To be upset that my partner 'almost pulled'

[FierceForester90]

I have been in a relationship wuth a guy for just over 2 years. Its not the easiest as we are long distance and we are both going through divorces while trying to sell our houses.
On Friday night he went out with friends, he messaged yesterday morning to say he had been out until 5am. I jokingly asked if he had pulled and his response was:
'No but I almost did, got dancing with a very attractive lady. I think she would have kissed me had I let her but I thought better of it as my mates were there. Didn't even get her number'
AIBU to feel upset by this? I asked if that was the only reason and he then said 'OK no it wasn't' but by that point I was quite angry. I said that had he kissed her and swapped numbers that would have showed the intention to form a connection and his only response was 'but I didn't do it did I'.
I don't understand if he just worded the message badly but he seems angry at me for being upset about it. Am I being unreasonable? Its made me feel quite hurt and disrespected.

That's how an ND brain works for a lot of people I'm afraid.
They (we) can be portrayed as still in the younger years in life i.e., feeling as though you're in trouble for something/the telling off.

As someone who is ND, I wouldn't blame you for walking away if you feel like this relationship isn't for you, ND or not

It's just sad that another ND / ADHD person loses out because if their ND / ADHD

This sadly happens a lot, if there is an issue and I try to raise it then he thinks I am telling him off and is dismissive. I am also ND with ADHD however mine means I have quite bad RSD (rejection sensitive disorder) its probably not the nest 2 things to combine....

YABVU
You asked him a truly stupid question “did you pull?”, you probably were looking for reassurance and trying to play it cool girl and it backfired on you.
Because this man has been honest with you. He went out, a lady tried, he declined.
He has done nothing wrong, has replied to your banter at the level YOU set, I understand why he is angry.
If you get insecure because he goes out and you can’t own it, and you ask for black when you actually want white, it’s on you, sorry.

Never heard of RSD ..
I’d say all humans have that ..
Who likes rejection !!!!!

Wow 🚩🚩🚩
He sounds very immature and disrespectful.
Then he tries to gaslight you when you explain why you're upset!?
Cut your losses and be done.