Husband going through bin for cat food

[mrsgumpy]

So I need some perspective on this. And yes I know it is ridiculous to be arguing about cat food.

My husband hates waste. He thinks I don't get all the cat food out of the sachet when I feed the cat. I try to squeeze all the cat food out but I find it disgusting so I am not going to use a teaspoon and scrap every last bit out of the sachet. I prefer to get as much as I can out by squeezing the sachet and then chucking it in the bin. However, every time I feed the cat, DH goes into the rubbish bin, finds the sachet and then scraps the rest of the cat food out. It drove me a bit crazy for a while and then I just decided to let him go for it. This morning it started to irritated me all over again to see DH rummaging in the bin and then trying to scrap out tiny morsels of cat food from the sachet.

I am the first up in the morning, which is why I feed the cat otherwise I would just leave him to it. Whenever he feeds the cat it is such a palaver that the poor cat is almost beside himself with waiting for something to eat. DH also likes to ration the cat's food to avoid waste so he eeks out the cat food in small portions over the course of the day, which means we have a constantly meowing cat around the house. Drives me crazy.

Ok, so what do you think? Am I being unreasonable? Should I just let DH rummage through the bin for cat food and not care about it?

@mrsgumpy I don't know how you're dealing with this, I'd have lost my temper long ago - and I'm generally very placid & conflict-avoidant.

He's lucky you don't have my Dcat. If she's not fed at the right time snd in the correct quantity (not too little), she bolts her food and then vomits it all up somewhere inconvenient to clean.

We ended up switching to frozen deliveries of food. The pouch size is determined by her weight, so we know it's the right amount. She’d always had supermarket food, but kept being sick (no underlying health issues according to the vet). We eventually found a brand that mostly worked for her (puking reduced by about 40%), but all the local supermarkets had supply problems with it. The brand we are with now has proved reliable, and she doesn't throw up any more unless her devoted slaves cock up on the timing. If the kids delay her meal I always point out her stomach is way smaller than theirs, so she gets fed first. I don't expect it to be eaten immediately, she grazes, but it's all gone before her next meal.

I'd be so tempted to serve your husband half his meals and put the rest in the fridge quoting his own reasons back at him, but it would no doubt cause more problems for you.

If he isn't an absolute wonder in every other respect (actually even if he is) I'd be considering divorce in your situation.

It is not wasting cat food, it is ensuring the poor cat has had enough to eat

I'd really love to know how you're getting on OP and your lovely cat too 😊

Thanks for asking. I have taken over feeding the cat and he is much happier (as am I).

Thanks everyone for your advice and input. Was really helpful.

That's not an unreasonable attitude, if he's going to worry that much about each morsel then he can feed the cat himself. 😄

Is he mentally unwell?

Use tins. So much easier, plus they are recyclable

An average sized cat would need 3 sachets a day of 85g cat food or 2 sachets of 100g and a bit of kibble

If I gave our cats that much, they'd be huge. They get half of 85g or 70g morning and evening and a bowl of Hills Science kibble between them - not a huge serving.

They are 4.2 and 4.8 kg and the vet lightly growls about their weight every time. They are naturally quote small cats.

I would dump him on the grounds of underfeeding/neglecting the needs of the poor cat.

Unlikely the cat will eat it

Wow my small female cat eats a small tin morning and evening and a handful of kibble for lunch. My big male cat has a tin and a pouch morning and evening and sometimes eats a bit of kibble for lunch. At weekends I cook them a chicken breast between them.

God mine are same weight and get 1.5 pouches twice a day each as well as free access to nuts vet says nothing about their weight they are in very good health
one supplements her food too with numerous rabbits and mice every week 🙈

Those cat food sachets are quite small portions. Please tell me your poor cat doesn’t have to exist on one of those a day, as that is not enough. Get the vet to talk to your DH and tell him how much food a cat needs.