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Fleetheart · 19/10/2025 12:06

Cl3arDay · 19/10/2025 12:02

Oh the ignorant pontificating!

Do you have any idea how hard it is to get an EHCP? They are given on need with a very high bar. A ND diagnosis does not an EHCP get. The majority of children with ND diagnoses won’t have an EHCP .

Getting an EHCP for my DS nearly sent me completely insane. And even when you get one it’s not possible to get the care that is asked for as there are not the resources in schools. The whole thing is a nightmare and needs proper reorganisation within the education department of government.

Cl3arDay · 19/10/2025 12:07

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Which shows your complete utter ignorance.Most EHCPs don’t come with ££££ of help and the support varies massively.

And do expand on “this cohort”. This also varies hugely. My ds has an EHCP, it is helping him to attain a level 3 qualification and go to uni which he’d have no hope of doing without.

Cl3arDay · 19/10/2025 12:08

Nescafeneeded · 19/10/2025 12:05

‘Necessary’ is subjective.

Do elaborate then.

Princessfluffy · 19/10/2025 12:08

If you’re given to chortling I’d concentrate on the main parties whose abject failure to govern or deal with any of the real problems of the UK have fuelled the rise of reform

Crikeyalmighty · 19/10/2025 12:08

@Nescafeneeded no the masses do not support a right wing party - itsaroubd28% - and nearly all in particular rural bits of the country - far more of the country supports the non right wing - however given the UKs system of FPTP they would stand a chance of dominating here - and I would say the same if it was the greens by the way or Lib Dem’s etc

MO0N · 19/10/2025 12:10

Salemsplot · 19/10/2025 11:32

I work with ‘government’ within my role. I’ve seen both Conservative and Labour and can safely say I’ve never seen anything even remotely like what is in that video. They’re professional and respectful. The behaviour in the video is embarrassing. If it were an office they’d be sacked.

I agree with you but the kind of people who will vote for reform identify with the types of people in that video, they will vote for them because they can relate to them.

SquirrelosaurusSoShiny · 19/10/2025 12:10

People really don't understand that these idiots would make Liz Truss look like Einstein.

'How much harm can they do with one electoral term?' Liz Truss had literal weeks. Ask the people who lost their homes because of her how much harm can be done in a very, very short period of time.

menopausalfart · 19/10/2025 12:12

Getting an EHCP is incredibly difficult. First, the LA has to decide whether an assessment goes ahead. Rejections happen often due to a lack of evidence. If it goes ahead, a mountain of evidence needs to be supplied, which is very intrusive and slow. Even when all evidence is gathered, the LA often refuses a plan. A huge amount of appeals to the SEND tribunal are won, which shows many valid cases are wrongly refused.

MarvellousMonsters · 19/10/2025 12:12

It is funny, until you realise that the reform voters will still vote for them because Small Boats….

flawlessflipper · 19/10/2025 12:14

Nescafeneeded · 19/10/2025 12:05

‘Necessary’ is subjective.

‘Necessary’ is a legal term set out in legislation and with a huge amount of case law surrounding it.

HarryVanderspeigle · 19/10/2025 12:15

Nescafeneeded · 19/10/2025 08:21

Well the EHCP process for one. We can’t afford such expensive plans for so many children plus taxis. I think it is in hand though

I would love to give up the taxi my child spends up to 2 house in every day to his state SEN school. Unfortunately, it's the nearest to us by quite a considerable distance, as mainstream can't meet needs and they closed any others down. It's not the taxi that's the cause of the costs, it's the outcome of the other decisions made.

HarryVanderspeigle · 19/10/2025 12:15

I would love to give up the taxi my child spends up to 2 house in every day to his state SEN school. Unfortunately, it's the nearest to us by quite a considerable distance, as mainstream can't meet needs and they closed any others down. It's not the taxi that's the cause of the costs, it's the outcome of the other decisions made.

TheCrenchinglyMcQuaffenBrothers · 19/10/2025 12:20

HarryVanderspeigle · 19/10/2025 12:15

I would love to give up the taxi my child spends up to 2 house in every day to his state SEN school. Unfortunately, it's the nearest to us by quite a considerable distance, as mainstream can't meet needs and they closed any others down. It's not the taxi that's the cause of the costs, it's the outcome of the other decisions made.

