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To believe we can retire the word "shagging"?

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ReplacementBusService · 13/10/2025 22:07

I was a teenager in the 90s, and the word for casual, semi casual, or run of the mill sexual congress was "shag", as in "shagging" "have a shag", "quick shag", and "shagged em".

I just think, this word has had its day. It has connotations with vintage rugs, thick carpets, unruly beards, and perhaps panting sheepdogs, that are uncomfortable. Other words exist. I don't want to be the self declared Word Police, and appreciate there will be other points of view on this very important topic, but please can we all consider never using it again?

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SparklyCardigan · 13/10/2025 22:12

The trouble is there's no obvious replacement. Fucking is too crude, lovemaking is too twee. So shagging it is, I'm afraid.

BlueJuniper94 · 13/10/2025 22:15

Am I still allowed to call someone a bit of a shagger, if they are one?

BlueJuniper94 · 13/10/2025 22:15

SparklyCardigan · 13/10/2025 22:12

The trouble is there's no obvious replacement. Fucking is too crude, lovemaking is too twee. So shagging it is, I'm afraid.

"Pumping"?

Lilington · 13/10/2025 22:16

I’m not giving it up. It’s my term of preference.
Would you rather I said made lurve?

AmyDuPlantier · 13/10/2025 22:16

I dunno, I would say fucking to my partner, but never shagging. Very unsexy.

OnlyFrench · 13/10/2025 22:17

Bonking? 😂

Arlanymor · 13/10/2025 22:18

I think we can agree that it’s got vintage status but it is so inherently ‘Brit culture’ of the 1990s - 2010s that I don’t think we can retire it completely.

See also: muff, minge, bonking and having it off… basically anything that would have been in a Men Behaving Badly script.

IDontHateRainbows · 13/10/2025 22:18

'Making whoopee'

thecatfromneptune · 13/10/2025 22:19

Bonking is so much better.

MajesticWhine · 13/10/2025 22:20

OP which word do you prefer?

Arlanymor · 13/10/2025 22:20

Maybe ‘coitus’ is due a resurgence? Makes me think of snakes writhing for some reason… coils perhaps… I don’t know.

MillicentMaybe · 13/10/2025 22:21

Shag still means a carpet to me, preferably rust coloured.

How about being a bit Sheldon Cooper-esque and ask your partner ‘Fancy coitus tonight?’

Wainscot · 13/10/2025 22:22

You mean not everyone says ‘making the beast with two backs’?

40andlovelife · 13/10/2025 22:23

Definitely not bonking, that’s what Bonnie blue calls it in her tik toks.

lets bring shagging back !

IDontHateRainbows · 13/10/2025 22:23

Sometimes I go ultra posh to Mr. Rainbows and say 'would you care to have marital relations with me tonight ', drawing out the words as poshly as I can.

PrissyGalore · 13/10/2025 22:23

Having sex? Sounds sexier than shagging.

SilverStateLady · 13/10/2025 22:24

Bumping uglies? 🤷🏻‍♀️😂😂😂

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 13/10/2025 22:24

"Boning"? "Boffing"?

ErrolTheDragon · 13/10/2025 22:24

It won’t have had its day until people somewhat older than you have finished with it.

And it’ll never be the wrong word for if you’re looking at a bird colony and happen to spot a couple of shags…

nocoolnamesleft · 13/10/2025 22:25

Swiving.

ColinOfficeTrolley · 13/10/2025 22:25

Shagging is fine.

I've heard 'bumping uglies' on a couple of occasions and it makes me feel ill.

Shagging all the way!!

TooManyNiblings · 13/10/2025 22:27

@BlueJuniper94 pumping = farting!!

tj6767 · 13/10/2025 22:27

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northernstars · 13/10/2025 22:27

I used the word shagpad just yesterday - while passing a boat called Fish n Chicks. Nasty.

Timeforabitofpeace · 13/10/2025 22:28

It’s a bit of a nasty word, and hints at being done to.

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