Awful neighbours or me? Finally moving

[finallymoving22]

Have lived in my HA house for a little over a year now.
Nothing but nuisance of the children, I'm talking about playing out at 6:30am, shouting and screaming waking my kids up.

Trespassing on my driveway, throwing things at my car, chucking mud at my house, footballs being kicked at my windows, the list is endless.

I brought planters and fencing to block it all of and that caused the parents of these kids to take issue with me and stopped talking to me.

I spoke to the council who were pretty useless and advised me they couldn't do an "arranged move" as "these issues court occur anywhere".

The final straw came when one of my neighbours made me aware that she was watching me and who visits me on her Ring door bell and as I have previously been a victim of DV and stalking this started of some anxiety issues for me as she would constantly watch and then proceed in asking intrusive questions after.

Me and OH have saved some money during the last 10 months this has been occurring and family will also chip in when we finally leave here December before Xmas and give the home up.

There is a Facebook and WhatsApp group chat and I have never been invited to join either (older lady I am friendly with told me about it).

I was putting up Halloween decorations yesterday and my NDN came out and asked me "if everything was OK as she had seen a HA rep attend the property on Thursday and it looked very formal" (was our HA officer who had come to inspect the property before giving our new landlord a reference).

I basically told her to mind her own business and to never question my visitors again and she walked off.

I have pretty much bene ostracised here just for putting up a fence and not allowing kids to damage my car etc, I have never been rude or nasty and I just feel awful like I am the problem here.

I used to take in this neighbours parcels and bins whilst she was at work and she created a WhatsApp group and didn't even invite me, despite us never having issues but she sided with the other parents here.

AIBU to feel like this?

The final straw came when one of my neighbours made me aware that she was watching me and who visits me on her Ring door bell

you take in her parcels? Was she accusing you of theft?

Presumably you know you’re not being unreasonable as unable as the council is moving you

There is a Facebook and WhatsApp group chat and I have never been invited to join either (older lady I am friendly with told me about it)

who is on the chat?

Why do imagine it’s you??

No she would ask me to accept her parcels whilst she was at work and then pick them up.

Everyone was invited to join the Facebook and WhatsApp groups.
A missing dog here ended up at my front door a few months back and everyone was out trying to work out who it belonged to as it was an elderly dog and that's when I was made aware of the groups etc

From your OP, it doesn't sound like you.

Some people don't understand boundaries, figuratively and literally. They then don't instill it in their children.

Good luck with the move, I hope it brings you some peace.

Who is “everyone ”

neighbours?

and she was the admin with Iinvitation only rights?

In one context was she telling you that she spies on you?

There are 4 streets on this estate and every neighbour was invited apart from me.

She is the sole admin of the groups

@Flameup yes pretty much.

Don't give her any more thought. Youre leaving. End of story.

Goodness she sounds very community minded! Dozens must have been invited and managing it must be a nightmare.

When you heard, did you ask to be added?

Essentially…. This

No I wasn't asked ask to join even after I heard about it.
Yes she is very over bearing and in everyone's business and everyone here knows her.

Oh for goodness sake you’re moving because you haven’t been added to social media groups that your neighbour admins.

She doesn’t sound too hostile as she struck up a conversation with you. You rebuked her.

Probably best that you leave as it sounds like the problem is you

That is not what I asked

I asked if when you heard about the group, you asked to join

There is more to this and I suspect in everyone’s interests you are moving.

how long until you do?

OP you are being dramatic. How can you possibly know that every single house except yours got invited?

I highly doubt that's the case. More likely one person add everyone they know, they invite the ones they know etc. Ultimately no-one thought to add you - either because you aren't friends or they don't think you would want to join.

The issues from your perspective sound like badly behaved kids & bad parenting. However, there may be another perspective. Is it really all the time these kids are out playing at 6.30am? Even in winter when it's dark? Do you think you might be thinking of a few incidents and ruminating on them?

Just playing devils advocate for you.

Ultimately it doesn't matter as you are moving. Try not to worry about it and look forward to your new home ❤️

Team Neighbour here

She sounds very community minded
and the OP sounds petty
you’re moving op . Focus on your new place

Anyone else get perfect neighbour vibes....?

Just move and stop ruminating over it. There's a whole world out there so you're bound to find somewhere suitable for your needs.

@FlameupSorry misread that, yes I did ask to join the groups and gave her my details and she never added me, this was back in August.

In relation to the kids, it really is that bad. I have young kids myself and so I am aware that kids are noisy but these are really loud, used to shout running across my living room window every day etc.

I'm not sure how I come across as petty?
I used to take in parcels for neighbours
Collect bins.

I am not loud and I am respectful to neighbours and don't bother anyone.

She sounds community minded as she is a nosy woman who is always watching everyone on her Ring door and then proceeds in questioning people
about their visitors, I am not sure in what context I come across as petty.

Ring doorbell won't show her "everyone" on four streets...

Haven’t you posted this multiple times now in slightly different ways?

I'm a little surprised you claim never to have been rude when you've just been telling us how you told a neighbour to mind her own business.

You do sound a bit highly strung OP. I also doubt the kids were playing out at half six every day.
Anyway you’re moving now so don’t stress over it.