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To ask you to swerve Shein & Temu

587 replies

DoNoTakeNo · 25/10/2025 18:12

This Christmas?
I know it’s mainly a cost thing but if it’s achievable, can people possibly manage with less stuff?

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ObelixtheGaul · 29/10/2025 11:43

hididdlyho · 29/10/2025 10:03

I'm not sure what part of my post wasn't thoughtful. It's relevant that Governments are eroding people's purchasing choices by not supporting British manufacturing. Consumers don't have the transparency they should have about the true origin of the goods they are buying. Anyone can set themselves up as an ethical, sustainable clothing company. You can look for certifications like 'fair wear' which suggests a company wants to commit to improving working conditions in factories, but it's not a guarantee that no exploitation was involved in the manufacturing process. If a clothing company doesn't own the factory (which is more often than not the case) they have little control over the working conditions.

I'm not sure what purpose 'green guilting' strangers on this thread actually serves?

But to 'support British manufacturing' enough to enable them to make goods that can compete would mean fewer regulations, lower wages and longer working hours.

The truth is, manufacturing is a dirty business. When we had a lot of it, our rivers were heavily polluted, some of our beaches were black, etc. We are STILL cleaning up after over a century of industry.

Yes, there was more work for a population more willing to get its hands dirty, and I speak as, I suspect, one of the few posters who worked for not even minimum wage because it wasn't a thing 30 years ago, on the factory floor.

But today is not yesterday. We don't want the smell, we don't want the dirt, we want proper wages and flexible working hours, but at the same time we want manufacturing back? Not going to happen. Companies don't want to pay to meet more stringent criteria when they don't have to elsewhere.

As I said before, we all want the stuff, but we don't want those production values (or lack thereof) on our doorstep. It's been convenient for decades to ship the unsightly truth of mass production for cheap products somewhere where we can't see it and don't have to manage the waste it produces.

If we had to live and work with manufacturing that could compete with the prices of that which we import, we really wouldn't like it. When we had poorly regulated industry, we fought to clean it up, make it pay better, etc. But the reality of clean, modern, well regulated production is that it costs. And the businesses don't want lose profit by paying it, and the consumers don't want to pay the premium of that cost being passed on.

Decades ago, the decision was made to simply shovel the mess elsewhere, including landfill from our consumption. If we were still producing and having nowhere but our own shores to dispose of our own rubbish, we might be thinking about this a bit more, beyond 'I'm skint, but it's my right.'

The trouble is, we've not just outsourced production, we've outsourced the impact of low cost mass production, and have forgotten/don't want to think about what it actually looks like, and how that pertains to a nation that doesn't want to work for peanuts in an unsafe environment for hours on end and rather likes our rivers having less chemical waste in them, but at the same time wants everything to be cheap as chips.

ninjahamster · 29/10/2025 11:44

Digdongdoo · 29/10/2025 11:27

More stuff on the plane = bigger carbon footprint.
You don't have to think it's a big deal, but you don't seem to actually grasp the facts to be honest.

I think we will have to agree to disagree.

I do probably two temu/shein shops a year. I don’t use it to buy clothes that I then throw away, I use it for clothes I wear regularly. We don’t order one thing, we order a bigger order.
We are on an extremely limited budget (bottom 15% according to Google).
I don’t leave the house so cannot shop in charity shops or mooch shops for the best deals.
We have one car, many other families have two. Many of these cars will be made up of components from dodgy countries.
We rarely buy clothes, many other families buy endless clothes, Xmas pjs, new coats each year, multiple pairs of shoes. All can be manufactured in China.
We don’t update our home decor, we cannot afford that. We don’t have multiple bedding sets, change our curtains, get new cushions. Do you really think a £5 duvet set from Asda will have been manufactured sustainably? Can you guarantee that a TK Maxx purchase hasn’t been manufactured in China?
What about mobile phones? How many people change them yearly? Buy Apple? Buy new tvs? Update laptops when they are still working fine? By the latest iPad?
What about jewellery? Do you know your diamonds are mined ethically?
Recycle? I do. Our council has won awards for their recycling scheme. But what about the councils that ship the waste abroad? Do you lobby about that?
When you food shop, do you only buy locally sourced food? Do you check where the food has travelled from? If you were on the lowest income would you spend £5 on an item that was produced locally rather than £2 on one that came from overseas?
My point is, we all do what we can within our resources. I’ve said many times, in an ideal world I’d have the finances to buy more ethically. But I don’t. And that is a balance I have up weigh up in my mind.
It makes me laugh when I see wealthy people buying ethical produce but then buying giant SUVs, travelling abroad for multiple holidays, getting nails done in salons with dubious practices etc.
We are all contributing to issues.

