I don't like how people tend to speak to their children

[BeWaryFinch]

Fairly sure if another adult spoke to you the way that you speak to your children you would not like it. 'put your shoes on now' 'go to bed now' 'get in the car now' many other examples, or changing your tone of voice to be different than if you were speaking to another adult. Why do parents do this.

I'm sure if you have kids or when you do they'll be such well behaved little dots that you can speak to like and adult and they'll just do as you say.

If you don't have kids stfu

Lol... that is all

What ...? 🙄❓

Totally agree OP. People talk to their kids horribly, then wonder why their kids play up.

That is definitely the case.

OP thinking she’s the bees knees because she bribed a child with chocolate.
pahaha.

🤣🤣🤣So true

So unfair!
Her friend has a child and she is basically their other parent! 😂😂😂

Not necessarily. I have DC and agree with the OP.

Not necessarily. I have DC and agree with the OP.

Demands shouldnt really be made of children, generally. You could give your child autonomy over what they eat. If someone demanded I eat something that I really didn't want to eat, I'd be dreaming about chocolate cake too. If your child has issues going to bed then you make their sleeping environment more appealing and they might want to then, on their own accord. If they don't like school, you try to do the same and make them feel good about going, by reminding them about their friends at school, or suggesting that teachers will help them. If they don't want to go to the supermarket, then consider that they are tired. It is all about getting on their level and understanding from their perspective. Bribery can speed things up but I wouldnt use it to make a child do something they really didnt want to do.
It's still your responsibility to be respectful towards children and not abusive towards them which is what you are doing if you are often shouting at them, speaking to them like crap. They are not adults but they are still a little individual person in need of guidance and not threats and what is essentially abuse. The way a lot of parents speak to their children makes me wince and saying that you are at your wits end or stressed is an excuse, the same excuse abusers use to domestically abuse their partners.

So do you bribe your DC with chocolate anytime they don’t want to do something?

An example… I walked past a mum at the station this morning. She was yelling at her child, who must have been about five or six - telling him to shut up, sit down, etc. Of course being spoken to like that is going to affect him.

If I had to tell an adult to put their shoes on, I would not have that adult in my life for very long 😂

As a PARENT, you actually parent your child.

The lazy parents who don't have horrible feral brats little darlings that everybody tries to avoid

Wow OP, totally blown away by your insight into child rearing, clearly a child whisper! Can I ask some advice. I’m ashamed to say that I put my 2 year olds shoes on without consent yesterday, he “wanted to do it by myself” (I know you don’t have kids but this is a delightful little stage they go through about 2) but unfortunately he can’t actually do it himself no matter how long you allow him, no amount of help is acceptable. Eventually I had to put them on against his will (lots of flapping and shrieking) as he had to go to nursery and my oldest to school, and yes I had to go to work. I suppose I could try explaining to the headeacher and my boss that we didn’t attend work/school yesterday because my 2 year olds is still trying to put his shoes on, what do you think? I’m sure they’ll be fine with it.

also he doesn’t really want his nappy changed and he’s done a poo, a few hours in a dirty nappy will be just fine for his skin around his genitals won’t it?

Excellent!!

Why would I need to bribe them with chocolate? I just tell them to do things and they do it. Or if they don’t, we have a conversation about it and I explain why whatever thing it is I’m asking them to do needs to be done. In other words, I treat them with respect and understanding - as I would do an adult. No bribery involved.

Some parents do speak terribly to their children. But a lot of parents have probably just said they same thing about 15 times.

But I'm very amused you think you have discovered some magic touch because you bribed a kid with chocolate.

You are just on a windup now, it's not even funny. No one can be so deluded, even if they don't have children themselves.

he same excuse abusers use to domestically abuse their partners.
too far.. you just went too far

But you have no idea what led up to that point.

Can you, hand on heart, swear you've never ONCE in their entire lives, snapped at your child, never said "sit down", never once lost patience...never once said something ina tone that might be interpreted as rude to your own child?

Different to the OP then. She bribed the kid with chocolate coins. But at least she wasn’t rude.

First post nailed it.

You can bring up good kids without bribing them OR talking to them like dirt.

Of course you can. The OP advocates the bribery route though.

😂😂😂😂
Instructing your child to do something is not abusive. It’s how they learn.

Delusional much?!

In your world no one would get anything done, parents wouldn't make it to work and kids wouldn’t make it to school. We’d all be held hostage to the whims of children.