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To be sick of people moaning about their pets and fireworks?

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Sophiehoney · 02/11/2025 20:28

There's currently a debate on my local Facebook page as the people in the street behind me let off a long, spectacular firework display in their back garden which was very loud.
It was absolutely brilliant and my kids loved it.

Someone has moaned that her four cats are terrified and others are joining in and saying their cats/dogs are also distressed.

They are all saying they should have had a warning?? Even though it's the weekend before bonfire night??

But what really annoys me is that if you click on this woman's name and see all her past posts, she's moaned about the same bloody thing at the same time of year for the past SIX years!!!

Why has she done nothing to prepare for this even though she knows full well it happens around the same time??!!!

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DontCallMeLenYouLittleBollix · 11/11/2025 11:10

Gettingbysomehow · 11/11/2025 10:54

How for you suggest I prepare my cats for fireworks OP. Especially if there is no warning.
I have a friend whose dog died from fright from sudden loud fireworks.
I can't keep my cats sedated for a whole week.
Fireworks at private homes should be banned, all fireworks displays should be controlled and done away from homes but even that doesn't help wildlife.
Again small or old animals can die if frightened enough.
One of my cats is very old and deaf so she's ok. But the other one ended up terrified, trembling and foaming at the mouth. I had to get in the understairs cupboard with her in a blanket fort every night for a week.
It isnt fair on the animals.

Presumably you feel equally strongly that pet cats should be banned, given the horrendous effect they have on wildlife? And dogs too, since it isn't fair on the animals and humans they frighten and they are around much more than fireworks.

Also, doesnt sound like you've realised that if we only have displays, there'll have to be loads of them in order to prevent people simply buying what will no doubt be abundantly available illegally imported ones. I'm an advocate for more displays, but people do need to understand it isn't a free lunch. There isn't an option where the current cultural enjoyment of fireworks can be corralled into displays held on one night nowhere near houses.

SunakIsTheGOAT · 11/11/2025 11:47

Gettingbysomehow · 11/11/2025 10:54

How for you suggest I prepare my cats for fireworks OP. Especially if there is no warning.
I have a friend whose dog died from fright from sudden loud fireworks.
I can't keep my cats sedated for a whole week.
Fireworks at private homes should be banned, all fireworks displays should be controlled and done away from homes but even that doesn't help wildlife.
Again small or old animals can die if frightened enough.
One of my cats is very old and deaf so she's ok. But the other one ended up terrified, trembling and foaming at the mouth. I had to get in the understairs cupboard with her in a blanket fort every night for a week.
It isnt fair on the animals.

Ear muffs or something to cover their ears?

vodkaredbullgirl · 11/11/2025 15:10

SunakIsTheGOAT · 11/11/2025 11:47

Ear muffs or something to cover their ears?

🙄

SunakIsTheGOAT · 11/11/2025 15:19

vodkaredbullgirl · 11/11/2025 15:10

🙄

At the end of the day as few pets getting scared off fireworks isn't a big deal to me.

rwalker · 11/11/2025 15:33

The problem is there’s an army of inconsiderate pet/dog owners that make peoples live a misery all year round

so it’s no surprise that a lot of people don’t give a fuck about pets that make there life a misery ( sat listening to a dog 4 doors down bark as I type)

OmNomShiva · 11/11/2025 18:57

rwalker · 11/11/2025 15:33

The problem is there’s an army of inconsiderate pet/dog owners that make peoples live a misery all year round

so it’s no surprise that a lot of people don’t give a fuck about pets that make there life a misery ( sat listening to a dog 4 doors down bark as I type)

Exactly this. Really hard to sympathise with the furry dickheads to be honest.

To be sick of people moaning about their pets and fireworks?
BettysRoasties · 11/11/2025 19:35

A local school did their display last night.

Doesn’t seem like actual organised displays would make them going off shorter this time of year. A pub had theirs Sunday, a different school did theirs Saturday. Friday the rugby club did theirs. Thursday a different pub did theirs. The 5th loads of places. But the official displays started from the 1st and I’m sure I could probably still find one for tonight.

MummytoE · 11/11/2025 22:11

tempname1234 · 06/11/2025 16:07

People like you have really riled up so many others. How selfish can you be?

houses now are far too close together. When people are doing these fire with displays, it is front and centre in people’s homes both for noise and the dishes of light.

pets, and animals in nature, have much better hearing than us. It is terrifying for them.

you’re perfectly happy to have terrified animals for a few moments of fireworks?

it isn’t just one night either. It now starts much earlier with Diwali plus people are doing fireworks not only on 5 November but the week before and after

there is no warning really. Because it is days in end. We can’t go out. We have to come home early from work because the fireworks are starting as soon as it is dark.

multiple people are doing them too.

we have tried extra long walks in the day we THINK fireworks will happen (try that with pouring rain) so our dog is tired and hopefully may possibly sleep through much of it. We’ve bought black blinds to cover all of our bifolds doors. We have a white noise machine we started using playing rain/thunder in attempt to help get them used to this sound (although real thunder doesn’t bother them), getting vibes from butcher in hopes they’ll be so engrossed in chewing they’ll ignore the fireworks

tv on louder

none of this works.

our dog does not usually bark, not even for doorbell. But he’s so frightened he is barking, howling and sometimes shit himself (who never has accidents in house, car or out anywhere we go for dinner or shopping).

this is his terrified pets can be.

because it is dark, we don’t even see what is happening to most of the animals in nature. Do you really think they’re not being impacted?

and you think this is ok?

really?

