To think Sainbury's should not be selling this greeting card.

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I can't even think of a reason why this card should exist. And I was amazed to see it being sold in Sainsbury's of all places.

I read this with a Scottish accent.

I wouldn't buy it. Obviously adults understand that it's meant as a joke and it's about being allowed treats at Grandma's that you're not allowed at home but I would never encourage a child to keep secrets from their parents - even innocent ones.

Surprises are fine - like we've got a present for someone's birthday and we're not telling them what it is now, but they will find out soon. Secrets are not. Small children should not be put in a position where they have to decide whether it's ok to tell.

I see the point that you’re making, but the sort of people who would be drawn to this card would be the people who are thinking chips for tea, extra sweets, staying up late and using an entire bottle of bubble bath in their nightly bath. It’s innocent.

The people who would see the negative connotations behind it are going to see the negative connotations in lots of innocent things. You can’t get rid of all of those things in case they offend someone. That’s a very slippery slope.

But "What happens at grandma's stays at grandma's" is a really common quote. Hence it being on a card

And no, probably wouldnt write the same about grandad because unfortunatly it could be seen as sinister

I don't understand what your issue is?

I'm not suggesting anything should be banned or that anyone should make a complaint. It is what it is. Sweary cards are fine (as long as you know your audience) or whatever.

I'd be more likely to buy "Fun times happen at Grandma's" or "Grandma's house is full of fun" or something like that that conveys the message without the secrecy. The card doesn't even have pictures of sweets or treats or anything. It's just pink.

I think we should be careful that the messages that we're giving to children are the ones we think we're giving.

Jesus, OP. Unclench. You’ll feel better.

I think it’s fine I gave my DGD a chocolate lolly today and only told DiL about the home made fish, mash, veg and passion fruit yoghurt

Wait for it….

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Generally only if the grandma in question is the MIL.

Stop making a drama over nothing. You clearly don’t have enough to occupy your mind so you’re wandering around dreaming up problems.

I agree with you OP. It's not a joke about spoiling grandkids, it's a joke about teaching kids that it's fine to keep secrets from their parents.

They might. Ask them in your overreaction email to the CEO.

Which every child did, still does and always will.

Oh dear, another one looking to be offended. What's up with you, its a joke, of course I have done a few things when that have stayed with Gran that Mother does not allow. I suspect my daughter knows and chooses to say nothing. The odd sweet at the wrong time hurts no one.
The card is not wrong, you are. If it bothers you so much, are you anxious and do you need therapy.
I hate this fun sponge attitude.

I think it is even worse if you receive a card from someones pet, and it's signed with a paw print.

(Although I would accept a typed one from one of those infinite monkeys who are currently typing out the Complete Works of Shakespeare.)

I’m with you OP.
I get why people think it’s funny but as a survivor of childhood trauma I find it creepy and not at all funny.

FFS pearl clutching par excellence. IT'S A JOKE. And yes why wouldn't it say what happens at grandads stays at grandads?

What's inside the card, and how is it marketed (to/from whom, for what occasion)? It looks like it may be a knock off of this one which is marketed as a (US) Mother's Day card and says inside "Happy Mother's Day to the sweetest and coolest Grandma ever!" It seems to be marketed for adult daughters/sons to give their own mothers as a kind of tongue in cheek acknowledgement/thank you for the care they give their young grandchildren. That makes a LOT more sense than a small child giving their grandparent this card; the child certainly wouldn't "get" the joke, but it's fine between adults who would both find it funny knowing the full context.

If you still think it's inappropriate, ignore the "calm down dear!' gaslighters and go ahead and complain - but to be effective you'd have to spell out WHY you see an issue with it, in the context in which Sainsbury's/the manufacturer are presenting it.

I don t think its meant in the wayne rooney sense

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I have a T shirt and a wall hanging that say that.

I would buy dozens of those!

It would be quite the improvement. My handwriting is shit.

If you think that's bad, you should see what Thortful sells 🤣🤣

You have definitely lost any sense of humour you may have had!

I now want to rant about grandmas.

My mother took herself off to chuckle like mutley when my kids pulled cheeky shit that would have got me a clip round the ear when I was a kid

I used to say to her what the hell, mum, if I'd done that when I was a kid you'd have hit the roof!

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