to wonder why people spend so long titting about with flowers and ribbons when they are making a lifetime commitment to another human being?

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I probably am, but I am sick to the back teeth of listening to all the blather in my office about canapes and favours and almonds and chair back floral arrangements and ribbons and lighting and nothing about the woman in questions' husband to be. Is it really mainly about the shopping?

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I agree wholeheartedly on the 'having nice photos not looking like dog's dinner' issue.

SOrry that should be here

JoshandJamie -

I couldn't be arsed with flowers at my wedding. MIL was horrified and sorted out what she wanted. I didn't care, she was delighted, although slightly miffed when I drew the line at flowers at the reception.

I'm with Fufulina, it's horses for courses and if you would rather spend 20K on your wedding than your mortgage then it's up to you and I don't think is any reflection on the state of the couple.

pmsl at this thread title
And at the person whose wedding was like organising a military invasion. I sometimes think we should put Bridezillas in charge of Iraq.

Well, everyone knows I have a penchant for elopement .

I'm trying to organise my wedding on a VERY tight budget and finding it quite hard. I'm not bothered about flowers, favours or any of that nonsense either mind - just a ceremony and a meal is expensive enough. I too have presbyterian tendencies and wonder whether we should just put the money towards the mortgage... yes, romance is dead but let's face it, it's bollocks anyway.

I want a bbq and fairy lights, df wants a banquet and a firework display .. we're fucked.

YANBU. I wonder the same thing all the time. Each to their own but I think the emphasis has swung far too far on material fripperies.

Much to my mil's distress, I couldn't get very worked up about the dress (found one that fitted and looked reasonably OK) and I took trouble over choice of church and priest, and we wanted to make sure our guests were comfortable and had decent food, beyond that, couldn't really get worked up about it tbh. As long as dh-to-be and I were present plus respective families and the deed was done and legal - I was happy!

would have secretly liked some fireworks though and a friend of ours did have a spectacularly good fish and chip van arrive just prior to evening part of reception which was fab ....

I had a friend who had a major hissy fit because the shade of red on the table decorations was different to the shade they had used on the invitations. As if any sad fucker one would be comparing

madness

my wedding was small, my dress was £80 from debanhams, my uncle's friend played the steel drums for us, we had lunch for 15 people, then all went swimming in the sea.

(we are divorcing now though [sad)

debenhams

"3k on flowers? I hope they were really very pretty indeed"

muddy, they were gorgeous!!

PS I would note I didn't pay for the wedding my poor dad did. I would definintely have paid the £30k off the mortgage. Though did shell out for a rather nice honeymoon in Hawaii

I'm getting married in 3 weeks time and I have to say that we have spent a lot of time and thought on what will be our special day. When he asked when I wanted to marry, the date came straight away and when I said if we had a theme could it be loseley based around gold and butterflies- that's what we're getting.
That said, to us our wedding day is about having friends and family with us as we commit to each other and as many are coming from Ireland and England making it special for them as well is very important to us. I think many people tend to forget that that's what marriage is- a commitment to each other.
I only displayed Bridezilla tendencies twice- once at my mum and once at my sister, neither of whom liked the colour scheme.

Ah, there's plenty of time for more Bridezilla moments! A whole three weeks

It's the most important day in a girl's life and money should be no object. It's the one day when she gets to be a special princess before the rest of her life is absolute shit as an unpaid sock-picker-upper, taxi service, cleaner, cook etc etc and probably in full-time work too. So don't be cynical about the Day.

LOL hullygully

That's what's so sad about the bridezilla stuff - it really is compensation for a shit life isn't it? The idea that we should all aspire to be a princess just for one day - how fucking tragic. I aspire to be a revolutionary with a gun killing the effing princesses. Or at least I do, whenever I think too deeply about the wedding industry.

And then there's Lady Di - an inspiration to us all wedding-wise. The grander the wedding, the crappier the life.

lifelong commitmewnt sounds dull and scary

flowers and ribbons sounds fun and frivilous

God, I've no desire to be a princess. All I wanted was a dress that made me look like I had a little bit of a waist, prove to myself that I can look alright if I can bother to make the effort and have evidence to prove it! lol
Well we have a fun weekend- not. finalising details completely with nearly everyone. I hate speaking to people on the phone.

me and DH2B are still disagreeing over the music for the first dance.

What about Lady in Red? But you'll have to voiceover the red bit if you're not in red.

I've always hated that song- too cheesy. ANd I'm in ivory.