Friend wants to bring dog over to my house and I'm not sure how to say no

[lilybit2025]

Got a group of friends over tomorrow for wine night and dinner. My friend has a lovely dog but it's a bit chaotic (springer spaniel) and last time weed all over our carpet. We've just done a renovation and everything is brand new. She's asked if she can bring the dog as no one's can have her but we also have a Mini Doxie who's quite protective and I just don't want the mess or the stress from it all. How do I politely say no, I have a feeling she will likely cancel if I say no too...

YOU appear to b the 1 making assumptions, do you even know what an assumption is?
Have you ever lived with a canine?
in no way did i suggest the Springer is a female canine.

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YANBU to tell her "No"

YABU to think this is something you need to start a thread about / have any sort of dilemma about / have any uncertainty over 'how to tell her'.

She said 'Can I bring my dog' you answer 'No'. It's not really difficult.

Just reading that makes me want to bleugh😬

FFS what don't you understand? OP doesn't want the rotten hound in her home.

So, what on God's green earth makes you think she wants to trap the stinking beast so it can piss with impunity on her newly renovated kitchen floor? In the kitchen! In the fucking kitchen!

Wow what an unpleasant angry person you are!

Entitled dog owners often bring out the anger. Especially when they make ridiculous suggestions about installing Stair gates.

Use your own dog as the excuse. "Sorry, but Rover gets very territorial and I don't want either of them to come to any harm."

It wouldn’t need to be ‘installed’ I have a portable one similar to a toddler safety gate. They’re really handy! Maybe ‘stinkycheesemoose’ could use one to control her outbursts at random strangers ?

“Your dog won’t die if it stays at home for 2 hours while you have dinner at my house, so no it can’t come”

Springers are a complete pain at the best of times. My friend has a mix breed which has springer in it and the bloody thing doesn’t stop pestering you from the minute you walk in, until the minute leave. Constantly jumping up, jumping on you, trying to lick your face, bringing you toys to throw. It’s exhausting. Granted my friend hasn’t trained the thing very well either but still drives me insane and I’m actually a dog lover!

I always ask and would never assume with a dog

I find it utterly bizarre that people think the friend is being unreasonable to ask. Clearly she isn’t assuming the dog is invited, otherwise she’d have brought it without asking. Some people are happy to have visiting dogs and others aren’t. The way you find out is by asking.

The fact that some people assume they always need to say yes to any request is their problem. Asking is a normal way of communicating.

the has already destroyed your carpet once. That was her one chance and she blew it. Why can’t the dog stay home. I don’t understand this thing where people think their animals are humans. It’s not. I meant the dog. Whyyy can’t it stay home?

They shouldn’t even ask.

@bridgetreilly

she is unreasonable to ask OP because of the dog pissing in OP’s house before. Who wants dog piss on their floor?!

Anyway, I've said no sorry, hopefully doesn't cause any distain between us!

Did you give a reason?

Say "no".
If she is a good friend she will understand. My dd brought a springer spaniel to stay and it destroyed something my Mum had made me. A few months later she rehomed the dog as it was destroying her house.

Not all springer spaniels are like this. We have friends who have an extremely well behaved one who is welcome anywhere. It's all in the training.

Why can’t she leave it at home? It’s a dog, not a child.

Just wondering what happened @lilybit2025 ?

Did you tell them?

Did they just accept it?

Did they strop ?

Did they come ?

I wouldn’t want a dog in my house

Quite mad to ask to bring your dog! Bloody hell! I’m going for dinner next month, I’ll just take my two very lively dogs! To be fair, they’d just stay under the table and be completely fine, but I just wouldn’t dream of asking.