‘Just the meat for me please’ Sunday Lunch issue ’

[Mondaytuesdayhappydays]

SIS and BIL coming for Sunday Lunch, bringing DN and her BF- recently engaged.
Got a little gift for them and card etc, my parents were coming any way so invited Sunday for food as makes sense.

SIS has just WhatsApped to say jokingly that the BF -mega gym bunny - ‘doesn’t do potatoes and trimmings- but don’t worry he’ll just pile his plate high with meat’
Im doing a couple chickens and a gammon between us all so plenty for everyone alongside stuffing, veg, Yorkies , gravey, cauliflower cheese etc but definitely not for a huge piled up plate of just meat!

I replied lightheartedly to SIS to this effect and she’s not a happy camper at all.
Just texted to say wants him to feel welcome so will bring him a couple of raw pork chops or similar to fry - I’ve said bring them cooked and sliced already in a Tupperware as I won’t be frying chops with all the carnage of the roast going on and my parents milling about under my feet ‘helping’

Shes voice noting at the moment can see the symbol
honestly am I just old or a shit hostess or is this how guests who barely know their hosts I might add expect to be catered for ???

I mean veggie/vegan all power to you
but a plate piled up of meat for lunch seems a bit full on to me ??

We always massively over cater.... It's a family tradition.... 😁

The CF that stands out was a cousin's new BF.... We had 14 to lunch... Cost a bomb... Plenty of meat for seconds...table was groaning...

Except this CF literally PILED his plate... It was quite intriguing to watch... No veg... Just taking great forkfuls of sliced sirloin of beef... And then helped himself to thickly sliced chicken and then loads of gammon... He had a large portion, enough for about 5 people... The large plate was literally 6 inches deep in meat....

He then proceeded to eat it as if he hadn't eaten for a month.

He didn't even turn up with a cheap bottle or any sparkling wit /conversation...

Nothing! ... The cousin was simpering over him... How he 'ate well /liked his food'..

No shit..

Luckily we didn't see him again as it fizzled out...

Total CF

@GoldDuster I couldn’t agree with you more I bet he stinks

JC calm down.

Both of my nephews are into bodybuilding, and I've dipped in and out of it in the (distant) past. I follow a few bodybuilders/bikini body people on social media.

Most cuts involve a lot of egg whites, spinach, grilled chicken breast, and broccoli. I don't know of a single bodybuilder who does not eat any veg, no matter what cycle they are in. And none would eat pork while on a cut. The whole point of the diet is to be low in almost everything except protein (calories, carbs, and fat), which pork is not.

No I literally never put butter or honey on veg. We generally have steamed veg as it’s healthier. Bad enough having Yorkie let alone a load of veg soaked in sugar or fat!

In addition to my earlier comment I'd be so tempted to do a veggie or vegan meal!!!

@Notmyreality not everyone can afford to buy an extra joint of meat just for one guest. What happens if the niece was following the same diet would you but an extra 2 chickens. OP is already having to cater for 11 people. Not sure where I would be able to cook an extra joint of meat

Looking forward to hearing what happens on the day @Mondaytuesdayhappydays !
But I'm sitting here wondering whether anyone really believes that their guests have the right to demand a certain quantity of food when they come round. Fine to say if they have food intolerances or even preferences, but who can seriously expect a whole chicken to themselves ?!? I think the reasonable thing is to offer him a share of whatever you are cooking. He can always have his whole roasted goat or whatever for breakfast and eat a normal sized portion when visiting his girlfriend's family - surely?
And of course, he hasn't said anything at all, it's your SIL who is making demands.

Omg yes this.

It's not for the OP to deal with her sisters drama with her daughter.

That's up to the sister to manage without being rude to the OP and dragging her into it.

Exactly. Plus I know we are more expensive to cater for with 2 coeliac in our family, so always offer to bring bits for them, such as a gf desert, gf gravy, gf bread, snacks etc

Presumably vegetables are cheaper and easier to prepare in larger quantities?

The SMELL from the toilet every day will be🤢🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮too!’

“The most expensive part of the meal”.
We’re not in Victorian times, do people really monitor the cost of who eats what? Do you always serve your Lord the best cut?
Cue all the “meats expensive” and “people can barely afford to eat” comments. If you were that poor you wouldnt be hosting people for Sunday lunch.

Yanbu.
My dbil has some funny food fads and I am careful to cater for them but it doesn’t cause me lots of extra cost or effort and he has never expected me to do it. Which makes me happy to since he’s so charming about offering to bring his own food if it’s a bother to cook for him.

