To go on holiday without kids?

[Toskiornottoskii]

I want to go skiing. Really as a family. Problem is DP doesn’t ski yet. Kids would be just turned 1 and just turned 4 in spring. So they would just be in ski crèche.

My latest idea is to do a 4 day midweek break. Leave the kids with grandparents. DP can learn how to ski.

This is potentially not the best for 1 yo. But would be heaven for the 4 year old.

If we wait until next year then we have reception/ school to contest with and I feel like we should be at home then as I don’t want grandparents having to get eldest to school.

Is this a bonkers idea?

People can know they wouldn't have liked something without having experienced it.

Please do get shit faced, you might be more fun!

No you can't, lol. You have absolutely no idea how you'd have felt if your parents had gone away. Don't be daft.

Perhaps you should, you might be more chill.

Well I absolutely can... after being babysat by my aunty or nan for a day, night and following day, I can tell you I was glad to be home the next night. So I definitely wouldn't have liked my parents going away for days on end as a small child.

I have never given birth. I think I can safely say I wouldn't have enjoyed it.

I haven't skydived. I can safely say I would hate it.

etc etc.

Not me sat there with a pole up my arse judging parents who dare have a life away from their children

So this isn't the only thing you make assumptions and judgements about.

Good to know 😂

I probably wouldn't have known at that age. I was left with grandparents for a few days from pretty young. Definitely before I was 3 Don't remember if my parents left me there to do something or just so I could spend time with Granny. Nor did I care tbh

Edited as quoted the wrong poster

Why am I unsufferable?

My apologies, I quoted the wrong person, I will delete my comment. xx

Lol. Not to worry

Not really judging the parents just saying the motives are a bit selfish. You got extremely wound up by this.

Eh? You think you are exempt from making judgement calls do you? Or that you can't know you wouldn't like something unless you had experienced it? Come off it.

You are judging by calling them selfish, at least own it!

Of course I don't know whether I'd like something unless I've experienced it - nobody does 😂

I can say "I don't think I'd like X" or "X is not for me" but I can't know for sure, and neither can you 🙄

Obviously I am judging the motives, I don't think it can really be denied going away without your kids is for selfish purposes, that doesn't mean I think someone is a bad parent though.

Do you think you'd like a broken leg? Or do you know you wouldn't? This is just getting ridiculous.

I came here because I’m the world’s biggest skiing bore…. And am in the middle of an excruciating slanging match. Hey Ho…. I’ll flounce off in the direction of the Alps.

FWIW OP I forced my DH to learn to ski….he did and loved it. We were anway with a very large group… he had a lot of lessons annd has never looked back. Our 2 boys learnt very early, and love it too. They are still coming with us (and a big extended group of friends mainly from primary school) in their uni years. Seriously we think it’s the best holiday. Good luck to you.

You're the one being ridiculous - comparing an injury like a broken leg with staying with your grandparents, ffs 😂

@IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland

maybe because you haven’t given birth and experienced all the pressure and strife and cripplingly high expectations placed on mothers these days that you can’t empathise with a mother simply trying to maintain some semblance of her sense of self and her hobbies and interests before she became a mother? Could that be possible do you think?

also, just cos you hated being away from home and being looked after by other family as a child doesn’t mean that all children are like you…

@IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland

and what’s so bad about being selfish sometimes?

Oh you can have hobbies. Bit extreme isn't it ? Jetting off on a skiing holiday without the kids though.... Bit different.

@CrispsPlease

no, it’s fine. The kids are going to be left with caring grandparents. It’s absolutely fine.

Nope, it’s a totally normal thing to do, 360 days parenting, 5 days doing a hobby with DC being looked after by loving and willing DGP.