To think this was overly vulgar of DH?

[Dockerty]

Our downstairs bathroom is at the end of the hallway and unfortunately faces the front door. DH is well aware of my bowel issues (chronic constipation) and if ever I feel the urge to go I really must go.

So I went to toilet last night and heard a knock at the door. I heard DH answer it and he then shouts:
”Dockerty, Dorothy is at the door for you - come on - snap it off”

I was mortified - baring in mind when you leave the bathroom it’s in full view of the front door. I was flustered, annoyed and embarrassed, flushed the toilet, opened the bathroom door and DH says to Dorothy “Get your gas mask out” and laughed. Dorothy smiled in a nervous kind of way. I said to her “sorry about that” meaning DH and she said “I can’t smell anything”.

Honestly I know it all sounds daft but how bloody childish to make a big thing out of someone’s toilet habits? WIBU to be pissed off at him?

He's disrespectful and will have embarrassed Dorothy too.
What a prick.

What a dickhead.

What a gross feckwit he is.

Is he usually so rude? That's really out of order. It would be one thing if you both dealt with your issues with humour, but if you don't then I am not surprised if you feel embarrassed. Bet Dorothy didn't think it was too funny either.

I would be apoplectic with rage and expect a full.grovelling apology and promise not to do anything like that again. Does he seek to humiliate you in front of your friends in other ways? He sounds completely disrespectful.

How old is he 10? 🙄 Tell him to grow up.

Dorothy here. I thought he was an absolute knobhead but didn’t feel I could say anything at the time.

That's horrible. What an absolute arse he is.

"Sorry about that disgusting shit, Dorothy"

"I can't smell anything"

"I was talking about my husband"

What a tool. He was maybe embarrassed but he handled it really badly. He could easily have just led Dorothy into the kitchen and said you'd be there in a moment and did she want a cup of tea in the meantime.

Not defending him but maybe he wasn't sure what to say or do. He done and said the wrong thing 100%. Could he not of let Dorothy in or say hold on a min ill find her and shut the door. Maybe try using bathroom upstairs if possible next time

Feckwit is the word

Snap it off 🫣

he sounds like a pillock.

Perfect!

I would be beyond furious with him for that and would be ensuring he knew it.

He's a total fuckwit. Does he behave like this often? Are there other examples of him trying to humiliate you and your friends? Does he naturally behave in such a disrespectful and boorish way?

Whatever the case is, I wouldn't put up with being disrespected and humiliated like that. If necessary I would be reconsidering the relationship. Especially if he couldn't admit to being wrong and trotted out the line of "can't you take a joke?" It's not a joke. It's not funny at all.

Nasty horrible man.

Sorry op but I burst out laughing reading that.

So relieved to read I’ve not over reacted. Dorothy is actually my neighbour and we’re not particularly close which just makes it all worse really. And yes he’s done similar before, telling his mum on the phone that I’m shitting for England (when I had Covid) for example

Jesus, what a fuckwit. I would have been screaming with rage, on both those occasions.

He said that deliberately to humiliate you, no other purpose at all. Do you really want to be with someone like that?

Well he sounds charming. Not. And your second post tells us he hates you.

He knew full well you’d be embarrassed and humiliated by this. Really horrible of him.

So, this is just him then, not a bizarre one off?

I wouldn't get together with someone who repeatedly made comments like this.

So many men are fucking gross and disrespectful. It's a wonder any of them get laid.

You married to a 12 year old?