To think this was overly vulgar of DH?

[Dockerty]

Our downstairs bathroom is at the end of the hallway and unfortunately faces the front door. DH is well aware of my bowel issues (chronic constipation) and if ever I feel the urge to go I really must go.

So I went to toilet last night and heard a knock at the door. I heard DH answer it and he then shouts:
”Dockerty, Dorothy is at the door for you - come on - snap it off”

I was mortified - baring in mind when you leave the bathroom it’s in full view of the front door. I was flustered, annoyed and embarrassed, flushed the toilet, opened the bathroom door and DH says to Dorothy “Get your gas mask out” and laughed. Dorothy smiled in a nervous kind of way. I said to her “sorry about that” meaning DH and she said “I can’t smell anything”.

Honestly I know it all sounds daft but how bloody childish to make a big thing out of someone’s toilet habits? WIBU to be pissed off at him?

Thanks for another laugh as I've just read it again.

@Dockerty YANBU OP. What have you said to your juvenile cnut of a husband about his behaviour? How old actually is he?

I'd be mortified depending on who it was too.

Cracked me up though.

Ok, but you could say that about practically anything. I can't think of a single thing in my life that will matter very much when I die, but that doesn't mean none of it is important or significant now.

But until that happy moment when the Angels are knocking on the door, trumpets ready, to wing you towards eternal rest, situations like the OPs are embarrassing, and being made fun of in front of someone is unkind, especially as in the OPs case it is to do with a problem for which she has no resolution.

They're often right next to the front door or under the stairs.

When we bought our house the downstairs loo was in the hallway, next to the front door. We relocated it to the back of the house, which is a much better location, imo.

Ugh, he's vile! It honestly sounds as if he does it to deliberately embarrass/humiliate you. Why on earth could he not have explained you were unavailable and would pop over to see her when you were done? Absolutely no need for him to go into any detail at all. I'd be fuming and telling him exactly what I thought of his puerile behaviour.
Show him the replies on this thread if he maintains that it was just a joke/banter.

Says user name "divorcinganabsolutewanker". Should be op's name!

Immature and utterly pathetic. I hope you bolllocked his arse and asked him why the fuck he thinks it’s ok to humiliate and embarrass you.

Oh god he’s awful! Poor you and poor Dorothy! I couldn’t be more to someone who took pleasure in deliberately humiliating others. I’m sorry you’ve discovered he’s such a horrible man.

Let's face it, when you get to that stage of your life, nothing matters any more.

Ouch! You've ended up with an absolute oaf.

I'm assuming this is in character for him? Because ime there are men who would say this stuff and men who wouldn't dream of it, and they don't suddenly go from being one type to the other apropos of nothing. If your H is the sort of man who says this sort of thing and you've never told him so far its inappropriate them I don't rate your chances of teaching him manners now.

I wouldn't wish my ex husband on her!

what are the odds eh?

How can you continue to be with him when he holds you in contempt, and is such a crude oaf?? My sympathies.

I might leave over that. It is so very insensitive, and I presume he must have previously spoken that way.

Some people (and it's NOT just men, but maybe we women internalise the "don't say it" due to our periods) seem to think toilet humour is really funny. Look at the Celia fart joke-imagine someone telling your great grandma in 1980 that there would be this amazing thing called the internet, and that the news on it would be a trending article about an actress farting).
Seriously, I guess you've seen the doctor, as some people can get a lot of help for chronic constipation, but if his way of dealing with things is humour (is he secretly concerned about your health, and trying a stupid method to provoke you to see another doctor), you need to tell him you're not ok with it. If he apologises, fine. If not, ask him why he wants to hurt you, and take it from there.

This wins 😁

This is what I thought as well... people usually give away their willingness to be scatological early on. If this man has been vulgar like this all his life why is it suddenly a problem now?

Oh god! He is trying very hard to shame you. That is so awful. If I was Dorothy I would say the only steaming shit I can see and smell here is you to your dh.

These replies are all a bit dramatic. I would laugh if my partner did this to me as we have that kind of sense of humour and I don't think what he said was that bad to be honest.
However you felt humiliated and I would expect him to take that onboard and apologise for making you feel that way.
It's a relatively minor incident unless there's a long history of him humiliating you.

Wait. What? Really or am I just being gullible here?

Your husband is an arsehole

But snap it off really made me giggle like a child 😂

Sorry, but I woukd have found that funny if it had been me in the toilet or if I had been the visitor. I don’t see anything to be embarrassed about - we all have to have a dump!