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Instagrammer reminding followers to change bedding on last day of month 🤢

268 replies

Travelfairy · 02/11/2025 12:45

This page I follow, she said she always changes her bedding on the last day of the month and reminded her followers to do the same....
I commented does she only change them once a month and she said yes unless they need before that.

I thought this was completely gross!!! I change mine once a week. Absolute max maybe 9 days if particularly busy etc

YABU- once a month is fine
YANBU - thats gross

OP posts:
dizzydizzydizzy · 02/11/2025 15:54

Fortnightly. I always have a shower before bed.

KvotheTheBloodless · 02/11/2025 15:57

Meh. I don't care what a random woman does, and don't know why you do.

Ours are changed fortnightly, which I'm aware some think is grubby, but I give zero shits. The sheets don't smell, or look stained, we all wear pyjamas to bed.

BlindSpotForCats · 02/11/2025 16:02

I have noticed that the bedding seems less grimy since I started showering before bed. I used to do a full day in London, home around 10 pm, eating dinner on my train commute and crawl into bed exhausted. I can't imagine that now. The thought of bringing the day's dust and dirt and sweat into bed with me - just feels a bit grim.

(Not to start a 'how often do you shower' thread though).

latetothefisting · 02/11/2025 16:03

regardless of the bedding changing - YABU for being so judgy and mean about something that doesn't concern you in the slightest. Fine to change yours more often if you want, not nice to call other people gross.

Some people might struggle to change, wash and dry full loads of bedding frequently. If they wash themselves and change pjs how dirty is the bedding really going to get over an extra 2 weeks? You don't have to sleep in it, so who cares?

SaySomethingMan · 02/11/2025 16:04

How often do you wash yourself that you need to change your bedding once a week?! How sweaty/smelly are you?

MagpiesAreBastards · 02/11/2025 16:05

Are you sharing her bed? No. None of your business.

I change mine more often than that, less often than you. I appear to have survived so far.

Hobnobswantshernameback · 02/11/2025 16:06

7 pages of bollocks and no sign of the op.....

BrightYellowDaffodil · 02/11/2025 16:06

ChessieFL · 02/11/2025 12:51

I get up at 2am to change mine. Anything more than 3-4 hours without changing it is disgusting.

I have multiple sheets one on top of the other so I can wake hourly and strip another layer off. If you're careful you can whip the sheet out from underneath your sleeping partner like the table cloth trick. Takes practice mind, and there were all those trips to A&E until I perfected it.

Still, what price cleanliness, eh?

BlindSpotForCats · 02/11/2025 16:07

SaySomethingMan · 02/11/2025 16:04

How often do you wash yourself that you need to change your bedding once a week?! How sweaty/smelly are you?

How to tell me you are not menopausal without telling me you are not menopausal.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 02/11/2025 16:07

I changed mine weekly when there was a bloke in my bed. Now it's just me the sheets stay fresh for longer.

Delphiniumandlupins · 02/11/2025 16:10

If you sleep alone, in a double bed, do you extend your bedding use by alternating sides of the bed? When I have a double bed to myself I sleep on one side, rather than the middle.

ILoveHolidaysAbroad · 02/11/2025 16:13

I knew a guy who would only use a bath towel once, and then....throw it away! I cannot imagine how much money he spent on towels. Clearly a mental disorder.

ILoveHolidaysAbroad · 02/11/2025 16:14

BrightYellowDaffodil · 02/11/2025 16:06

I have multiple sheets one on top of the other so I can wake hourly and strip another layer off. If you're careful you can whip the sheet out from underneath your sleeping partner like the table cloth trick. Takes practice mind, and there were all those trips to A&E until I perfected it.

Still, what price cleanliness, eh?

You win the thread! 😅

WeCouldBeNiceToEachOther · 02/11/2025 16:19

SaySomethingMan · 02/11/2025 16:04

How often do you wash yourself that you need to change your bedding once a week?! How sweaty/smelly are you?

It’s basic hygiene! Just like you should be showering every day.