InSpainTheRain · 29/10/2025 12:01

I agree with your @DoNoTakeNo but I think you're unreasonable to make the request without any info to back it up. If you're interested have a look at "How to give up fast fashion" by Lauren Bravo which is very interesting and deals not only with over consumerism but also ethical supply chains and how we can sustainability throughout the whole life of a garment (some of which are scarily short term!) It is actually quite difficult to identify companies who are sustainable and ethical and in fact some of the cheapest (brands you mention) but also some of the most expensive brands don't look good when you look at the facts.

In Jan 2024 I started to try to buy far fewer new clothes, last year I only bought 1 roll neck black sweater and a pair of trousers. This year so far I have bought 2 new t-shirts and 1 pair of insulated trousers. All the rest is either secondhand, repaired items I owned, or I decided it was not necessary. Note - this excludes new bras and pants which I have bought new but in moderation and only when needed. Even if I buy new it needs to be GOTS (Global Organis Textile Standard) which makes it more expensive but as I buy fewer items it works out ok.

It also depends on the stage of life and what's happening - so I was winding down form a corporate job that I intended to leave in 2 year's time. I knew I'd need far fewer office clothes so was able to make a deliberate decision to not buy more (even when I really wanted to!) But someone who is switching roles (perhaps from uniform to office clothes) or leaving uni to start a job is at a very different stage.

Sustainable and ethical fashion is really interesting - but tough to stick with!! Someone needs their personal reasons that they believe in to adhere to the principles and that's about what's important to each individual. Interesting and post and thread :)

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 29/10/2025 12:20

NinjaHamster your post is full of straw men and does not at all engage with the many suggestions on this thread about alternative means of sourcing life's necessities that are no more expensive than S or T.

ninjahamster · 29/10/2025 12:25

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 29/10/2025 12:20

NinjaHamster your post is full of straw men and does not at all engage with the many suggestions on this thread about alternative means of sourcing life's necessities that are no more expensive than S or T.

Interesting that you say that, can you post links to websites that sell the things Temu and Shein do, at the same price but ethically?

TheDenimPoet · 29/10/2025 13:09

LittleCarrot12 · 25/10/2025 18:19

Temu order delivered yesterday and ordered Shein last night. The UK is ridiculously expensive and I need to live

Yes exactly. I have some clothes from Temu and Shein, and they are amazing. They're comfortable, good sizes, and wash really well. I spent £50 on Temu and got 4 pairs of PJs, 3 dressy tops and a pair of jeans. They're all brilliant. Look at clothes from many top retailers now and it'll say they're made in China/Taiwan/Malaysia... the exact same places your Temu orders come from.

The safety of toys and gadgets is of course another issue. But for clothes I'll always shop here, thanks.

Natsku · 29/10/2025 13:40

ninjahamster · 29/10/2025 12:25

Interesting that you say that, can you post links to websites that sell the things Temu and Shein do, at the same price but ethically?

You can't buy things ethically at the same price as Temu and Shein, because they can only be so cheap by using unethical practices.

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 29/10/2025 13:41

ninjahamster · 29/10/2025 12:25

Interesting that you say that, can you post links to websites that sell the things Temu and Shein do, at the same price but ethically?

Well of the stuff you have said you use it for, I would either source it locally second hand, do without, borrow from a neighbour or swap for an ethical alternative. And it wouldn[t cost me any more than ordering online.

cornflakecrunchie · 29/10/2025 13:58

@ninjahamster It seems we view the world the same way.
I don't have a car, don't have foreign holidays (never been on a plane.. wonder how many here can say that?) Also recycle all the time, never have my nails done, quite capable of doing my own, should I wish to.
But eek, we buy from Temu! Foolish us, we should be paying more money to get exactly the same items for more money from businesses who don't disclose where their goods come from originally! BAD us!
Anyway, better finish now & let you pop round to your neighbur's to borrow that hairbrush.. feck's sake!!

ninjahamster · 29/10/2025 14:08

Natsku · 29/10/2025 13:40

You can't buy things ethically at the same price as Temu and Shein, because they can only be so cheap by using unethical practices.

