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Anyone like to reconsider what they posted about the train attack on Saturday night?

365 replies

margegunderson · 03/11/2025 10:48

There were (to my mind) some horrific posts claiming that it MUST be a terrorist attack, demanding information on the attacker’s race and motivations NOW, shouting about Starmer censorship and picking fights with anyone suggesting it might not be cut and dried and to wait for more information. Hideously racist as well.
If that was you - any reflections today? What will you do if there’s a next time?

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DespiteHigh · 04/11/2025 07:31

hiui · 04/11/2025 07:28

I mean:
The Jay Report (Rotherham, 2014) estimated at least 1,400 children were sexually exploited in that town alone between 1997 and 2013. Just in one town.
So it’s a huge figure.
Estimates are tens of thousands rather than hundreds, but that doesn’t make any of it less appalling.

Yes, so 500,000 is a dangerous over exaggeration.

The actual numbers are horrific without inflaming the view of this by misinformation.

The term ‘little girls’ sensationalises this horror too, playing on the readers view of this being about young children.

hiui · 04/11/2025 07:39

DespiteHigh · 04/11/2025 07:31

Yes, so 500,000 is a dangerous over exaggeration.

The actual numbers are horrific without inflaming the view of this by misinformation.

The term ‘little girls’ sensationalises this horror too, playing on the readers view of this being about young children.

Edited

the fact is, we just don’t know how many.
Rotherham, Rochdale, Oxford.
(and London)
We only know about the reported incidents.
Most abuse goes unreported.
There are future scandals unfolding in real time as I type.

bluewanda · 04/11/2025 07:45

The number of posters who can’t grasp the difference between terror and terrorism is really quite something.

BundleBoogie · 04/11/2025 07:45

DespiteHigh · 04/11/2025 07:23

And while 500,000 little girls were raped and tortured by Pakistani Muslims for 30 years, by first and second generation immigrants, people like you closed their eyes and ears, with a nothing to see here mentality.

Please evidence your figure of 500,000 little girls?

Or is this just more misinformation (inflammatory lies).

It was an estimate put forward in a House of Lords debate based on the large number of towns and cities where the gangs operate and the amount of time over which the coverup/institutional enablement has occurred and is allegedly still happening.

Thanks to the repeated and ongoing failures of government to address this effectively, and the victims were bring shamed into silence by the authorised accusing THEM of being racist, there are not yet more definitive numbers. We should all be horrified at this.

Even today, Jess Phillips is trying to water down the investigation into the specific profile and MO of the gangs. She has a 45% Muslim population in her constituency. I’m sure many would want her to investigate properly but due to the well documented ‘clan’ system perpetuated by repeated first cousin marriage (65% in some Muslim communities), and the interrelationships that creates, many won’t. It is perplexing that she is acting as she is.

To those who are attacking me because of my posts, please remember that I am just passing on facts often out forward by moderate Muslims themselves who want to distance themselves from the harmful practices being brought into our country by others. I am not racist or ‘anti Muslim’. If the facts don’t fit your narrative you may need to re-examine your narrative.

I repeatedly say ‘not all Muslims/immigrants/boat people’ and I mean it.

wikiislam.net/wiki/Cousin_Marriage_in_Islamic_Law

BundleBoogie · 04/11/2025 08:09

DespiteHigh · 04/11/2025 07:31

Yes, so 500,000 is a dangerous over exaggeration.

The actual numbers are horrific without inflaming the view of this by misinformation.

The term ‘little girls’ sensationalises this horror too, playing on the readers view of this being about young children.

Edited

are you actually serious?

Girls from the age of 10 ARE little girls.

Why is the repeated rape and torturing of say a 16 yr old any less worthy of utter horror? I can’t believe you are quibbling about ‘little girls’.

The girl in this report was 12 and the policeman raping her threatened to hand her back to the gangs if she didn’t comply. But ‘little girls’ is inflammatory??

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cn9y0lvpyqvo?app-referrer=deep-link

bittertwisted · 04/11/2025 08:11

bluewanda · 04/11/2025 07:45

The number of posters who can’t grasp the difference between terror and terrorism is really quite something.

But but but but I think it’s terror so it’s terrorism

are people really this blind to the different ramifications and protocols of terrorism

Saturday night sounded terrifying, absolutely horrendous. As being confronted and murdered by Valdo colacane must have been terrifying.
how can anyone think either of these crimes are terrorism and how would the specific powers given to fight terrorism be best used as a result of these crimes?
valdo calocane’s family themselves said mental health services failed them. No amount of anti terror surveillance or intelligence would have changed the outcome.

hiui · 04/11/2025 08:16

BundleBoogie · 04/11/2025 08:09

are you actually serious?

