Neighbour fall out

[beachcitygirl]

we Live in a private road in a small and well to do area where everyone has dogs. I’m terrified of dogs. Yesterday my neighbour laughed when her large dog (off the leash ) jumped on my disabled child (whilst in wheelchair) I absolutely lost my shit and sufficient to say all is not well. Willing to admit I reacted vehemently and shouted at her and dog but am I in the wrong ?

Do we? I wasn't aware we'd met before. I always shut my dog in the garden when people who don't know him come round. I always put him back on the lead in the park when we're near people or other dogs. Even though he's completely obedient and has excellent recall. Sod off with your stereotyping.

No way should you accept this loose dog jumping at your child! It’s very easy to be bruised by a large dog and she’s very vulnerable; if she doesn’t keep it on a lead I’d contact the dog warden and police - I wouldn’t be interested in keeping the peace.

Dog owner (and lover!) here. Your neighbour absolutely in the wrong. He/she should have control over the dog at all times. I'd have been absolutely mortified and very apologetic if my dog had done the same.
Probably worth having a chat though to smooth things over as you have to live side by side!

I love dogs, but I would've lost my shit if this happened to me and my child. YANBU!!!!
I also would've kept my big dog on the bloody lead as well! Very unreasonable and down right stupid of your neighbour. Is your child ok did they get a fright too?

Yanbu op and your Neighbour sounds like an arsehole. Who wants to upset a child in a wheelchair and their Mother just because dogs. Ugh she sounds vile. I would be waiting for an apology from her but I expect you’ll have a long wait. Entitled idiot she is.

We have a small dog, my children are used to him (he was here first so they’ve never known life without him). However, my son in particular is scared of bigger dogs. We alway have our dog on a lead near people we don’t know as you never know how people feel about dogs. A large dog jumping at a child in a wheelchair is not funny! I’d have shouted at them too!

We have a small dog, my children are used to him (he was here first so they’ve never known life without him). However, my son in particular is scared of bigger dogs. We alway have our dog on a lead near people we don’t know as you never know how people feel about dogs. A large dog jumping at a child in a wheelchair is not funny! I’d have shouted at them too!

as a dog lover (can no longer have one) I would say a definite yanbu and that owner should be bloody careful that the police don't get involved. Potentially it won't end well for the dog even though its the owners fault.

I love dogs and would be mortified if one of mine did this. Completely the owner's fault. Absolutely disgusting response from her.

Sorry but no way no how!
have 63 dogs for all I care. Love them as much as you like. But you don’t unleash them on other ppl without consent. Not acceptable.

Wrong. I love dogs but I don't think it's acceptable for owners to let them jump up at anyone and to laugh about it?! Twats

Same- I have a GSD & a boxer & there’s no chance I’d allow them to jump all over anyone,never mind a child in a wheel chair which is incredibly dangerous as well as shit behaviour by the dog owner!

My dogs are big and jumpers they love people and get excited but always on lead in public and I wouldn’t let them jump up at anyone so no you not being unreasonable. Even in my house if someone comes in they are put behind the dog gate so they can’t jump up.

In my experience, yes, they do 🙄

What about your child, do they like dogs?

In my experience, being an actual dog owner, no they don't. 🙄

Whether you're in the right or the wrong will depend on what you actually said.

For instance:

"Put your dog on a leash!!!" - You are in the right

"Get off (child's name)!!! If I see you and your fxxxing dog off the leash again I'll call the dog warden!" - Still not in the wrong

"Get off (child's name)!!! If I see you out with your dog off the leash again I'll be chucking a block of rat poison over your garden fence!" - In the wrong

"Oh you think that's funny, do you? See how funny it is when you come back to this fxxker gutted on your front porch" - In the wrong

I have a dog but I don’t think op is BU. A responsible dog owner will say that neighbour didn’t have her/ his dog under control and OP is justified to shout-the dog could have seriously hurt her child.

Dog lover. YANBU.

My response to 'He's friendly!' is 'He may be, but I'm not. Call him off please.'

I can tell you that the people who let their dogs pester other people will not meet your eye or answer you when you say this.

OP, this woman knows she was in the wrong and she's trying to turn this on you. Stand your ground.

YANBU. I'm furious on your behalf. What sort of person lets their dog, let alone a big dog, jump on a child in a wheelchair and then laugh about it? There is no part of that sentence that is even marginally understandable.

I don't think you need to apologise to your neighbour. Your neighbour should be the one apologising and keeping her dog on a lead from now on.

@Isittimeformynapyet "All the people who hate dogs will say YANBU and all the people who love dogs will say YABU."

Not at all, I think you'll find responsible dog owners will vote YANBU, as did I. Letting an off-lead dog jump on anyone, is unacceptable. Even more so in this case.

You're generalising, I certainly do not expect everyone to love my dog. Nor do I love all other dogs. I'm a dog owner and dog lover, always have been, but even I have had to reprimand people for having out of control dogs off-lead. I also am married to someone who was terrified of dogs when we met. I completely understand that there are people with fears and people who simply don't like dogs. I'd never expect everyone to love my, or anyone else's dog.

Of course there are people who are like what you are talking about, but it's certainly not even the majority of dog owners.

I get this a lot when out and about with my dc. Both have disabilities not physical but do come across a lot of off lead dogs who’s owners let them wander over to us expecting my dc to make a fuss. They do like to look at dogs and might seem happy when they see them. But they don’t like them getting up close to them. Some also can sense their nervous and will bark at them. Yes they might be friendly but every dog that has bitten the owner has said oh they have never done that before. There’s always a first time and responsible owners shouldn’t allow their dogs to approach people as they don’t know how people will react.

Your neighbour was in the wrong
y daughters slightly frightened of dogs and had a huge dog just walking outside their house and it terrified her

people need to realise that it’s not ok and not everyone can be around a dog. Sadly I know someone extremely allergic to the point where they are quite isolated because of it he would have been hospitalised if he was with us.