Wish DS would shut up about his gfs ex career

[LyndieLoula]

DS is 25, he’s intelligent and generally I get on really well. About a year ago he moved abroad, he seems happy with this choice and about 6 months ago he started dating a new girl. His ex wrecked him (cheated, lied and was generally very manipulative) so I was happy to see him happy. However every single time we talk he cannot help but mention that his GF used to model. Which is true she did used to model and walked in some shows at fashion weeks etc. She quit and finished uni got a degree in Literature and Philosophy and is now building a career.
I do not care that his GF used to model and DS always says it in a very smug way, it makes me wonder if he is with the girl because he likes her or if he just enjoys saying his partner is an ex model. It’s infuriating and it really makes me view him quite poorly! My younger DS said that sometimes if he shows his brother a picture of a girl he’s going on a date with he replies “yeah she’s alright, I feel like I’ve been spoiled dating an ex model” which is beyond sickening to me.
AIBU to be really infuriated and disappointed that this seems to be something he can’t help but mention?? I’ve told him we know she used to be a model and that’s great but we’d much rather hear about what she’s doing now but it seems to have fallen on deaf ears!

Yeah I’d be mortified. My nephew is engaged to an actual current model and is very low key about it. But he is mature and kind and has nothing to prove. Occasionally jokes that he is super proud that she accepted a Short King because she is 6’1 and an inch taller than him.

Interesting comment on models especially since there are many types of modeling.

Sound advice.

Looking back on my earlier suggestions, I do agree, they are geared to disparaging her to discourage him.

Instead, I also agree that turning the conversation to her personality, hobbies, interests, passions, skills, achievements etc would be a better way to go.

Agreed. Putting down his brother is particularly twattish.

Spoiled? He sounds incredibly shallow and the humble brain is embarrassing

as his mum you can speak to him straight - at least i think that's what mum's should do- (well kind of straight!! I try my best)
but yes tell him
i think if I don't put son right he will go out in the world and look big twat for something I should have alerted him to at home
so yes tell him before others laugh at him

Everybody ages. Former models often tend to age better than average (amazing bone structure, skin, whatever).

But former models (or their partners) who try to hold on to the glory of a youth defined only by beauty tend to end up either messing up their body interfering with the aging process - or boring the pants off everyone around them with never having anything new to talk about.

It sounds like she's taken admirable steps to ensure she's not defined in a box by what she briefly did in her youth.... I hope he catches up quickly on that or he will be the one left on the shelf!

Yes it might seem shallow how your darling Son consistently mentions, his gf used to model - You stated yourself how his ex gf completely wrecked him so immensely understandably, his confidence is destroyed & isn't it completely comprehendable then, that your dear Son, just can't believe his luck? Wouldn't we all be in disbelief if we too, had been cheated on & totally wrecked, by our exes?
Every time he mentions he's with someone so beautiful they used to model, is like he's pinching himself, naturally
Surely as his loving Mum you can understand this?
Yes the comments to his siblings are unnecessary but obviously just come from insecurity & I'm sure a quiet word with him, from you, his Mum would put a stop to your dear Son indirectly making put down comments towards your other dear Son? 💚

Yes I think as a Mum, there's absolutely nothing wrong with reminding our dear Children how beauty's only skin deep & inner beauty's much more important 🙏

I think MN wins first prize for the most sanctimonious posts on this thread ever. Truly unbelievable 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾.

You could say, "Oh! Talking about ex-models. John next door got a great deal on a computer set up/TV or whatever because it was an ex-model that they took off the display for him!"

"What did wotshername used to model? Was she on Only Fans, only my friend at work might know her?!"

"I used to have 2 lovely sons, but one is so hung up on his girlfriend being an ex-model that he just has to mention it at every opportunity, so he may soon be an ex-son!"

"Hello. Who is this?" He answers with his name. "Oh! You're the one dating the ex-model, right? I wonder what she used to model & why she hasn't gone back to it since Uni? Was it toothpaste?"

Just tell him if he has nothing else he could say about her, then just don't mention her. That you're sure she has many other great things about her rather than being just another ex-model!!

The son is the idiot here. Why ask him things that make the poor girl look bad?