to wonder why people spend so long titting about with flowers and ribbons when they are making a lifetime commitment to another human being?

[muddypuddle]

I probably am, but I am sick to the back teeth of listening to all the blather in my office about canapes and favours and almonds and chair back floral arrangements and ribbons and lighting and nothing about the woman in questions' husband to be. Is it really mainly about the shopping?

Swedes, does she actually love the guy? I don't care what my oh looks like, as long as he at least turns up.

I don't think she does. All she ever does is complain about him. It's very depressing and difficult.

Hey, the perfect song: what's love got to do with it?

Hullygully -

hullygully at 20:18:23 should be nominated "best post of the month"

pmsl at albatrosses

oh hullygully, you really have made me smile on this thread...

ahhh albatrosses.

I think you will find that if you are male that there is no titting about with flowers they just appear!!!

't have to do a bloody thing- the wedding fairies come and make everything happen. oh and somewhere along the line your DW2B has a nervous breakdown

that should read: males don't have to

I know I loved the wedding faries!!

lol

I totally agree, it's got way silly.

I got married last month with 14 close family members. The whole day was arranged in 10 weeks and I was the same size I was the day DH and I met, he asked a size 16 to marry him so why would he want to marry a size 8!

I will admit it wasn't the cheapest of days but we spent money on things important to us - beautiful venue, good food (DH had a cheeseburger, albeit a posh Welsh Black one, as that is his favourite meal) and a really good photographer.

The biggest hit of the day was actually the favours (necklaces and cufflinks) that my mum made for us for a 5th of the price they'd cost to buy.

I think I was more of a thriftzilla than a bridezilla!
Dress,corset veil and shoes made by me
fairy cakes, made by mum
invites/OOS made by me
table settings made by me
table cloths made by mum from bedsheets
flowers for church and bridal party made by me
Photos by everyone
catering by a small local firm in our village hall
DJ an old drinking buddy and mum's neighbour for mate's rates
we even had a singer -my cousins stepdaughter is a professional, was free!
total cost, 3200 for a church wedding with 80 guests and an additional 100 at night

muddypuddle want to come round to mine for a bottle or 4 of wine? You sound like my kind of woman

I HATE wedding fuss with a passion

I have a theory that for a lot of women the husband to be is probably the one thing that is lacking in the perfection that is their wedding. I wonder if they would like to substitute him for a male model type for the day or in fact even longer.

I did actually ask my sister this on her wedding day and she laughed a lot but didnt actually reply .

I really do think some people have got money to burn though - I've been looking for a second-hand wedding dress and keep coming across ads on the net where people have bought a dress and not worn it, cos they then found another one they liked better. The best one was a woman who had been seen in her 'perfect' dress by the groom, so couldn't possibly wear it!!! So that'll be several hundred squids down the drain then, oh well, just take it off the £3K flower budget

I couldn't stand over a year of planning! We had 10 or 11 weeks and had a lovely white, church wedding. There were lots of family and friends and lots of children and it didn't cost a fortune.

My friend gets married August, and started planning it at the end of 06.

I think if they can afford to faff and have lots of expensive bits and bobs then really it is up to them.

Personally, I think the amount they have spent on the wedding is obscene and whilst I would like a nice wedding (should i ever get married), I would not want to spend such a large amount of money, I just do not see the point at all.

Hey- me and my parnter are going to get married in a commune down in Dorset. No, but seriously. There will be a bonfire at the end.

Yes, but will you burn the flowers??

I got married last week, abroad. It was great. I didn't worry about the little things to be honest, that's not what it's all about.

My nana told me that there were two types of women who got married - those who wanted to be Brides and those who wanted to WIVES.

I think I fall into the latter

YANBU - I had to wait for 10 minutes at the dentist's surgery the other day with only one receptionist dealing with a large queue whilst the other wittered on the phone about jewellery, items for the hen night had the person on the other end got the things she had asked for. She then said she would go to the shops in her lunch hour,if these discussions are affecting work in your office to this extent you are totally reasonable.