Husband going through bin for cat food

[mrsgumpy]

So I need some perspective on this. And yes I know it is ridiculous to be arguing about cat food.

My husband hates waste. He thinks I don't get all the cat food out of the sachet when I feed the cat. I try to squeeze all the cat food out but I find it disgusting so I am not going to use a teaspoon and scrap every last bit out of the sachet. I prefer to get as much as I can out by squeezing the sachet and then chucking it in the bin. However, every time I feed the cat, DH goes into the rubbish bin, finds the sachet and then scraps the rest of the cat food out. It drove me a bit crazy for a while and then I just decided to let him go for it. This morning it started to irritated me all over again to see DH rummaging in the bin and then trying to scrap out tiny morsels of cat food from the sachet.

I am the first up in the morning, which is why I feed the cat otherwise I would just leave him to it. Whenever he feeds the cat it is such a palaver that the poor cat is almost beside himself with waiting for something to eat. DH also likes to ration the cat's food to avoid waste so he eeks out the cat food in small portions over the course of the day, which means we have a constantly meowing cat around the house. Drives me crazy.

Ok, so what do you think? Am I being unreasonable? Should I just let DH rummage through the bin for cat food and not care about it?

Our vet was fine with our feeding practices, having queried her diet and fluid intake periodically. Her health certainly did not suffer.

I would suggest that each cat be similarly monitored by its vet.

@Catwalking our cat lived happily for 18 years on only (good quality) dry food

Enough with the navel-gazing about the flipping remnants left in pouches.

You need to make it a priority to find a decent, complete dry food that your cat will actually eat. And then supplement it with a, hopefully, decent pouch or tin of wet cat food a day.

Otherwise, neither of you should be responsible for a cat. You are both failing it.

Read what you’ve written again OP…. You are an abused wife, you just don’t realise yet.

Damn right he's not. He's not fit to have a wife either!

Honestly, the cat is probably the best treated in this scenario with plentiful biscuits and two sachets a day. He generally attitude is problematic.

So I have been making sure that the cat gets a full sachet in the morning, and one in the evening, and biscuits throughout the day. But this morning I slept in and when I woke up the cat was meowing. DH had fed the cat but only half a sachet. I said could we give the cat a full one. So DH went back to give cat more food. The cat was soon out in the kitchen again so I went to check his food and DH had only given the cat another 1/4 and then left the other 1/4 for later. So the cat got 3/4 in total. I said again that the cat needed a full sachet and then husband started getting angry with me about not wanting waste and that food gets left in the bowl. But there was nothing left in the bowl. Instead a silly 1/4 amount still left in the sachet for later. It is insanity. We ended up arguing about it. Again.

It feels so ridiculous to write all this. I am a professional woman arguing repeatedly with her DH about a cat. I don't know why we cannot just give the cat a full sachet of food in the morning.

Morning, sorry to hear you’re upset, rightly so btw. I’m most concerned about your use of “I asked”

You don’t need to ask permission to feed your own cat. Please remember that. You’re living on eggshells. X

I feel like he is doing an experiment trying to find the right balance of the minimum the cat can live on.

In ASDA, a box of 40 sachets of their own Tiger wet food sachets is £7.98. That is 0.1995 pence so we will round it up to 20p.

20p !!! thus half a sachet is 10p, a quarter of a sachet is 5p

You have much bigger problems than squabbling over 5p...

and from what you have said about Costco or wherever value dried cat food I don't imagine the cat is on anything more expensive that ASDA's Tiger.

Poor cat !

Frankly I would purchase the cat food.
Then, stick a large label on the box that, “this cat food belongs to me”.
Put out food for cat as & when needed in, the manner I preferred.
I might even leave a sign beside the cat food bowl to warn that dh to keep off.

Let that dh muck about with bins, pouch remains, spoons & whatever, to his hearts content.

Oh FFS. There’s 85g in a sachet of cat food so he’s basically keeping two teaspoons back? He’s a fuckwit.

he has issues. Poor cat. Feed the cat when husband iS it around so at least he/she gets one pouch with no stress, and gets over the manic hunger waiting for food.
but this is is controlling behaviour too. He clearly issues that are actually not to do with the cat food as he wants control. If you don’t have the cat he will move onto something else to control.

Yup, it is a tiny amount. He rations it out in small doses.

Yes, I am realising all this is true. I am feeding the cat what I want to but I find when he is around in the house I feel anxious about it - like I am going to get "busted" wasting cat food.

Would you like to borrow my cat? He goes insane and attacks if he’s not fed the right food at the right time to his own schedule
A few beatings and your husband might learn his lesson…
(but in seriousness, what a nobhead, I’m sorry you and cat are dealing with this).

He is abusive and controlling and I suspect this is the tip of the iceberg. The pieces of soap from his grannies house is absolutely disgusting but he thinks this is normal behaviour. He's never going to change.

What a miserable cruel bastard he is. Poor cat.

Switch to Katkin or Untamed or Marro to really piss him off.

It feels so ridiculous to write all this. I am a professional woman arguing repeatedly with her DH about a cat. I don't know why we cannot just give the cat a full sachet of food in the morning

Yes, @mrsgumpy , it IS ridiculous. So don't 'ask him if we can feed the cat more'. You tell him that starving your cat is animal cruelty and you WILL be feeding him/her properly.

I can only imagine that if you gave him half a frozen ready meal ( which we all know wouldn't sate anybodies hunger) and told him not to be wasteful, the rest is for later and each spoonful must be begged for individually...we would be looking a very angry reaction from him?

For heavens sake Mrs G. Woman Up and feed that poor cat properly and whilst you are at it, kick that miserable, tight, controlling b hard up his backside. This is totally ridiculous and time to seriously consider if you can stand this sort of behaviour for life.

Just adding to my prev post. He could be allowed to fill up on cheap cream crackers if he didn't want to beg. But no water!

Why are you "asking" him anything? Just take the sachet out of his hands if necessary or open a fresh one and feed the cat what he needs. If DH kicks off just say I'm not arguing with you about this so you can kick off to the empty air for all I care.

Buy a fresh cat food subscription that costs a lot of money. I swear, I would be spiteful. Can you cook a whole chicken and break it up and give the cat that as well?