Hen party drama

[Horsingabout2]

My two best friends are in charge of my hen weekend. I’ve given them free rein within a couple of paramaters (including not to exceed a certain cost so as many people as possible can make it given it’s quite close to Christmas).

I am not in the WA group but I know they were putting the itinerary in there earlier. One of my friends has called me to say one of the attendees (my cousin) has kicked up a fuss about one of the meals being a butlers in the buff style evening. Said they won’t go on the weekend if that’s the plan. No one else has said they’ve an issue.

My cousin hasn’t contacted me directly. I don’t want my friends to have to rearrange things given the efforts they’ve gone to in order to arrange. AIBU to say that if she wants to be stubborn and not attend, that says more about her and how highly she must regard me?

Yes. It’s possible to like both knitting and cake, dislike butlers in the buff and enjoy a wild night out that doesn’t end at 6pm. Who’d have thought it.

“How highly she must regard me “
Are you the bloody Queen?? 🤣

I'll make it clear.
We can all express a view.
We can't make sweeping comments telling OP to ignore every comment we don't agree with.

people need to lighten up. It’s tongue in cheek Danielle it’s a bit of a laugh.

yanbu. She’s a spoil sport.

She was asking for opinions.

This

Thanks for the clarity. But if I want to ADVISE someone to ignore something that may upset them. I will.

No, you need to respect that there are alternative views.

Oh, I know you will, just pointing out how ridiculous it is. Also, no need to SHOUT.

I missed the part where she asked for opinions on butler in the buff. I thought she was asking for opinions on what to do re the cousin. And I responded to that.

Your post made me laugh as I agree. The idea that if you don’t have butlers in the buff, you have to be knitting and home by 6pm (though nothing wrong with that) really shows a lack of the most basic critical thinking.

She's asking for opinions on the cousin's reaction to the butler, that includes comments relating to the whole butler concept.

Thanks for letting me know!

IF I WANT TO SHOUT I WILL!

Like I said, I missed that part.

whoopty doo. I said what I said.

I think your cousin should be able to miss this part of the event should she wish to, without any backlash.

While you and your other hens may enjoy it, its not everyone's cup of tea (as you can probably tell by the majority of responses here!) and she should be able to bow out from that part and enjoy other aspects without you taking it as a personal attack.

Because of the title of this post, I can't help but get a vibe behind all this of cattiness/bitching about your cousin just because she's declined the invite for the Butler in the Buff event. She hasn't caused any drama whatsoever in saying 'no thank you' but your friend on the WA chat has clearly decided to make drama about it.

If your cousin was causing drama, she'd have been on the phone to you shouting and complaining about the shit idea (which it is) but she hasn't, has she? I think you and your friend on the WA group are craving drama so you can all gossip and bitch...nasty behaviour.

Not really
Someone had one of these at her 40th and it was awful
I assume you are Ok with your Fiance having virtually naked women at his Stag then?

Anyway, your cousin can refuse to come if she wants and what is "says about her" is that she doesn't think naked men are entertainment

Yes I'd agree with that. Just imagine the outrage if the groom was off to see a stripper etc. Yet the OP is happy enough to have naked males around all evening? He needs to ditch her. The cousin is the only one with some integrity.

Grim.

Imagine if it was gender swapped.

A naked classy professional

So, perhaps it was best not to tell her to ignore everyone else then? You should be able to adequately express your view without telling anyone to ignore opposing views.

😂
In a bow tie and an apron and nowt else! 😂

Yup, I'm sure you'll do that too. Do you need another shovel?

Yes, you did, well done.