Friend wants to bring dog over to my house and I'm not sure how to say no

[lilybit2025]

Got a group of friends over tomorrow for wine night and dinner. My friend has a lovely dog but it's a bit chaotic (springer spaniel) and last time weed all over our carpet. We've just done a renovation and everything is brand new. She's asked if she can bring the dog as no one's can have her but we also have a Mini Doxie who's quite protective and I just don't want the mess or the stress from it all. How do I politely say no, I have a feeling she will likely cancel if I say no too...

Spaniels absolutely stink. I wouldn't have the creature in my house if it was the best behaved dog on earth. And one with form for pissing on my carpets?

I think it’s fair enough to say that given recent renovations (I am on day 4 or trying to get dog pee out of wool carpet that will cost me 1400+ to replace if product no 5 doesn’t work) and territorial guarding of your own pooch, that this sadly will not work. I’d offer to reschedule to a night when she CAN get a dog sitter.

When they became fur babies, not pets.

Not just spaniels. All dogs stink. Their owners get used to it and don't notice.

@INX Why did you use the word Literally? It literally added nothing to your post.

I love springers. My neighbour’s springer is my bestest favorite dog ever but they’re so bouncy and even when they’re well trained, they vibrate with excitement. So no. Just no.

And they do stink. Next Door Jakey farts poison.

Just say no. I have a dog, I wouldn’t expect to be able to take it to someone else’s house. It’s just one of those things you don’t do. If it causes a problem between you then that’s because she is a problem, and who needs friends like that?!

I see OP has said no now. Perfectly reasonable to say no if you don't want someone else's dog in your house. Past peeing and your own protective dog make it more so.

We have a dog and wouldn't think of taking it with us to lunch/dinner.

I have a feeling she will likely cancel if I say no too
Excellent, you have an opportunity here to kill two birds with a one stone!
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Sorry if this is a dumb question as I've never had a dog (I have a cat), but why is it needed for someone to stay with the dog? From the post it sounds like this is just an evening with friends rather than going out of town/holiday. Can't dogs be left alone for a couple of hours? What do you do with the dog when you have to go to work?

I hate having to take the dog everywhere we go - have to stay in dog friendly rooms in hotels or holiday cottages, faff around for animal health certificates to go abroad and deworming to come home and have a special ( horrible) cabin on the ferry. Keep having to let it out at night when we stay anywhere.
Have to leave events early because of the dog.
I completely agree with you not wanting someone else's animal in your house op. Your friend will have to fit in with your ideas

aw just let her and her fur baby come. You can clean up a bit of dog wee for a friend surely?? @lilybit2025

Not a dumb question at all @LoveWine123. Generally there is no need for dogs to have sitters or be taken along for a dinner with friends unless it has issues. It may have separation anxiety but (my guess) maybe this one isn't fully house trained so friend doesn't want it weeing around in her home - a one year old really should be

If my dog pissed over someone's carpet I would A. Pay to have it professionally cleaned and B. Never have the barefaced cheek to ask if I could bring the dog over again (And I have dogs and love dogs).

I think guidance is up to 4 hours for a 'normal' dog-obviously less with puppies, dogs who have illnesses mental or otherwise, elderly dogs who need to go out more etc etc.

I don't leave my dog more than 3 ish hours generally but that's rare becuase I WFH. I'll do it but I don't like it-if I go out for the day or such, only because she's not used to being alone and I don't think It's fair, plus if I go out i am usually exhausted enough when I get back and she's giddy as hell and wants to play/go out.

Depending on where friend is travelling from, what time dinner is etc I could see it being a lot more than a couple of hours @LoveWine123 . Even if dinner is at 20:00, most folk may arrive at 19:00. Hours travel there and back, few drinks...and most dinner parties start quite early and end quite late.

Say no and let her cancel. My sister asked if she could bring her pug over once. I said no because he'll spend the whole visit trying to hump my dog and jizzing all over my furniture, and his jizz is green.

She got it. He's never been in the 7 years I've been here.

"Sorry, my dog won't accept another dog in the house" is fine.

Agree with other posters...just say no!
But be prepared that she may turn up with the dog anyway, in which case she's just a CF.

'Sorry but we can't risk your dog pissing on our new carpets/flooring the way it did last time.'

She's got an absolute nerve to even suggest it. I have a cat and the only 'accident' he's ever had was when I forgot to give him a litter tray and had a lie in.

Of course you can say "no" - she's made the choice to not bother with properly training her dog, and the consequence for her is that this affects her social life. You aren't unreasonable and you shouldn't try to cushion this with soft words or excuses. Unfortunately while you love spending time with her, you cannot have her dog in your house so if she can't make other arrangements for the dog you will have to see her somewhere else on a different occasion. Her dog would spoil the whole evening for everyone so she can't expect the whole group to suffer because of her choices. Make a suggestion for a park meetup or something else that would work for both of you, at the same time as firmly holding the line that the dog will not be admitted to your house.

Okay I must ask this, is 'jizz' ejaculation? I have googled and it seems so!
If so, do all pugs have green 'jizz'? Or all dogs?

I have a female dog currently and all my dogs have been neutered or spayed so I have yet to experience this!
There's a border terrier I see sometimes who 'humps' my arm when I pet him. I would rather not dog 'jizz' on me!

People need to accept that not everyone is in a position to entertain dogs. I have a friend like that and we have to meet on neutral territory because her 3 dogs are crazy and they absolutely stink. I went into her porch once to drop off a card and nearly threw up. So long as you are pleasant and say sorry I have not capacity as my dog is very house protective, she has to understand or else you have lost nothing. A true friend will meet you half way.

What the hell is a "Doxie"?

A doxie was a slang word for a prostitute

Yes, jizz is ejaculation, and no, apparently green ejaculate is the sign of an infection.

Which is two reasons not to want him humping all my cushions and ejaculating.

No idea why she hasn't had him neutered as he does it at her house too. 😷

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I assume you're joking? I bloody hope so!