Wish DS would shut up about his gfs ex career

[LyndieLoula]

DS is 25, he’s intelligent and generally I get on really well. About a year ago he moved abroad, he seems happy with this choice and about 6 months ago he started dating a new girl. His ex wrecked him (cheated, lied and was generally very manipulative) so I was happy to see him happy. However every single time we talk he cannot help but mention that his GF used to model. Which is true she did used to model and walked in some shows at fashion weeks etc. She quit and finished uni got a degree in Literature and Philosophy and is now building a career.
I do not care that his GF used to model and DS always says it in a very smug way, it makes me wonder if he is with the girl because he likes her or if he just enjoys saying his partner is an ex model. It’s infuriating and it really makes me view him quite poorly! My younger DS said that sometimes if he shows his brother a picture of a girl he’s going on a date with he replies “yeah she’s alright, I feel like I’ve been spoiled dating an ex model” which is beyond sickening to me.
AIBU to be really infuriated and disappointed that this seems to be something he can’t help but mention?? I’ve told him we know she used to be a model and that’s great but we’d much rather hear about what she’s doing now but it seems to have fallen on deaf ears!

Thinking about it, I do mention quite a lot that my OH used to work for the tax office.

Im not sure why

It doesnt have much of a cachet.

Sounds like she’s a trophy girlfriend? He’s with her because she’s pretty, not because she’s intelligent and fun to be around…..because she makes him look good. It will end badly 😬

He sounds like a bit of an insufferable twat, to be honest. Does he care about her beyond surface level at all?

You finding it "beyond sickening" seems an overreaction, though.

But I'd be pulling him up on disparaging other women, for sure.

This is exactly what my parents would do. I can hear my dad's voice now 'A model, really, I'll just shout it out of the window to the whole street, they might not have noticed the 42 times you mentioned it before. Everyone listen up! DS is dating an ex model!'

Rubbish!

a) it’s really, really annoying and embarrassing and

b) its worryingly misogynistic.

There’s a difference between being proud of his beautiful girlfriend and being a rude boastful twat about it.

But he doesn't seem to care that she is also his intelligent girlfriend and a university student!

I was a model, for a very short time, did some catwalk stuff. It really isn’t a big deal tbh, I’m not gorgeous, by any means, but had a lovely figure… which is now destroyed by babies and my love of crisps. Unless you’re a top model, you’re really just quite normal looking.

Exactly this! The degree and the career she is building are things to boast about, not an accident of genes.

At 25 years old I’d simply tell him that he’s being a cringey twat.

So you brought up your son to be a smug twat? Sorry for you.

Yanbu, but he's young

Tell him he's turning into Alan Partridge.

Or even...ask the ex-model girlfriend those questions.

exactly!

Ugh.

You obviously need to take the piss at every single opportunity...

...but also tell him straight that it is the least interesting thing about her, it's insulting to her to keep zoning in on the one quality about herself that she has no control over, when she's a hard-working (clever, funny, warm, caring, insert whatever) woman that he is reducing to an object and using to make himself feel better and his brother feel worse.

Best comeback !

This is exactly what would happen in our house if our DS tried this. He would soon stop.

Very annoying to go on and on, but you can’t say anything

@LyndieLoula Your DS is young and is therefore a bit silly. As he grows older and experiences some abuse in the workplace, along with some inevitable negative life events, he will calm down and then he genuinely won't even think about his ex gf.

This is how it would go down in our house too.

Ugh! He's a bellend.

He’s obviously incredibly insecure. So I’d just pity him.

Don’t give him any reaction when he mentions the modelling. Hopefully he’ll get bored of it.

Or hopefully the girl will get sick of him and dump him (sorry!)

It IS his current girlfriend.

It is if you are using as a reason to put down your brothers partners, it’s quite grim actually!

Pretty sure you wouldn’t use your dads time in the west end to demonise others ‘achievements’?