I suspect people like the pp you quoted think you should be doing the ferrying around for your own child. Completely missing the point that may mean you are then unable to be in full time work and will therefore also become more reliant on state financial help which in turn means bigger bills for the sainted taxpayer. Still, at least ‘Stop the taxis’ could be the next slogan I suppose.

flawlessflipper · 19/10/2025 12:20

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It is shortsighted to only look at employment.

For example, the right support as a child and young person can be the difference between:
A residential placement being required or not.
2:1 support in the community and 1:1 support as an adult.
24/7 support vs support for only part of the time.
Someone being contact with the justice system or not.
Someone being eligible for CHC funding or not.
Someone being more independent than they otherwise would.
A young person moving on to HE during their late teens or them not and the EHCP continuing until 25, or 26 in some cases.

menopausalfart · 19/10/2025 12:23

@HarryVanderspeigle I imagine a lot of people would like to see the return of institutions. My DD will always need support and care in the community costs too much.

HelenaWaiting · 19/10/2025 12:23

Buzyizzy217 · 18/10/2025 21:02

Sorry, but you can’t put Zack Polanski in the same boat as NF. Or even Ed Davey.

Polanski would fit into that category very nicely, as would all the Greens. Rank amateurs.

MO0N · 19/10/2025 12:30

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Salemsplot · 19/10/2025 13:00

All this EHCP chat is rather taking away from what this thread is about - the shameful behaviour of Reform in the video - something @Nescafeneeded is probably aiming for. Perhaps start another thread?

OP posts:
Shakeoffyourchains · 19/10/2025 13:00

Nescafeneeded · 18/10/2025 23:33

How are they ruining it? Can anyone actually say?

Sure, they're ruining it by:

Refusing to engage in internal accountability or review processes e.g., Robert Ford who point blank refused to engage in internal investigations after a series of complaints from women were made against him.

Obstructing oversight and governance functions e.g., attempting to bypass establish procedures to access sensitive/confidential data and threatening staff with gross misconduct if they resist.

Undermining transparency and restricting media access e.g., banning local press from interviews or restricting journalists’ access to councillors and council information (granted that wasn't Kent but still Reform).

Appointing inexperienced individuals to senior or sensitive roles e.g., placing very young or inexperienced councillors in key cabinet positions overseeing complex portfolios and massive budgets.

Internal infighting and bullying behaviour
e.g., the example in the OP

Ignoring or failing to act on statutory duties
e.g., cancelling crucial committee, community and/or scrutiny meetings, delaying audits beyond statutory deadlines.

Making misleading claims about financial performance or savings e.g., publicising supposed millions in savings that were later disputed or unverified by finance officers.

Creating instability through frequent leadership changes e.g., multiple leadership resignations and reshuffles within months, causing confusion and disruption to governance continuity and costing the tax payer hundreds of thousands.

Intimidating or threatening council officers
e.g., implying that failure to comply with political instructions or information requests could result in disciplinary action.

Withholding or manipulating information from opposition members e.g., refusing to allow opposition councillors to review their doge report before publishing it and refusing to provide sources for the data within the report after accusations of it being misleading, superficial and derived from X not internal data.

But I'm sure you'll ignore all this and find a way
to defend them still 😅

JillyJoy · 19/10/2025 13:02

Buzyizzy217 · 18/10/2025 21:02

Sorry, but you can’t put Zack Polanski in the same boat as NF. Or even Ed Davey.

Yes, I think I can.
Shall we start with the difference between MAN and WOMAN?

Boomer55 · 19/10/2025 13:05

There is no council in the land that can manage it’s budget responsibly. Regardless of party. They have just proved they’re no better, despite the promises.

ThumbelinaPocket · 19/10/2025 13:07

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I don’t think you hate to say it at all, actually. I think you’re quite confident and comfortable in your views.

Boomer55 · 19/10/2025 13:09

JillyJoy · 19/10/2025 13:02

Yes, I think I can.
Shall we start with the difference between MAN and WOMAN?

Yes - agreed. Polanski is a joke to laugh at. 😂. Not to be taken seriously.

LlynTegid · 19/10/2025 13:11

I don't laugh at the KCC meeting referred to by the OP.

I hope it makes people realise that whilst other political parties in office have to a greater or lesser degree failed them, the answer is not Reform.