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Please answer this question firstly with a number. What proportion of men - who had they been born into wealth and status - would have sex with a 17 year old attractive girl whom they’d never met before?

139 replies

Zippyzoppy · 18/10/2025 23:37

I don’t know the answer, but I’m upset to say that I’d put the number somewhere in the 30-40% range.

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Sharptonguedwoman · 19/10/2025 09:54

Plugsocketrocket · 19/10/2025 09:43

Trafficking is a crime.

Was he accused of that? Not defending, thought the crime was sexual assault.

WeAllHaveWings · 19/10/2025 09:57

TheaBrandt1 · 19/10/2025 09:33

It’s a red herring question for me. Surely as a flipping prince with all the riches and position lavished on you you should at least make the effort not to be a sleazy alley cat? I mean it’s not hard is it - Dh and literally all his lovely friends have managed not to sleep with numerous teenaged prostitutes 🙄

He’s not been properly tested though, he needs to bin the lovely friends, get himself some millionaire paedophile friends to hang out with regularly, normalising it, with their own island bring in some trafficked young girls, probably throw some booze and drugs into the equation and then see how his resolve holds up.

I think given the right circumstances a reasonably high percentage of those who we think of as good men would, especially if they believed they were protected, untouchable and the girls compliant and on the surface appeared willing.

in that environment they would easily brush aside thoughts, or facts, of how the girls got there, how young they were, and their welfare.

Needspaceforlego · 19/10/2025 10:04

The girls must have appeared willing.
Trafficking and grooming wasn't well known about 20 years go.
20 years ago was the time of the Playboy mags and Bunny Girls.

Did any of these men think the girls were trafficked or groomed?

Did they see them as anything other than escort girls, who were there of there own free will being wined and dined and paid?

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 10:05

Sharptonguedwoman · 19/10/2025 09:53

Of course but that would assume that the bloke had the gumption to realise the girl had been trafficked. Or care.
But I looked it up; Ms Giuffre says the duke sexually assaulted her on three occasions when she was under the age of 18. (BBC website)
Was the crime sexual assault not trafficking?

It’s doesn’t matter whether the man knows or not. The law now puts the onus on the man to assure himself the woman is not trafficked

eta taking a woman to a different juristruction for sex is trafficking

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 10:09

Needspaceforlego · 19/10/2025 10:04

The girls must have appeared willing.
Trafficking and grooming wasn't well known about 20 years go.
20 years ago was the time of the Playboy mags and Bunny Girls.

Did any of these men think the girls were trafficked or groomed?

Did they see them as anything other than escort girls, who were there of there own free will being wined and dined and paid?

I’m not sure it really matters- I’m happy to say playboy bunnies were trafficked and groomed, yes. It was not recognised in the same way 20 years ago but what difference does it make?

20 years ago nuns didn’t care that they were slinging dead babies into mass graves- it doesn’t mean we can’t have a mature reflection on it now and realise how wrong it was surely?

EmeraldRoulette · 19/10/2025 10:15

@Bambamhoohoo nuns were doing that 20 years ago?!

Sharptonguedwoman · 19/10/2025 10:17

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 10:05

It’s doesn’t matter whether the man knows or not. The law now puts the onus on the man to assure himself the woman is not trafficked

eta taking a woman to a different juristruction for sex is trafficking

Edited

That I did not know. Date of law v date of offence? Also USA or UK? I can't find any info in a quick search other that Giuffre suing Windsor for sexual assault.
Obviously it's all awful.

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 10:17

EmeraldRoulette · 19/10/2025 10:15

@Bambamhoohoo nuns were doing that 20 years ago?!

I don’t know- but I did say they didn’t care 20 years ago.

EmeraldRoulette · 19/10/2025 10:19

@Bambamhoohoo yeah I was just a bit confused if something specific had made you make that comment

I'm also confused why everyone is talking about trafficking - I thought the OP was just talking about whether or not the men would sleep with a consenting 17-year-old given the opportunity.

and men are now supposed to check that the woman wasn't trafficked?

Icecreamandcoffee · 19/10/2025 10:21

With wealth, status and almost guaranteed protection from any fall out 99.9%.

Any straight male with opportunity at least 80%.

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 10:23

Sharptonguedwoman · 19/10/2025 10:17

That I did not know. Date of law v date of offence? Also USA or UK? I can't find any info in a quick search other that Giuffre suing Windsor for sexual assault.
Obviously it's all awful.

People constantly lean into this. Why? Criminal action has never been taken against Andrew in the uk or the us.

Something being illegal is the lowest form of ethics. If you will do anything as long as it’s not illegal you’ll generally be an awful person who skates the line and uses a criminal prosecution framework to make personal decisions - as someone said above, an alley cat.

but regardless, the current anti trafficking laws are more recent and seem to reflect common sense, and the move towards criminalising the male “customer” of trafficked women or sex workers

SerendipityJane · 19/10/2025 10:24

What does history tell us ?

