg.

I've never been to a carvery that allows unlimited meat, it's always guarded by a chef doling it out.

Do tell me where I can get a plateful of meat ?

I mean unless the BF is a massive twat, he’ll do what my DH (a massive meat hog with a very physical job) does when we are invited to other people’s houses and eat a small/normal sized portion of the meat on offer and then eat again when he gets home. This seems a massive drama to accommodate someone who is hopefully not such a moron he doesn’t understand how to be a guest in someone’s home?

It’s a question of UK law, the Equality Act 2010, under the protected characteristic of ‘religion or belief’.

It can’t just be any old belief, it has to meet the test (because of case law / precedent / legal authority) that it is ‘WORIADS’ (‘worthy of respect in a democratic society’).

This gives the belief legal protection once it has been tested to the point of the Appeal Court / Tribunal.

Religion tends be tested against the notion of established belief and practices as well as WORIADS.

Why do some posters allow guests to take all the meat ?

I had something similar, & I told the CF DSS to put it back .

Pretentious poser 😁 I know a few gym bunnies, there's a serious gym down the street (they're a lovely bunch and not bunnies at all which is beside the point) and even when they train for something specific they still allow themselves some carbs.

I quite agree. It wouldn't happen over a woman - unless a serious dietary requirement.

I know the type though; boring, tedious and performative.

Fact he is bringing his own avocado and 🙄'homemade mayo' indicates he is a PITA over his gym diet. Further illustrated by the fact his future MIL is in a tizzy over it.

Look for forward to the update @Mondaytuesdayhappydays , don't let us down. 😄