I think we should do a poll about how unreasonable selfish people are who have no compassion for the poor animals terrified by repeatedly and prolonged night after night torture by fire works.

It sounds as if your dogs have inherited your dramatic nature 😂

Wearescrewed · 11/11/2025 22:27

Watch this and ask the question again.
My God, how have we got to the place where you think it’s ok to pour scorn on genuine fear and anguish..
Apart from anything else the ones you get now are so extreme, they cause distress for so many demographics. I personally always feel worse for the wildlife who don’t have any owners doing their best to support their animals. I live near to a rescue centre, if you heard the absolute agony and distress caused by constant fireworks night after night then I would hope you’d understand how selfish and inhumane your irritation and attitude. Quite disgusted by this post tbh.
watch this and tell me how you ‘prepare’ for the impact on this poor dog who has to suffer just so a bunch of privileged humans can have a few minutes of ‘fun’.
www.facebook.com/share/r/1Ckc6vc1g5/?mibextid=wwXIfr

gillefc82 · 11/11/2025 22:43

SunakIsTheGOAT · 11/11/2025 11:47

Ear muffs or something to cover their ears?

Unfortunately this picture isn’t me proudly capturing my almost 10 year old dog Fiona setting out in her new career as a superstar DJ (although if it’s good enough for Deadmau5 then I’m not entirely ruling it out!). Sadly, she’s wearing noise cancelling headphones / ear muffs, on top of a fabric snood, and with calming dog music being played loudly in the background, in an essential (but largely vain) attempt to partially muffle the noise of the fireworks going off nearby and prevent her from descending into a terrified, panicked, panting mess. On the worst nights when we know a planned event is taking place, we’ve now had to place her in kennels (which are thankfully in a more rural location) in the hope she is able to have a night without too much stress and anxiety. But we can’t always plan for the nights that will be the noisiest.

I have no problem with people celebrating Bonfire Night, but I do struggle to understand why it now needs to be stretched over a full 2-3 week period with explosions going off each night often with no warning, why there seems to be little to no enforcement of compliance with noise laws during this period (at least where I live with people regularly setting off bangers/airbombs well past the normal and extended cutoff times) and why some of the bombs need to be so loud.

There is a current petition to reduce the maximum decibel level from 120db to 90 which I think is more than sufficient. My personal preference would be for the universal adoption of ‘silent’ fireworks, but even a small compromise such as the noise reduction above would, I’m sure, make a difference for many and be gratefully welcomed…particularly by us responsible dog owners who have well trained, well behaved dogs whose shit we always pick up.

To be sick of people moaning about their pets and fireworks?
Catladywithoutacat · 11/11/2025 22:55

have empathy and my cat sleeps through them but some are terrified, a baby was recently mauled because a dog was so distressed over fireworks

NewHome2026 · 12/11/2025 03:20

Catladywithoutacat · 11/11/2025 22:55

have empathy and my cat sleeps through them but some are terrified, a baby was recently mauled because a dog was so distressed over fireworks

Wasn’t that just conjecture and speculation by a neighbour and actually it came out there weren’t any fireworks going off that night? Even if it were the case, that’s still a dog problem, not a fireworks problem

Ihatetomatoes · 12/11/2025 08:14

Catladywithoutacat · 11/11/2025 22:55

have empathy and my cat sleeps through them but some are terrified, a baby was recently mauled because a dog was so distressed over fireworks

Ah so not the dogs fault if it attacks a baby? Goodness, the reach to excuse dogs from bad behaviour! It hasn't been proven to be due to fireworks that the dog mauled a baby, so a definite reach. Personally I'd blame the dog if it mauled a baby rather than look for excuses to keep it around babies.

DontCallMeLenYouLittleBollix · 12/11/2025 08:33

Ihatetomatoes · 12/11/2025 08:14

Ah so not the dogs fault if it attacks a baby? Goodness, the reach to excuse dogs from bad behaviour! It hasn't been proven to be due to fireworks that the dog mauled a baby, so a definite reach. Personally I'd blame the dog if it mauled a baby rather than look for excuses to keep it around babies.

It's the owners rather than the dogs who are morally culpable for any attacks, but otherwise agree.

