Things you wouldn't admit in real life part 2

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then don't.

Wow you certainly do carry a lot of judgement around with you about the perfect family 🤣🤣

I can't really get out of it. It would hurt my fiance's feelings too much and we have lots of family and friends planning to travel a long way.

My objection isn't really to him as a partner, just to being and getting married.

Im one and done, definitely not a career type as im unemployed!

I'd actually love a second but I've got irreparable bladder damage from hyperemesis when pregnant with my son, and if I had hyperemesis with a second I don't know how I'd be a parent to my existing child as I couldn't stand the smell of toothpaste, food and even tap water. I spent days just laid in the bathroom on a duvet for easier toilet access and lost 30kg.

Is it that you don’t want to be married to your partner or that you don’t want a big wedding? Can you talk to them about it ? Weddings are so expensive and considering how much life is costing generally at the moment, then better you just do the legal bits if it’s the marriage you want. And if it’s wider than this, then you absolutely need to let your partner know.

The situation is extremely dysfunctional because my mother caused an engagement ring to be purchased, apparently believing that I am living in sin.

So I felt I had to accept the engagement, as I didn't act to stop the engagement ring from being acquired.

Honestly, it's really too late. I am trying to focus on the fact that this will bring together a lot of family members who otherwise would not be in one place at the same time.

The worst part is that I have to have bridesmaids and pretend to my friends that I am excited. I don't think I am doing a great job of this because I have little interest in anything related to the wedding

That it fucks me off when people overreact to mental health just to jump on the bandwagon.
No you dont suffer from anxiety, its called nerves! Everyone gets 'nervous' from time to time when they do things outside of their comfort zone ffs!
I have several close friends/family that suffer from REAL MH issues and you would never know until its too late....

honestly, if you don't know your fiance well enough to be honest with him, should you be going ahead anyway?

I do know him very well. It would completely break his heart and probably cause permanent damage to our relationship because he would be sad and insecure forever.

I could have written this too. I am beyond frustrated with my DH who simply shrugs his shoulders and says “but I like food”. Like you, I have remained the same size 10 despite 2 DC, hypothyroidism, various medications renowned for weight gain, menopause & lipodoema. I look at him and think WTAF on a regular basis. If the tables were turned there would be absolutely no way he would stay with me or find me attractive.

Sure, but that's balanced out by your early retirement. I also don't believe anyone can work 15 hours a day 7 days a week for very long at all.

It's a light-hearted comment. I see retired people and I laugh to my friend LOOK AT THOSE LAZY GITS! 🤨😂

Oh - anyone who has ever had cancer or any other serious illness is exempt from my judgement. 🤭

That sounds so debilitating. Please go back to your GP. In the meantime have you tried antihistamines to help reduce the itch? And washing with a coal tar based shampoo like Polytar instead of normal shower gel or soap? Also a good thick ointment based moisturiser like emulsifying ointment or Hydromol ointment and apply frequently throughout the day? If you can reduce the itch you may be able to break the cycle of scratching which breaks the skin, makes the skin drier and therefore continue to itch. I'm sure you have probably tried a million things but sometimes back to basics can help.

I think it was a complete waste of time and money for DD to do the degree she did. Yes, she enjoyed it but I don’t think she’s good enough to make a career from it (creative type of degree). There’s many far talented than her, that haven’t made it.

Same - my parents were 10/11 when the war broke out and I’m in my 50s (they’re long time dead).

If she enjoyed it, it wasn't a waste. I hate the idea that everything has to be for profit and practicality.

Then why are you getting married? Are you in a forced marriage type situation?!

You obviously don’t know what “literally” means. Read your post I replied to. The one about living on benefits. HAHAHA. You have serious prejudices.

I have a four year gap. They love each other.

I wholeheartedly apologise if you feel I’ve asked too many questions or seem disapproving. I’m genuinely interested in the answers and I’m not judging at all 🌷

Not wishing to compare the merits or otherwise of various religions, but just being a pedant…

”An eye for an eye “ is often taken out of context. It’s not a Christian but a Jewish concept which actually urges moderation in justice. What it meant was - only take an eye for an eye (metaphorically), not a life, or several lives, for the loss of an eye.

It’s like Maggie Thatcher’s oft-misinterpreted “There’s no such thing as society”. If you read on in that interview, she explains that there’s no abstract thing called society - it’s made up of all we individuals and depends on our attitudes and efforts. But it suits people not to acknowledge that.

I hate celebrating Christmas. I’m very tired of my elderly stubborn parent. I love them but I wonder how long this will go on and I’m resentful that so much of my retirement is spent caring for them

Even though they wouldn't say so to my face, know my in laws think I am a shit mother, and they are probably right. The truth is each day I don't drive off a bridge is a victory for me - although no-one who knows me would think so

I was the same. Do you mind me asking why you won't call it off?

Also who the fuck is so invested in other family types ? I couldn't give a shit how many times you've pushed a baby out of your fanny

I generally find people who hide behind "being an introvert" just boring and unable to sustain a conversation.