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Would you do a relentless and stressful job if it meant being very, very comfortable?

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cheeseandbranston · 28/10/2025 06:59

I am dyslexic and dyscalculate so I have struggled to do normal jobs. But I have a couple of skills I’m exceptional at, so have always got by, freelancing doing just those things and avoiding the things I am bad at.

after I got divorced, I really struggled financially (no parents or family) which was really frightening as I live in an expensive city and have two teens. The freelance wasn’t always reliable, and I was responsible for everything, (50/50 divorce, no maintenance)

so I hustled really hard and got an extremely senior job. It puts me in the top 1 percent of earners bracket. We have plenty of money, I take them of lovely holidays and say yes to just about everything. I have a massive mortgage but it is only about a quarter of my take home, I buy lovely furniture and clothes. I save quite a bit every month too.

but I get up at 6 every day, don’t get home until 7 or 8, don’t take lunch breaks, and hardly do anything but work. I often work the mornings on weekends too, until the kids get up. I’ve lost 3 kilos since I started the job from not having time to eat, and I used to exercise every day and now I hardly ever do,

also it’s really stressful. I make mistakes nearly every day which is embarrassing and I have to stand up in front of hundreds of people saying sensitive things that if I were to get wrong they would be huge problems. I’ve had to change other peoples jobs, and be responsible for things I only just understand. My boss has a rotten temper and has been pretty unpleasant on a couple of occasions.

I think it’s unsustainable but maybe it’ll get easier when I’m used to it? I’ve never had a normal job before.

also, I don’t know what else I’d do if I didn’t do this. It’s not the kind of opportunity that will come up again.

would you do it if you were me?

OP posts:
jeaux90 · 29/10/2025 07:44

I commented up thread as I’m you but many years down the line and a few job changes in. Just remember the first 6 months anywhere is the hardest. You get into your stride, you work out your boundaries etc. I’m a lone parent and becoming a high earner has been life changing. Was able to send my SEN DD to the private school that really helped her. But also almost paid off the mortgage now and have a decent pension. (Make sure the pension is sorted)

AndOnAndOn1000 · 29/10/2025 18:46

Remember you are only 4 months in and you’ve got a lot to learn and get familiar with.
Make it work for you. There’s lots of good advice on here.

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