SaySomethingMan · 02/11/2025 16:20

BlindSpotForCats · 02/11/2025 16:07

How to tell me you are not menopausal without telling me you are not menopausal.

You’re right. I’m not but I saw my mum go through it and she definitely didn’t need to change her sheets once a week.

Is it ´normal’ for menopausal women to need to change their sheets once a week week due to sweating? I know it’s different everyone but is it that bad for some?

PigletIsWorried · 02/11/2025 16:20

Competitive hygiene is boring. Do what suits you, don't look down your nose at people who do things differently. You'll be a happier person for keeping your nose out of other people's sheets.

CinnamonJellyBeans · 02/11/2025 16:25

I never get into bed unless I'm showered and change the bedding once a fortnight. Would do it more often if electricity was cheaper. If the weather's hot, once a week in summer, as I can dry it for free.

Some people must have stinky bedrooms.

dailyconniptions · 02/11/2025 16:26

Fortnightly for me is absolutely fine, although I do the pillow cases weekly. I don't sweat and have clean pyjamas on.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 02/11/2025 16:29

Ilovepastafortea · 02/11/2025 13:12

One of the great pleasures of my childhood (I was born in 1962) was the Sunday night bath followed by clean PJs, drinking Bournvita, Ovaltine or Horlicks in front of 'The Onedin Line', 'Poldark' or whatever the 7:30pm Sunday evening series was that night, and getting into a lovely clean fresh bed.

Of course, my mother (like most mothers back in the day) had a twin tub washing machine, tumble driers were an expensive luxury so everything was dried outside so usually smelled of the fresh air-unless the weather was particularly bad when the house looked like the set for Widow Twanky's Chinese Laundry with items spread on airers, over the banister, on hangers on doors, picture rails, everywhere in fact - then they smelled of the woodsmoke from the open fires used to heat the house.

I once had a neighbour who put her children into clean PJs & bed every night. I felt that, not only was she making work for herself, but depriving her children of that lovely warm, clean, cosiness of a fresh clean bed as their bed was always a clean fresh bed.

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My childhood memories too ❤️ Although we didn’t have open fires past when I was about 5.

Butchyrestingface · 02/11/2025 16:30

I'm asthmatic so change mine every 2 weeks. If it wasn't for that, I'd be more of the instagrammer's persuasion.

usedtobeaylis · 02/11/2025 16:34

I wouldn't wait til the end of the month but I don't care when some other person does it, I'm not not sleeping in their bed. I normally change the sheets every 10-14 days unless I think they need it beforehand. I do tend to change them more frequently in the summer just because I might be a bit hotter overnight and also because you can get them washed and air dried and put away in the space of a couple of hours. Overall, I've never noticed any ill effects or benefits or any other impact derived from how often I do or don't change my sheets.

Mansionscoldandgrey · 02/11/2025 16:34

I think you're being really insensitive talking about your fancy bedlinen.
I use newspaper, and if I can only get hold of The Daily Mail, I have nightmares.

AsAliveAsYouNeedMeToBe · 02/11/2025 16:43

I sleep standing up, like a horse. Standing on stilts, so my feet wouldn't touch the ground, and change the stilts daily. Anything else is minging, filthy, dirty, ewww, disgusting, gross.

GarlicBreadStan · 02/11/2025 16:45

AsAliveAsYouNeedMeToBe · 02/11/2025 16:43

I sleep standing up, like a horse. Standing on stilts, so my feet wouldn't touch the ground, and change the stilts daily. Anything else is minging, filthy, dirty, ewww, disgusting, gross.

😆😆😆

CoffeeCantata · 02/11/2025 16:51

Don’t people realise how much skin they shed? You’d be able to see it in a sunbeam and you might be horrified. It’s not about sweating or not - it’s about the millions of sloughed-off old skin scales lurking in the bedding.

Ugh. The thought of not changing it for a month. I bet these people’s houses stink. When you go into some houses there’s just a sour, musty smell and it’s usually dirty clothes or rancid bedding.

I’d give someone like that a swerve.