Things you wouldn't admit in real life part 2

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Are you a GP and is it mostly women you want to say it to?

I think this too and hate the way it's now pushed on society as not only acceptable but as the new "normal". I think people would be far less inclined to break up nuclear families because say, the DH is a bit boring, if it was still a bit frowned upon. Kids suffer in most step families. Even worse when they then break up and it's on to another new "blended family". It's not a "blended family" it's mum or dad marrying a new unrelated person that will never have a parental bond with you as a child and probably secretly resents you (and nice versa ) and shoved with a load of new "brothers and sisters" that aren't brothers and sisters: they're unrelated children of the dad or mum's new partner that you're forced to pretend you're some kind of sibling to.

Have a look online for a cream that is designed for "chefs arse". It's a real thing and there are topical creams that really do work!

Since giving birth to my gorgeous DD a year ago and a subsequent miscarriage a few weeks ago iv been so mean to my DH, who is a really good man and doesn't deserve it

I agree. Another thing I will admit on here: I don’t think being a bit bored is justification for breaking up an otherwise happy family with young children.

I’ve seen quite a bit of this. Adults tend to minimise the devastating effects on young children to suit their purposes.

That’s pretty strange logic. How are you fighting back? Do you think that the supermarkets will lower their prices because you’re stealing? It’s a cost to the business so everyone just pays more. That’s how business works.

If you’re so proud of your lack of moral compass why aren’t you telling friends, family and colleagues? Are you worried someone will shop for being a thief?

saying that certain things have proved beneficial to a medical condition is in no way the same as saying that the condition does not exist

I have no friends.
I absolutely can't have any.
They may ask about my dc..
One was arrested for sexual offences against a small dc.
It was me who rang the police.
Knowing I would never see my dc again..

The support on mnet has been what's kept me sane for years.
Nobody irl knows.

I'm secretly buying a house so I can leave my 'D'P. Hes cheated me out of the home we bought together (inheritance, paid off the mortgage with it so says I only own a single figure percent of it, he's much wealthier than I am so I can't afford to fight it in court). I'm waiting until I have the keys in my hand before I tell him it's over and move out. I hate him for what he's done to me.

That’s me most days.

In the US currently 10% of school-aged kids have been diagnosed with ADHD. In some states, like Louisiana, it was up to 16% at one point.

Are we really saying that over 10% of the population have this disorder? Or could it be their brains are actually on the spectrum of normal human variety?

Homo sapiens evolved to live in small hunter gatherer groups out in nature. Personally I don't think it's surprising that put in a modern environment that's very different to our 'natural habitat', some people struggle.

As I've said before on this thread, there are clear links between ADHD and diet - humans aren't designed to eat junk food. There's evidence showing a link between screen time and worse ADHD symptoms - humans aren't designed to thrive while doom scrolling on smartphones. There's evidence linking being in nature to improved ADHD symptoms - humans aren't designed to live in noisy, concrete cities all their lives.

I also think diseases like type 2 diabetes are lifestyle induced. Doesn't mean I believe diabetes is completely made up. I just think people should radically reduce sugar and refined carb intake to manage their insulin levels before reaching for ever-increasing doses of medication. I see ADHD similarly.

(https://www.scienceopen.com/hosted-document?doi=10.57197/JDR-2024-0106

https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/sugar-and-adhd#research

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11457377/

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11203786/)

It depends on what you mean by "bored."

Agree that there are ways of addressing being bored, but if you find someone boring it is hell on earth to spend the rest of your life with them, and equally awful as a child watching that happen for 10, 20. 30, 40, 50 years to the parent(s) you love and want the best for.

The trouble is that, at risk of sounding like a conspiracy theorist, pharmaceutical companies want to extend the value of their products. I don't blame them: massive investment goes into R&D, and they must somehow recoup the expense before drugs become generic (i.e. anyone can make them, more cheaply). This creates pressure to prescribe earlier for a broader range of symptoms, and over time this pushes the diagnostic boundaries wider and wider. In many ways this is a good thing, because it covers gaps that have existed in healthcare. And in some ways it's really interesting, because they will find new ways to use an old drug (e.g. thalidomide, clearly catastrophic in pregnancy, has been found to have value in cancer treatment precisely because of the way it inhibits cell growth).