Girls from the age of 10 ARE little girls.

Why is the repeated rape and torturing of say a 16 yr old any less worthy of utter horror? I can’t believe you are quibbling about ‘little girls’.

The girl in this report was 12 and the policeman raping her threatened to hand her back to the gangs if she didn’t comply. But ‘little girls’ is inflammatory??

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cn9y0lvpyqvo?app-referrer=deep-link

it’s inflammatory when people would rather avoid discussing it altogether because obviously it’s racist to accept there’s a specific issue with pakistani gangs raping mostly white young british girls.

bittertwisted · 04/11/2025 08:30

Unfettered access to the internet and violent, misogynistic’games’ are hugely endemic in this country

I despair myself of my then 10 year old stepson being bought GTA by his grandmother, no phone controls, gaming literally all night with no limits or monitoring.

he’s not the only one, and it is predominately boys.

I have 3 sons, I am a vocal champion of how brilliant boys can be. However isolating them on screens all day and night, no exercise, no socialising, no direction from parents, is a recipe for disaster

Savemydrink · 04/11/2025 08:43

DespiteHigh · 04/11/2025 07:31

Yes, so 500,000 is a dangerous over exaggeration.

The actual numbers are horrific without inflaming the view of this by misinformation.

The term ‘little girls’ sensationalises this horror too, playing on the readers view of this being about young children.

Edited

Some of these children were 11 years old. That is my definition of little girls. We can not underestimate the magnitude of these crimes. Some of these kids did not survive their ordeal.

lifeturnsonadime · 04/11/2025 08:47

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 04/11/2025 01:19

If we accept your premise that these people had no discernible mental health issues, other than a blind hatred of people from the UK, then perhaps we need to dig more deeply into the question of why those people might have ended up hating the UK so much - the country where their parents proactively chose to build their lives.

There are people who are second and third generation migrants who appear to hate the UK.

In the early 2000s not long after 9/11 I did a (short lived) car share with a Muslim woman whose views were absolutely shocking. She was highly educated (in the UK) and a solicitor.

Unless you were in the car and hearing her views you would accuse me of making it up.

I had another muslim colleague in a different job who had attended Catholic school in the UK who would have been equally horrified by the things the woman in the car was telling me about her brothers/ her views on 9/11 and jihad.

The woman I car shared with definitely had no discernible mental health issues but she supported the terrorists. She was also born in the UK.

DespiteHigh · 04/11/2025 09:03

hiui · 04/11/2025 07:39

the fact is, we just don’t know how many.
Rotherham, Rochdale, Oxford.
(and London)
We only know about the reported incidents.
Most abuse goes unreported.
There are future scandals unfolding in real time as I type.

So let’s just guess at the figure of 500,000?

1,400 to 500,000 - come on.

hiui · 04/11/2025 09:06

DespiteHigh · 04/11/2025 09:03

So let’s just guess at the figure of 500,000?

1,400 to 500,000 - come on.

it’s far far more than 1,400.
If you’d bothered to read my earlier post, this figure was just for Rotherham alone and the actual figure, for this town alone, will be much higher because not all the girls will be known about. And yes, girls. Little girls.

MaturingCheeseball · 04/11/2025 09:12

Presumably that poster thinks Prince Andrew (whoops! Just Andrew) has been badly treated and it’s all a bit much, nothing to see here, because at least one of his - er - friends was 17.

bittertwisted · 04/11/2025 09:15

WonderfulSmith · 04/11/2025 08:44

Here is the original thread. Most of the worst comments have been deleted.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5437223-stabbing-in-a-train-in-huntingdon

And yes, people who think that something being terrifying means it’s an act of terrorism is scary.

The rush to blame some poor non existent geordie football fans was another form of snobbery and ill informed judgment
2 victims were in fact a football player and a fan, the fan was a hero too.
prejudice, stereotyping, ignorance and superiority does not stop at racism

MaturingCheeseball · 04/11/2025 09:18

Yes, I couldn’t believe the desperation to lay the blame on football fans! I have been going to matches for 40 years and back in the day there were a few violent clashes (but between those keen to participate mostly) but supporters indiscriminately stabbing members of the public? Yeah, right.

bittertwisted · 04/11/2025 09:55

MaturingCheeseball · 04/11/2025 09:18

Yes, I couldn’t believe the desperation to lay the blame on football fans! I have been going to matches for 40 years and back in the day there were a few violent clashes (but between those keen to participate mostly) but supporters indiscriminately stabbing members of the public? Yeah, right.

Don’t forget all the cocaine at Wembley because only football is played at Wembley
oh wait …..