It is completely different in your case OP.
”I’m sorry I only eat expensive meat” is a ludicrous dietary requirement!

If he needs protein could he have a side of quinoa or chick peas? Quick and easy.

We've dealt with this. Eating a lot of meat is not something people do because of some sort of belief system considered worthy of respect in a democratic society.
'All the animals must be killed so I can eat them because humans are the superior species!' is not a reason for the OP to have to buy a whole extra chicken for this muscle-bound glutton. If he'd turned up saying he didn't eat animal products because he was Hindu or because he has ethical issues with the idea of exploiting other species for food, OP doesn't have to agree, but she would probably accept this is how he thinks and cater for it - not least because it would be no big deal, unlike finding oven space for an extra chicken and forking out a lot more money than the cost of a bag of lentils and a few carrots.

You are very kind to do this and to think to buy more meat for them. I do think it is very rude to only eat the meat if you are invited to someone else's house.

My DH is on the carnivore diet, it is the most disgusting, most disordered and Cheeky fuckery of a diet I have ever seen. It's expensive (my DH eats through £80 a week in meat and that is bargain meat packs). I expect DH to pay for all his own meat from his own pot - it does not come out of family money or my money. It's his stupid expensive diet, his pocket can take the hit. Highly impractical (meat and dairy and food high in fat and no carbs for every meal). His breakfast is quite frankly the most bizarre thing ever to have existed - this morning it was pork chop, with yoghurt, cottage cheese and ham. Plus it makes eating out with someone on it a bloody miserable affair. DH orders a couple of sides- chicken wings/ ribs ect, and I have a normal meal but look like an absolute pig because I've got a meal in front of me and the wait staff always put the sides in the middle.

I refuse to cater for it and refuse to ask any of my family to cater for it - expecting a whole chicken to yourself or enough meat to be cooked to allow you to have a plate of meat is blatant CF and even more so if you don't know the person. Me and the kids have our normal food and I fully expect DH to cater for himself including buying his own meat. I make sure that me and the kids have portions for ourselves before allowing DH to have any meat from a meal I have cooked for us all as he will pile his plate high with just the meat. Scarfing all the meat from the leftovers is also CF and inconsiderate. I have been very clear that if we go anywhere to eat with others he is NOT to hoover up all the meat. If he can't eat normally when out with others or invited to other people's houses then he will have to wait until he gets home or not come.

I'm guessing your sister thinks this is what her BF will do, and she's trying to forewarn you.

But people host according to their budget. It doesn’t sound like an issue for OP, but can you really not understand that someone may have budgeted carefully to afford this and not be simply able to buy an additional chicken?

Gosh, such bubble mentality. Newsflash - some people do have to stick to a budget or have space restraints, when hosting, and some people would like to see everyone getting their fair share of the meat part of the meal. Nobody should be going to someone's house with the 'fill my plate high' mentality.

i am always very careful to make sure that guests are served the best of the meat - yes. Isn’t that just politeness?

Conversely if I’m at someone’s house and a plate of meat is passed round, I don’t take all the best bits - I make sure I take a fair portion and pass the plate on.

It’s not just the cost it’s also portion management - how much meat is this guy going to eat? I can usually guess how much an average adult man or woman will eat but if the plate only contains meat will it be a huge stack? What does “piling up the meat” mean?

He’s a cf and your DS is daft to encourage him, but for the sake of family goodwill on this occasion I’d just buy a couple of extra chicken pieces and/or some sausages a gammon steak and chuck them in the oven with the rest.

My 16yr old is currently in the kitchen cooking peri peri chicken.
His ingredients are;
1 bottle Nando's marinade
1 kg chicken breast.

I asked if there would be any spare for me and he said "I doubt it".

Hmm, bloody protein hunters!!

If someone is catering for others then it's usually based on a normal portion of food regardless of cost

Yes meat is expensive, and you would hope, as the Host that people had basic manners and to not overload their plate so others can enjoy a nice plate of food

If he is a strict carnivore, he won't surprisingly enough. Both glucose and Vitamin C use the same transporter to get into the cell. If you eat carbs, you need more Vitamin C to allow it to get into the cell. And meat does have vitamin c in it. You only need trace amounts. Having said that, as a carnivore myself, I wouldn't expect someone to spend out on my diet. I only eat once a day, so would just eat beforehand

Smelly farts as well!