Ihatetomatoes · 12/11/2025 08:55

DontCallMeLenYouLittleBollix · 12/11/2025 08:33

It's the owners rather than the dogs who are morally culpable for any attacks, but otherwise agree.

Totally.

Kirbert2 · 12/11/2025 09:06

NewHome2026 · 12/11/2025 03:20

Wasn’t that just conjecture and speculation by a neighbour and actually it came out there weren’t any fireworks going off that night? Even if it were the case, that’s still a dog problem, not a fireworks problem

Yep. Just speculation.

She wasn't even in the house and had no idea what had actually happened.

Allisnotlost1 · 12/11/2025 17:03

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 06/11/2025 12:55

You can get cds of firework sounds, or on YouTube that you start off on a low volume and then increase to help dogs get used to the noise.

Hopefully you’ll become a bit more knowledgable about the complexities of animals as you get more experience.

BananaramaDefence · 13/11/2025 18:45

Pricelessadvice · 02/11/2025 23:03

Gosh, I’d better return that grammar school education and masters degree at once! I can’t understand the random, poorly articulated ramblings of a Mumsnet poster (who had to edit a bit on to her post when she realised it made no sense..!)

Oooh a gammer school education and an Masters degree. Can I raise you my grammar school education, BSc, MSc, PGCE, 2 other post graduate certificates, Prince 2 and my certificate of attendance at a bullshit work training course?

EmpressaurusKitty · 14/11/2025 06:05

There are a couple of government petitions going at the moment, one to limit fireworks to council-approved displays only & one to reduce the maximum noise level from 120 to 90db. They’ll come up if people Google government petitions fireworks.

mydogisthebest · 15/11/2025 17:05

DontCallMeLenYouLittleBollix · 11/11/2025 09:50

Love the way you acknowledge the most obvious downside in your post, other people's phobia, and decide it doesn't matter. You're not beating those hypocrite allegations!

As usual, the downsides you list about fireworks mostly apply to dogs too. They can cause distress to people and animals, are used as weapons, attack emergency services.

And as has been pointed out loads of times, dogs are a year round problem (ironically Bonfire Night is about the only respite for those who need to avoid them). Your dog is less exposed to fireworks than people who have dog related PTSD are to dogs in general society.

I would be willing to bet dogs don't cause distress to anywhere near the number of people that fireworks do. They are rarely used as weapons and how often do they attack emergency services?

I really cannot understand how something as dangerous as fireworks are still allowed to be sold to just anyone.

mydogisthebest · 15/11/2025 17:10

Kirbert2 · 11/11/2025 09:45

You mean the same local wildlife who are panicked when pets terrorise them or even in some cases, kill them?

My dog has never terrorised any wildlife and neither have any of my friends' dogs.

Never seen a dog responsible for a horse injury or death either.

Of course there are some irresponsible dog owners but there are far more irresponsible and selfish people using fireworks

Gettingbysomehow · 15/11/2025 17:10

SunakIsTheGOAT · 11/11/2025 15:19

At the end of the day as few pets getting scared off fireworks isn't a big deal to me.

Well then you are a selfish idiot several farm animals round my way died after being frightened by a large firework display.
You eouldnt be that smug if it was your kid that died of fright would you?
People like you make me sick.

DontCallMeLenYouLittleBollix · 15/11/2025 17:27

mydogisthebest · 15/11/2025 17:05

I would be willing to bet dogs don't cause distress to anywhere near the number of people that fireworks do. They are rarely used as weapons and how often do they attack emergency services?

I really cannot understand how something as dangerous as fireworks are still allowed to be sold to just anyone.

Mmm I expect you would be willing to bet that. It's clearly a belief you hold dear. The more important point, though, is whether you've got any evidence for it.

After all, you thinking something is neither here nor there really. You're colossally biased, have no expertise on the subject and hadn't realised until it was pointed out that your dog's mere presence is a potential trigger for anyone with a dog related phobia or PTSD. So, there are two choices for you here. Either prove the claim or it will be the meaningless wishful thinking of someone who doesn't like being told they're a hypocrite with no moral high ground.

It's interesting though, because you've not even attempted to factor in that dogs are a constant, 366/5 days of the year. Fireworks clearly aren't. And if the exact number of dog attacks on emergency services is important, you'll also need to take the same approach to the number of firework attacks too. Again, no hypocrisy or double standards.

Kirbert2 · 15/11/2025 17:59

mydogisthebest · 15/11/2025 17:10

My dog has never terrorised any wildlife and neither have any of my friends' dogs.

Never seen a dog responsible for a horse injury or death either.

Of course there are some irresponsible dog owners but there are far more irresponsible and selfish people using fireworks

But some dogs DO terrorise wildlife.

Plenty of irresponsible dog owners around. They allow them to terrify those who are scared of dogs, they allow them to jump up at people and that is year round, not just a certain time of year.

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