EmeraldShamrock000 · 04/11/2025 10:07

bittertwisted · 04/11/2025 09:15

The rush to blame some poor non existent geordie football fans was another form of snobbery and ill informed judgment
2 victims were in fact a football player and a fan, the fan was a hero too.
prejudice, stereotyping, ignorance and superiority does not stop at racism

Exactly.
It's ridiculous.

JHound · 04/11/2025 10:17

Starconundrum · 04/11/2025 01:30

First they came for Muslims.

Then they came for 'illegals'.

Then they came for legal migrants.

Now it's second generation immigrants.

If anyone thinks they are safe from the supremacists they are nuts.

They will turn on all of you.

HARD agree!

As we saw with this attack - people could not wait to reach for racism. It’s not just “illegal immigrants” they take issue with or “Islamists”.

It’s anybody non-white. And being three / four generations deep in the UK won’t change how they see you / us.

JHound · 04/11/2025 10:20

Savemydrink · 04/11/2025 00:34

Well, after that massive sigh of relief you undoubtedly had, on hearing this person was a British national, you might want to consider that we may have a worrying problem with 2nd generation immigrants who wish to commit mass murder on the country that took in their parents.

Shouting the R word will not cure this problem.

Daylight is the best disinfectant, maybe taking a closer look at the parents of these criminals might clarify things.

How do you know the UK “took in” his parents?

Why do you assume his parents were asylum seekers or why do you even assume his parents are from elsewhere?

What does the fact his parents / grandparents / great-grandparents may have been born overseas have to do with an ill man carrying out a brutal attack. How are those unrelated facts linked in your mind?

It’s not shouting racism it’s just accurately classifying your post as racism.

These people are born and raised in Britain. They are a product of Britain not a random foreign country. (assuming Williams was born here.)

JHound · 04/11/2025 10:24

lifeturnsonadime · 04/11/2025 08:47

There are people who are second and third generation migrants who appear to hate the UK.

In the early 2000s not long after 9/11 I did a (short lived) car share with a Muslim woman whose views were absolutely shocking. She was highly educated (in the UK) and a solicitor.

Unless you were in the car and hearing her views you would accuse me of making it up.

I had another muslim colleague in a different job who had attended Catholic school in the UK who would have been equally horrified by the things the woman in the car was telling me about her brothers/ her views on 9/11 and jihad.

The woman I car shared with definitely had no discernible mental health issues but she supported the terrorists. She was also born in the UK.

While I think supporting the terrorists who committed 9/11 is abhorrent (although I would be interested to here the nuance in what she said) is not indicative of hating the UK.

lifeturnsonadime · 04/11/2025 10:33

JHound · 04/11/2025 10:24

While I think supporting the terrorists who committed 9/11 is abhorrent (although I would be interested to here the nuance in what she said) is not indicative of hating the UK.

It was more than 20 years ago. I can't remember exact words.

She told me her brothers were prepared to fight. She told me how they felt about British/ Western culture.

She did not specifically say they hated the UK but they clearly hated aspects of British culture and felt Jihad is an appropriate response. Given the fact that we've had British born terrorists commit acts in the UK it is clear that SOME people feel this way.

This ought to be able to be discussed. It's not all Muslims, it's not all immigrants. It is not racist to want to understand why some people feel this way.

AhWeNoss · 04/11/2025 11:02

Those damn Muslims, always trying to harm and kills us!

Yet the train worker who tried to save others and was left fighting for his life has a Muslim sounding name.

The racists and Muslim haters must be losing their minds. Not only was the attacker not a Muslim immigrant, it was a Muslim who risked himself to save other passengers.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 04/11/2025 11:52

RedTagAlan · 04/11/2025 03:47

I agree with your confusion re "one mans truth is another mans propaganda"

I think the alternate form, " one mans truth is another mans lie" works better. But this statement has issues too.

Because not all propaganda is lies. And at the same time, truth is supposed to be absolute.

And I think with subjects such as knife crime, the truth often can't actually be known.

Yes of course, police data etc is true, and is published, but we can never know for sure how well anti knife crime campaigns work. For sure, a campaign can show a reduction in recorded data, truth, but there will always be interpolation required for things such as lives saved by a campaign.

I am not referencing any PP here when I suggest this, but it's this interpolation part that conspiricists latch onto. They say "you do not know for sure, you made it up, you guessed, so it is not true"

My head hurts now. But seriously. propaganda is an armchair interest of mine. I have also debated a lot of flat earthers online, and the " one mans truth...." line is a classic gaslighting technique.

I actually meant I read valid points but no one appears to be listening to each other.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 04/11/2025 12:09

hiui · 04/11/2025 08:16

it’s inflammatory when people would rather avoid discussing it altogether because obviously it’s racist to accept there’s a specific issue with pakistani gangs raping mostly white young british girls.

I agree.