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 10:25

EmeraldRoulette · 19/10/2025 10:19

@Bambamhoohoo yeah I was just a bit confused if something specific had made you make that comment

I'm also confused why everyone is talking about trafficking - I thought the OP was just talking about whether or not the men would sleep with a consenting 17-year-old given the opportunity.

and men are now supposed to check that the woman wasn't trafficked?

Edited

Well yes they are. Just like they are supposed as reassure themselves women aren’t intoxicated.

it’s almost like the law expects people to get to know each other even a bit before they start shoving their dick in!

Hysterectomynext · 19/10/2025 10:25

80-90 percent

Needspaceforlego · 19/10/2025 10:26

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 09:45

Little bit confused about these posts. The crime Andrew committed was trafficking. Age is unrelated to this.

even so, what difference does it make what age you can marry in NY and Dc? That has nothing to do with what happened to VG.

Do you or anyone else have any evidence that Andrew was involved in trafficking?

As far as I can see the only two involved in trafficking were Jeffrey and Gullane.

Andrew and the rest took advantage of the girls, young women made available to them.
Did they know the girls were being controlled?
Or did they see them as willing escorts?

The age of consent in the UK is 16. Legally people can still get married in Scotland at 16, without parental permission.

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 10:33

Needspaceforlego · 19/10/2025 10:26

Do you or anyone else have any evidence that Andrew was involved in trafficking?

As far as I can see the only two involved in trafficking were Jeffrey and Gullane.

Andrew and the rest took advantage of the girls, young women made available to them.
Did they know the girls were being controlled?
Or did they see them as willing escorts?

The age of consent in the UK is 16. Legally people can still get married in Scotland at 16, without parental permission.

Isn’t this a pointless question?

VG says she was trafficked for sex

VG is now dead

i am not the met police or the CPS.

and neither am I a court of law trying Andrew for trafficking. I don’t need evidence.

asking for evidence isn’t the flex people seem to think.

eta

“As far as I can see the only two involved in trafficking were Jeffrey and Gullane.”

having sex with a trafficked person is a crime

AzureCats · 19/10/2025 10:33

I agree with the 90% of any men regardless of wealth. Working class men raped an elderly woman who was clearly unconscious in France just a few years ago. The bar is in hell.

I've just read the Virginia G memoir extract in the Guardian. Truly harrowing read.
What happened was 100% awful but Andrew has the plausible deniability that she was 17 and there of own free will, so not illegal in the UK at the time. But he hasn't claimed that, he's still maintaining that he never even met her! Pack of lies, I don't believe the photograph of him and her has been faked. Shame on him and I hope the rest of his days are wretched.

QueenClinomania · 19/10/2025 10:34

If they believed she was genuinely willing I think most of them would, as high as 90%.

If they knew or believed she was trafficked I do think far fewer. Maybe half or slightly less.

TheKeatingFive · 19/10/2025 10:34

Andrew was not accused of trafficking, but rape.

Having sex with a trafficked woman is 'de facto' rape as being trafficked means she can't consent.

I don't think anyone would buy an ignorance defence in this case.

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 10:36

TheKeatingFive · 19/10/2025 10:34

Andrew was not accused of trafficking, but rape.

Having sex with a trafficked woman is 'de facto' rape as being trafficked means she can't consent.

I don't think anyone would buy an ignorance defence in this case.

Yes sorry I don’t think I was clear enough. Andrew had sex with a trafficked person. He doesn’t need to have actually brought her over himself

Brenda34 · 19/10/2025 10:36

If they were absolutely they'd get away with it, 95% of them.

TheNightingalesStarling · 19/10/2025 10:41

Its not that long ago that a British newspaper was publishing topless photos of 16yo girls.

I'd like to think its less than in the past, but the truth is many men see any girl or woman over the age of consent as "fair game".

HoskinsChoice · 19/10/2025 10:47

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 09:45

Little bit confused about these posts. The crime Andrew committed was trafficking. Age is unrelated to this.

even so, what difference does it make what age you can marry in NY and Dc? That has nothing to do with what happened to VG.

No. Andrew has never been accused of trafficking. There is no suggestion he was involved in this. Allegedly he had sex with a woman who was trafficked. That is an entirely different thing.

Also you're stating that he has committed a crime. Not only have you got the crime wrong, but you've also got the fact that he committed a crime wrong. He has never been found guilty. There is no evidence that he has committed a crime. It is her word against his. We can no more say he didn't sleep with her than we can sat he did. It is in his interest to say he didn't. It is equally in her interest to say he did. We will never know.

The only fact is that a lot of money has been made by a lot of people. And now her brother is cashing in too.

thecatneuterer · 19/10/2025 10:47

95

Egregiousabsolute · 19/10/2025 10:48

At least 85%

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