Exactly.

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 29/10/2025 14:20

For the sake of clarity, I would save money on some of the items on ninjahamster[s list by swapping, borrowing, doing without etc. enabling me to spend a bit more on a more ethical choices for things I[d rather not buy second-hand, like a hairbrush. This would not cost me more overall than buying all the items new from an unethical source.

Natsku · 29/10/2025 14:22

ninjahamster · 29/10/2025 14:08

Exactly.

Exactly what? Does that make it alright to buy from them when you know how unethical they are?
I know what its like to be poor, I've been on the lowest income rung in my country (last resort benefit), I still wouldn't have wanted to buy from Temu or Shein if they had existed then.

ninjahamster · 29/10/2025 14:26

Natsku · 29/10/2025 14:22

Exactly what? Does that make it alright to buy from them when you know how unethical they are?
I know what its like to be poor, I've been on the lowest income rung in my country (last resort benefit), I still wouldn't have wanted to buy from Temu or Shein if they had existed then.

I think if you read all my posts I’ve covered all that.

CharlotteCChapel · 29/10/2025 14:39

Bagsintheboot · 25/10/2025 18:14

There are so many issues with the products too.

There is a strong chance what you buy will not be compliant with UK or EU chemical safety standards and may present other dangers like choking hazards.

Cheap toys aren't worth the risk.

They sell the same sort of stuff as many other retailers. Basically they're Chinese manufacturers trying to remove the middleman.

Seagullstopitnow · 29/10/2025 15:41

Digdongdoo · 29/10/2025 11:27

More stuff on the plane = bigger carbon footprint.
You don't have to think it's a big deal, but you don't seem to actually grasp the facts to be honest.

What facts?

Supply chain is literally collecting certificates to show auditors. They don't check the validity of them. As I said before, it's all "trust me bro"

You should see the absolute shit show that is ensuring Russian steel doesn't enter the market. It's a pyramid scheme. All of it.

As someone else said, unless you own the factory, you have no idea of origin really.

TheGoddessAthena · 29/10/2025 16:49

CharlotteCChapel · 29/10/2025 14:39

They sell the same sort of stuff as many other retailers. Basically they're Chinese manufacturers trying to remove the middleman.

This is just not true Toys sold in Argos, Tesco or Primark have to meet basic safety standards. These businesses have buying departments and agents and do not want the adverse publicity of selling dangerous toys, children's clothing or anything else. Trading standards can and do inspect toys on sale in shops and ban the sale of things which don't meet standards. Border force seizes imports of fakes/dangerous items.

Now the stuff you buy on shite sites like Shein or Temu might LOOK like the same toy you can buy elsewhere but you have no guarantee that it is. You just don't know because nobody is checking every single package which is being sent.

It's a massive, stupid risk to take.

https://www.theguardian.com/business/2025/jul/20/eu-commissioner-shocked-dangerous-goods-sold-shein-temu

https://www.businesskorea.co.kr/news/articleView.html?idxno=254810 - this was only 5 days ago and the headline is "Children's Costumes from AliExpress, Temu Contain Harmful Substances Above Safe Levels".

But knock yourselves out with your "cheap bits" and stocking fillers.

Bagsintheboot · 29/10/2025 16:53

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cly1qr6z40po.amp

Another example, from two days ago, of the risks these products pose.

"it just came on, the brush flew off.. and just sucked her hair in"

TardisDweller · 29/10/2025 17:05

TheGoddessAthena · 29/10/2025 16:49

This is just not true Toys sold in Argos, Tesco or Primark have to meet basic safety standards. These businesses have buying departments and agents and do not want the adverse publicity of selling dangerous toys, children's clothing or anything else. Trading standards can and do inspect toys on sale in shops and ban the sale of things which don't meet standards. Border force seizes imports of fakes/dangerous items.

Now the stuff you buy on shite sites like Shein or Temu might LOOK like the same toy you can buy elsewhere but you have no guarantee that it is. You just don't know because nobody is checking every single package which is being sent.

It's a massive, stupid risk to take.

https://www.theguardian.com/business/2025/jul/20/eu-commissioner-shocked-dangerous-goods-sold-shein-temu

https://www.businesskorea.co.kr/news/articleView.html?idxno=254810 - this was only 5 days ago and the headline is "Children's Costumes from AliExpress, Temu Contain Harmful Substances Above Safe Levels".

