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Friend critical of my parenting - AIBU to think I’m doing nothing wrong here?

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stubbedit · 25/10/2025 19:04

One of my friends has complained a few times now that I talk to my children using ‘baby talk.’ To be honest, the first time I just ignored it. The second time I glossed over it but when she brought it up again I defended myself a bit and said that I actually don’t. She said ‘well, you don’t talk like you’re talking to me!’ and proceeded to complain that I’m higher pitched and thinks it’s caused speech problems in dc1.

I am actually pretty pissed off about it.

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TheTwitcher11 · 26/10/2025 10:02

stubbedit · 25/10/2025 20:14

Hardly, if I’m not even aware of it myself.

I really don’t think I speak to my children particularly differently. I am probably a bit higher pitched when speaking directly to the toddler, especially when trying to divert a tantrum ‘shall we change your nappy?’ in the same tone as one might say ‘shall we go hit the free bar?’ but I don’t think it’s wrong or that it’s impeding their development.

She is quite critical generally so I’m taking it with a pinch of salt. Just annoyed that a medical condition is being blamed on me.

Your friend needs to stay in her lane

Inahuff · 26/10/2025 10:46

TheCurious0range · 25/10/2025 22:48

Why does it baffle you? I talk to ds the way I'd talk to anyone and if he doesn't understand a word I explain it and he knows for next time. Always have, he's 6 now and has an excellent vocabulary. Surely that's how they learn. I'm not sure why you'd dumb things down.

I don't sumb things down. My DC are very intelligent I'll have you know. I just didn't use big words when I didn't need to. Each to their own.

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