I feel your pain, have you tried Betnovate cream if not definitely do it could really help xx

I do say this IRL, but only to certain people - we are collectively bringing up a generation of kids who have no resilience whatsoever. Who lack social skills. Who lack ambition. Who will be the unemployed of the future. And only a small percentage of this is down to disability or a diagnosed neurological disorder. A tiny percentage in fact. Most of it is permissive ‘parenting’ and the idea that children’s rights somehow means that no one has any accountability for anything any more. It’s too late by the time these kids get into their late teens/early twenties. The damage is done. Not all kids of course… but so, so, so many. And that includes some kids of my close friends unfortunately.

completely agree with this.....not sure how it links to a statement about ADHD not existing?

I'm so sorry, that sounds horrific.

I really don't want to downplay or minimise what your poor son is going through. Completely ignore me if you don't find this helpful but...

I once knew a 7 year old child who was extremely depressed, saying he wanted to die, life was agony etc. Last I heard, he'd been diagnosed with Lyme's disease and the doctors thought that was the main cause of his depression and other symptoms. From what I understand they started him on antibiotics and he's doing better.

I have no expertise in this field. This is completely anecdotal. I'm just sharing the story on the off chance it might be useful.

Well, I think ADHD etc is real, but I think perhaps the diagnostic boundaries have stretched to include people who might benefit from other interventions before being prescribed medication, and it is possible that some people are quite happy with getting a label.

I never said it didn't exist.

This is 100% true, but I know no one will believe me. I have only told my DH and parents irl.

I have seen the end of the world.

This was through a full immersion vision, fully awake, where I was physically taken there and experienced it firsthand.

Timescale wise I don’t know but is not long, I believe months or years, but not decades. The buildings I saw and urban landscapes were modern, same as in any city now.

I know no-one will believe me and I will probably be hated for posting ‘something religious and ridiculous’ etc etc. I don’t know why I’m even posting but this is an honest disclosure thread, ‘say what you can’t say irl’. I wish you all could see what I was shown, you wouldn’t doubt it either, and it would change what you believe.

The New Testament teaches about Jesus’s return, that this time he will not come as a suffering servant like the first time, but as the King of King’s to judge the earth and the sky will be torn open. Those who believe in him will be ‘caught up’ together to heaven in what is known as the rapture. (The Left Behind film is a clumsy and not at all biblically accurate telling of this but gives a general gist).

Honestly, I hope with all my heart to not be here when the destruction comes. It was terrifying. All the wars and natural disasters we’ve had are nothing in comparison.

I'm sorry you experienced that, it sounds terrifying. I am not scared because I don't believe that what you saw was objective reality, but I can see how it felt real to you.

I believe that you believe you experienced this. I don't believe that you actually experienced it though.

I know. That’s why I don’t bother saying anything irl. It wouldn’t be believed.

I find a lot of people I meet just rather boring with dull lives. A lot of people seem to lack imagination and do the same things all the time. I guess they like it though so would never say IRL.

People who use wanky jargon at work only do it to male themselves feel better and most people can see through the bullshit.

100%. There's a big "you go girl. You only get one life. Life's too short to be bored " yes, and your kids only get one precious childhood: it's too short to fuck it up. And then there's this assumption that parents are "always arguing or warring " when it's not the case if it's just the wife finds her DH a bit dull (or vice versa ) or they've just lapsed into "friendship". And this new guilt trip of "the kids will pick up on it if you're not happy " : there's a massive difference between being actively "unhappy" and going round moping and feeling depressed than being in a "boring" marriage. And even if kids do "pick up" on their parents not being "in love" (pfft) then that's hardly comparable to ripping apart their home and reducing their lives to being ferried back and forth to dads/mums every few days.

Divorce is a big and devastating adverse childhood experience that shakes their whole foundation of stability. It's really not something to consider lightly.

And too many people have unrealistic expectations of what "happiness" is anyway. Contentment is far more realistic.

I actually think it's a wise sacrifice to put your children's happiness first and stay together when deep down it's mostly for the sake of the children and the security everyone benefits from. You can be a perfectly happy "family" but not a particularly electric couple together.