To have made my partner switch hotels in London?

[LondonWoes]

My partner surprised me with a long weekend in London, for my birthday. He got us theatre tickets and told me he had sorted the hotel out.

We got on the train today and he started bragging it was £30 a night. That immediately set alarm bells ringing. We arrive and it’s a dump. It’s not even a hotel, but someone’s house with a load of converted rooms. There’s no reception, just a living room, and every door has the same key. That same key also opened the front door. We had been put in a downstairs room, with no window. It was boiling hot.

I told him I wasn’t staying in that hotel. It didn’t feel safe and the vibes were off. He has begrudgingly moved but made me pay, so now im £500 down for my birthday weekend. Was I being unreasonable?

Did you enjoy Hamilton OP?

Given that he'd only spent £30 a night on that dump he should've easily been able to afford somewhere else. The Op said his finances are fine.

Some of these comments are disgraceful and shows why Mumsnet will always be around. Some mothers are still raising their sons to be dickheads and subpar partners.

The ex BF showed his true colours. If you think his behaviour was acceptable then you must have extremely low standards.
Have you even read all of the OP's posts?

What is MRA?

I cannot believe the people defending the boyfriend.

He sounds like a proper fucking tightarse - booking a "basement" is not the same as "bargain basement" btw.

95% of people think OP isn’t being unreasonable. There’s a teeny tiny minority of women so male centred and used to being shat on that they can’t comprehend a woman
going ‘no, fuck this’. That’s really unfortunate for them, but I don’t get why anyone (OP included) is paying them any attention.

You can’t reason someone out of a position that they didn’t reason themselves into in the first place.

Catch yourself on FFS they’d taken a train trip to London not trekked to Base Camp. Perfectly feasible to be able to enjoy a proper meal out. If you think sitting in a dingy flea ridden £30 a night windowless dump which would then be stinking of fried food is acceptable you seriously need to raise your standards

Mens Rights Activist.

It stands for Men's Rights Activists, and is the misogyny equivalent of the kind of people who go on White Lives Matter marches and think that jokes about the archbishop of canterbury mean that christians are being persecuted. There are a lot of women who have grown up so steeped in misogyny that they embrace their place as sub-human sevice-providers and think all other women should do likewise.

I think OP London woes is a breath of fresh air.
She took action to make sure she still had a good weekend instead of pandering to the wounded male ego.

So lovely to read about a Mumsnetters doing this rather than the door mat behaviour so many posters seem to show.

I went to get dinner. Because no, I don’t think a couple of hours on the train is that exhausting for two healthy 20-somethings. He had promised me a lovely meal out, and came back with takeout burgers at 4:30pm.

100% this.

Have a great time at Hamilton tonight!

I suggest looking at what you've spent in another way, OP - it's saved you a great deal of time with a total waster who doesn't respect you. £500 is money well spent.

So it seems some are arguing that to stop him sulking, you should have climbed down which would have meant agreeing to stay in the Flop House, despite all your reservations. Imagine having your bag of 5 guys in that dump? How celebratory.

I guess staying in a lovely hotel that he didn't have to pay for, for three nights, instead of a grim dump wasn't a big enough concession from you?

I think once you expressed your doubts about the grim accomodation - he took it really personally because he realised he couldn't continue to sell the fantasy of a what great guy he was and could see you weren't buying it. It sounds unlikely he would have accepted placating without some payback.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend and your freedom from all this nonsense

Guessing this is your son were talking about, well didn't you do a great job, rude, disrespectful, sulking, childish, oh and cheap,

As op has said, they could of laughed the shite room choice off but no he sulked and went for a walk, and the so called prearranged meal same night was a takeaway burger, which is great if that's what your expecting, she was told ' he had made a reservation,

Also “evicting him into the streets” has made me laugh. He has the means to get a hotel for himself. Check out was at 11, or 12? So he had plenty of time to make arrangements

Imagine having your bag of 5 guys in that dump? How celebratory.

Imagine having sex in the dirty, window-less room. No fresh air but the seductive aromas of burger meat, cheese and onion. I bet he was expecting to treat her to a birthday shag as well.

Do you reckon he went back to the filthy doss house he thought to offer you?

RampantIvy yes I have . I wouldn’t be thst ungrateful. My husband has a good job that pays extremely well but I would be happy that he booked the theatre and meal too because he doesn’t like the theatre so the accommodation is immaterial as she will only be sleeping there as out all day . Hopefully he will come to his senses and find someone who appreciates him .

Spaceraccoon now your just being stupid

BUT HE DID NOT BOOK A MEAL!!!

i was so, so happy with the theatre tickets. It was the fact he’d promised me a hotel, and I ended up with a crappy room in a dodgy house, and promised me a meal and ended up with a five guys takeaway, that was the issue.

Nannying maybe it was a test to see if she materialist and she failed miserably

I’m materialist for wanting a decent bed to sleep in?🥴

Not only that .. there's no "check out" of an Airbnb. It's not a hotel. He'd paid for the room so could have asked to stay there still if he'd wanted.
Yes she was disappointed and made her feelings known. He had zero accountability or acknowledgment of her feelings. And I'm sorry he did say there was a restaurant booked that evening and it was five guys which is basically expensive McDonald's. So that's hardly a restaurant meal. He didnt say "hey let's celebrate this lovely room you booked, sorry about the other one. Let's have a fun night in watching movies, I'll go grab us some burgers cuz I know you love them. Leave it with me. " that might have been different.