Awful neighbours or me? Finally moving

[finallymoving22]

Have lived in my HA house for a little over a year now.
Nothing but nuisance of the children, I'm talking about playing out at 6:30am, shouting and screaming waking my kids up.

Trespassing on my driveway, throwing things at my car, chucking mud at my house, footballs being kicked at my windows, the list is endless.

I brought planters and fencing to block it all of and that caused the parents of these kids to take issue with me and stopped talking to me.

I spoke to the council who were pretty useless and advised me they couldn't do an "arranged move" as "these issues court occur anywhere".

The final straw came when one of my neighbours made me aware that she was watching me and who visits me on her Ring door bell and as I have previously been a victim of DV and stalking this started of some anxiety issues for me as she would constantly watch and then proceed in asking intrusive questions after.

Me and OH have saved some money during the last 10 months this has been occurring and family will also chip in when we finally leave here December before Xmas and give the home up.

There is a Facebook and WhatsApp group chat and I have never been invited to join either (older lady I am friendly with told me about it).

I was putting up Halloween decorations yesterday and my NDN came out and asked me "if everything was OK as she had seen a HA rep attend the property on Thursday and it looked very formal" (was our HA officer who had come to inspect the property before giving our new landlord a reference).

I basically told her to mind her own business and to never question my visitors again and she walked off.

I have pretty much bene ostracised here just for putting up a fence and not allowing kids to damage my car etc, I have never been rude or nasty and I just feel awful like I am the problem here.

I used to take in this neighbours parcels and bins whilst she was at work and she created a WhatsApp group and didn't even invite me, despite us never having issues but she sided with the other parents here.

AIBU to feel like this?

People dont really understand unless they live next to a feral family however 13years ago I left a dv relationship moved and my neighbour complained constantly she said my bin was overflowing attracting rats , I sent pictures of said bin and the fact between us 6 cats were there ! She posted on a local group my son was left screaming in bed on a night when we co slept the final straw was her reporting my mams staffy as a pit bull when he was in every way shape and frm the definition of a staffy I bred him myself 🙄 i left after less than a year .

Op I'm in your position I have a housing association new build well now 4 years old lived here since it was built and neighbours are neighbours from hell I literally don't talk to them never have suffer ptsd myself due to previous dv and still having issues now literally graffiti sprayed on my wall recently and contacted police who said no evidence no witness tough shit basically giving up my house in December to leave the hell and people will say oh you going private it wont be cheap lol my housing association is £850 a month I'm not in a city or major town either

if you’re moving to private, the HA doesn’t view your reasons for the move as such that they will authorise and support a move to another HA property presumably?

@Phoenixfire1988sorry you went through that, it sounds like you had neighbours from hell!

@GoldfoxwifeMy rent is similar to yours as well and I live in a small town.
Having bad neighbours can really affect your quality of life.

I leave the house and hope that I don't bump into her or her crew.

This is the 1st HA property that I lived in and it's a very different experience from when we privately rented.

Still at it? Tedious.

Is that not normal neighbourly conversation?

It's difficult to get a managed move unless the ASB involves repeated police reports.

I haven't read the whole thread but the Ring doorbell recording you could be a breach of GDPR or harassment. There's some useful information on this page:
https://www.medwayadvice.org.uk/news/smart-doorbells-cctv-and-tenant-rights

@oviraptor21- Thank you for sharing that, I will have a look.

Update:
When I was collecting the bin in this morning her other neighbour was getting hers and approached me and gestured to talk away from said neighbours door/ring door bell and thanked me for the treats I gave her kids on Halloween.

She also asked if I was OK and she mentioned that she was aware of the tension between me and said neighbour and mentioned her own issues with her.

Exactly the same as me, she said she thought she was OK at first, but came to find her nosy, over bearing, and a stirrer who gossips about everyone.

I didn't say much as I don't want to dragged into anyone else's drama, but it made me feel better knowing it wasn't just me who felt this way.

I never mentioned that we were moving though.

I wish you every happiness in your new home.

That really does prove you are not the only one that thinks this neighbour is a complete pain and pest. I think you were wise to not get caught up in it or say why you were moving. I wish you all the best in your new home OP it will be a weight off your shoulders.

I don’t find this normal conversation - but I do think a lot of people have very different boundaries. You might share this as you get to know someone but this woman is asking for specific details - the reason they moved there? What actual company she works for? Why her husband is away? Why is it any of her business? None of the info is necessary for her to know, she’s already answered her own questions pretty much anyway & according to OP she uses it as information to gossip about her behind her back. I think we’ve all been on the receiving end of nosy busy body’s who pump you for information that doesn’t feel conversational & more an information finding exercise for them.

@EvelynBeatricethank you x

@DuckbilledSplatterPuff Yes I didn't want to add more fuel to the fire and more reasons for gossip and "he said, she said", and thank you x

@Otterdrunk- These are my thoughts exactly, it was never just a causal friendly conversation. It always felt like an information finding exercise for them.
I am glad people are becoming aware of how she really is -an interfering nosey busy body always in people's business and talking about them.

How long until you move ?

Ah, the woman in your street sounds a bit like an elderly woman who lives opposite my parents. Her husband used to be a local councillor, and died a few years ago now. She has cameras on her own property overlooking a proportion of the road - nothing wrong in that - other than she uses the footage to ask intrusive questions to other neighbours, including my parents. It's almost as if she thinks she's special because her husband was a councillor (by all accounts not a very good one from what I've heard!) and she's 'Queen Bee' of the road, poking her nose into other people's business. We had a woman with 3 children living in a rented house that backed onto ours - her youngest would be outside shouting/screaming at 6.30 am whilst in the garden and she'd be telling her mates on loudspeaker on her phone, the latest drama in her life (of which there was a lot!) whilst sat in the garden. The child isn't SEN, he's noisy because Mum spends all her time glued to her phone, whilst chain smoking, and he's ignored. So I have sympathy for you OP. Be grateful you are moving and hope your new neighbours will be more considerate and respectful.