To believe we can retire the word "shagging"?

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I was a teenager in the 90s, and the word for casual, semi casual, or run of the mill sexual congress was "shag", as in "shagging" "have a shag", "quick shag", and "shagged em".

I just think, this word has had its day. It has connotations with vintage rugs, thick carpets, unruly beards, and perhaps panting sheepdogs, that are uncomfortable. Other words exist. I don't want to be the self declared Word Police, and appreciate there will be other points of view on this very important topic, but please can we all consider never using it again?

Agreed. Sex is probably my favourite thing in the world and it's really important to me. It actually really grates on me when people - by which I mean Mumsnet, really - imply that it's something a bit icky and gross, or that men enjoy it more than women, or say that they recoil at the notion of doing it without having a shower immediately prior etc etc.

However, the fact that it's important to me doesn't mean I have to be all serious and reverent about it. It's sex, not a sacred rite. I'm just not an earnest person about anything, really. I'm naturally flippant. I completely understand that a lot of people find that irritating, of course, and they're more than entitled to be annoyed by it, but it doesn't mean I'm embarrassed or uncomfortable about sex. At all.

Screwing?

@KimberleyClark i prefer bonking, it sounds more mutual than screwing!

friend's husband insists on saying “knobbing”

I haven’t read the full thread but a shag, was well as a bird, was the name of a movie in the late 80s. I think it was about dancing. I worked on a local newspaper and got sent a promotional T-shirt with Shag across the front. Never wore it 😂

Oooo another retro expression "rumpy pumpy"

Exactly this!

Many women on here teach their children that term instead of "farting", which they apparently find too crude. So perhaps not.

I nominate "coitus".

Mango. It was a codeword my husband and i used in uni. Occasionally we still use it now for giggle but mostly we just say having sex or my husband wont use words at all and will just press his erection into me to say he wants it. I haven't said shag in years, it sounds, along with most euphemisms with the exception of fucking, very juvenile to me. My Mum still says bonking.

Roll in the hay!

What should we replace it with? Making love? 🤣

Yes, 'bonking' is one of those words I only really remember appearing in tabloid newspapers, rather than ever being heard in real life conversations. Along with 'love rat'.

A lot of very thought provoking and important replies here and thank god this has been treated with the seriousness it deserves.

I had forgotten all about the terms bonking, or having it off. I favor these over anything involving Mrs Tiggywinkle, and I'll need to check HR guidance on anything involving porking.

Maybe only if you say "making sweet lurve" in my opinion

My brother once attended a Roger Moore theme party as Sean Connery. That raised a few eyebrows I can tell you....

I hate the term smash

I always hear this in the voice of Cartman from South Park

Riding?

Bonking sounds really posh to me! 😆

anyone else really gagging for a shag after reading this thread?

Rumpy Pumpy?

This. It is a good word.

Banging, surely

It’s only posh if you say “one would love a bonking”.

Rumpy Pumpy??

Exactly 😏😁