But knock yourselves out with your "cheap bits" and stocking fillers.

Yes I agree, it is the same for toys and clothes, especially with the finishing sprays and materials used. The cheaper products often aren't registered safe for the UK meaning they contain harmful chemicals. They may look exactly the same, but that is often not the reality. I personally wouldn't take the risk for my child, I'd rather she had slightly fewer toys for Christmas, but ones I know are safe.

Digdongdoo · 29/10/2025 17:07

Seagullstopitnow · 29/10/2025 15:41

What facts?

Supply chain is literally collecting certificates to show auditors. They don't check the validity of them. As I said before, it's all "trust me bro"

You should see the absolute shit show that is ensuring Russian steel doesn't enter the market. It's a pyramid scheme. All of it.

As someone else said, unless you own the factory, you have no idea of origin really.

In this case, the fact that sea freight is much more carbon efficient than air. And that is an unarguable fact. Current convo is (or was) transport. Keep up.

Amauve · 29/10/2025 18:01

Jumpingthruhoops · 25/10/2025 22:52

What actual proof do you have that slave labour is used? I mean actual real proof? And, more to the point, what proof do you have that 'ethical' companies are just that? Because they 'say so'? 🙄

The fact is, unless you live in a commune in the wilderness, wear the same rags day in day out, never buy anything for your kids, and never use ANY hair/body/make-up products, you're just as responsible for keeping the 'trade' going as 'Sharon at No.37' who orders some cheap toys from Shein!

Ah okay, so it's totally not a matter of degree then. A huge amount of misery caused is identical to a minimal amount. May as well not bother than I guess.

Amauve · 29/10/2025 18:05

Also, @Jumpingthruhoops, there is absolutely no need for you to simply accept what any company says. There are many third party organisations evaluating the ethics of companies. Goodonyou.eco, for instance, evaluates on people and supply chain and employment ethics, and environmental impact. There are many ethical consumer sites like this. It's really not hard to research if you give a fuck. That doesn't make affording what you need simple. But not being able to afford and not giving a fuck aren't the same thing.

Amauve · 29/10/2025 18:07

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 28/10/2025 14:14

@venus7
I’m guessing you haven’t read the full thread, but that particular poster has put up with enough posters haranguing her due to her shopping choices, made because she is skint and wants to clothe herself plus do something nice for her family. It’s not fair that everyone is keeping on at her. The problem really is with those who could afford to shop elsewhere but like having multiple new outfits. Life is hard enough for many people at the moment as it is, without having to constantly defend their choices .

Sure, but then for the person making that stuff feeding their family, not inhaling toxic chemicals or being treated like shit is probably something they want to do? I'm not speaking about Temu or Shein because I have never used them, but in general.

Jumpingthruhoops · 29/10/2025 18:19

Amauve · 29/10/2025 18:01

Ah okay, so it's totally not a matter of degree then. A huge amount of misery caused is identical to a minimal amount. May as well not bother than I guess.

That's my point: you don't truly know who's causing what misery. Assuming you haven't actually visited a Shein factory OR one producing garments for a higher end brand, that could well be using the same practices, you have literally no evidence.

DoNoTakeNo · 29/10/2025 18:43

@LouH1981You’re welcome - there’s so much good information on here from some very well informed posters, it’s great to share. I’m sure that your DD would be grateful.

@ManyredpoppiesYou’re absolutely right; the level of entitlement that has been trained into us by big business is appalling.

@ninjahamster I don’t think people are angry / whatever at you for buying essentials like period pants & a tape measure. What is wrong is the “haul” mentality, the continuous buying just because we can.

@FuckRealityBringMeABook
Absolutely, the logistics & fiscal management of transporting individual parcels is appalling: governments have enabled low value items to avoid tax if they are sold directly - unbelievably, it’s because China has been allocated the status of a developing nation; it was meant to encourage trade for them! The Chancellor is looking at this in the next budget & hopefully will close the loophole asap, reducing the immoral packaging use & transport resources, and raising revenue (& making items less attractive).

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soupyspoon · 29/10/2025 18:46

Digdongdoo · 29/10/2025 11:27

More stuff on the plane = bigger carbon footprint.
You don't have to think it's a big deal, but you don't seem to actually grasp the facts to be honest.

What makes you think goods are flown over, very very little goods we buy are flown over, most is shipped.

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