To have made my partner switch hotels in London?

[LondonWoes]

My partner surprised me with a long weekend in London, for my birthday. He got us theatre tickets and told me he had sorted the hotel out.

We got on the train today and he started bragging it was £30 a night. That immediately set alarm bells ringing. We arrive and it’s a dump. It’s not even a hotel, but someone’s house with a load of converted rooms. There’s no reception, just a living room, and every door has the same key. That same key also opened the front door. We had been put in a downstairs room, with no window. It was boiling hot.

I told him I wasn’t staying in that hotel. It didn’t feel safe and the vibes were off. He has begrudgingly moved but made me pay, so now im £500 down for my birthday weekend. Was I being unreasonable?

Wait so did you get into the show, OP, or did his sister steal your ticket? Or did he pay for her to go with him?

He booked an unpleasant surprise unfortunately.
If someone surprised you with a cake made of horse manure would you be ungrateful not to be thrilled?

What a bastard!

Did his sister look at all embarrassed?

He's just booked an expensive ski trip

He's not poor

It's your attitude that's the problem OP,

He screwed up. Yes, he did. Badly. You should have figured something out and made the best of it once you got your new hotel.

For what it's worth, I think it's perfectly acceptable to switch accommodation. I would have suggested it too. You didn't have to humiliate and upset him though.

You can dump this bloke for any reason you like. If he's a tight arse and you like a higher price point, that's fine. You're not compatible. He got this really wrong and misjudged your expectations. You could have handled it with more grace though.

Brilliant attitude!

Wtf?? What is with the victim-blaming? He was sulking. She handled it with grace, class and assertiveness.

He then turned up with his sister to their theatre booking, all smug and pleased with himself. How has the OP not acted with grace? Have you even read any of her posts beyond the first one? smh

He sulked!!

Why should she put up with that when it was all his fault?

Are you willing to put up with anything to keep a man?

OMG! So after all of that, he gave your ticket to his sister?! He is not trying to turn things around is he. You are well shot of him. He's shown his true colours. It sounds like the tickets were rubbish anyway. I hate seeing a great show from a compromised seat. It is maddeningly frustrating. Better that you go back and see it another time with a decent seat. Hope you find something lovely to do for the rest of the weekend. Enjoy the freedom!

Yes, he did. And when I pointed it out he could have conceded that he messed up, split a new hotel with me and moved on. But instead he stropped off for a walk, revealed that the dinner plans he was so excited for were takeaway burgers, and when I went out for dinner he fell asleep instead of waiting up for me.

His financial situation is fine. He booked a lovely ski trip for himself.

OP has described the ex as "sulking" when she turned down the flop house and then paid for a decent hotel for the two of them herself.

I think some, used to occasional normal temporary sulks, are dismissing that as if its not much.

But when I think about him turning up so smugly and gloating at the OP because he was taking back his "gift" and hoping it would humiliate and crush her... I can't help but think that the sulking from a person with that spiteful a mentality must have been on a comparable level ie, really bad.

Somewhere out there, there's a woman whose going to have a really awful time divorcing him. There's at least three threads on the go at the moment with insufferable sulkers. It can be quite debilitating.

I am with you! Early '90s I was dating someone, few months in I had some annual leave which also covered a bank holiday. I really needed a break after a very stressful few years without any holiday, he said 'let's go away and I will book it, sort everything out, don't ask where it'll be a surprise!'
Few days before the annual leave I asked where we were going so I could pack: yes dear reader he hadn't bothered. Nothing. Nada. And because of the bank holiday everything was booked. And yes he was offended that I was upset.
We ended very soon afterwards, no regrets. I had a walk in the park for my much needed holiday 😡

You keep repeating that he fell asleep, rather than waiting up for you. Why is this even an issue for you?

You went off in a strop and left him at the hotel. Why do you think he's then obliged to wait up for you? Was it because your strop didn't have the desired effect?

This seems like extremely spoiled princess behaviour, so I'm questioning the other behaviour that you've justified as 'knowing your worth'.

Is this actually real,
So op was promise a weekend to celebrate her birthday no ask by her, bf planned weekend, his treat,

1/ room he booked was unsafe, not fit for purpose,

2/ promise of meal out, turns out was takeaway burger sat in hotel room,
3/ op asked bf to leave before she returned back to hotel, bf asleep in bed,

The bf just keeps giving ( NOT) disrespectful, rude, selfish,

So yes if op is being a princess ( your words) I totally applaud her 💯 she has standards,
Her now xbf promise her different to what she got, that's only him, while booking himself a holiday with the boys,

It's lovely to have a thread like this, as the normal, I carnt leave, but I love him, he's a great dad, shit, so yes applaud 👏 this op,

1/ room he booked was unsafe, not fit for purpose,

The boyfriend was happy with the accommodation and didn't want to move.

2/ promise of meal out, turns out was takeaway burger sat in hotel room,

They'd travelled that day. I'd expect the birthday dinner to coincide with the theatre trip, which was the next day. Having an easy dinner after travelling to a destination, which can be quite tiring and stressful, seems reasonable.

3/ op asked bf to leave before she returned back to hotel, bf asleep in bed,

She made him hand back the keys for his hotel, move to another hotel and then she wanted to kick him out onto the streets of London and you think that's normal/okay?

If things were reversed and a woman posted that her boyfriend had shat all over the things she'd arranged for his birthday, refused to stay in the hotel, booked himself a nice hotel and tried to kick her out onto the streets, He then had a strop and went out without her.

If she stayed put, feel asleep and then he had another tantrum about her not waiting up, went to reception, booked another room, cancelled her room and then still expected to use the theatre tickets.

What would you say about standards and self worth?

HE was the one in a strop, she went for a walk because he was in a strop and sulking. At least read the posts first before responding.

"I had a wonderful evening. I was lucky enough to get a table at Circolo Popolare after explaining my crap day to them 😅 and had a wonderful dinner before I went to Westminster and walked along the Thames there. I told him to be gone by the time I got back, but he wasn’t. He was asleep in the hotel so I packed all my things, went to reception and got a new room. I also cancelled the booking of the other room for the other two nights so he’ll be kicked out this morning!"

Tantrum central.

There is always an MRA that will victim-blame the woman for an abusive man's behaviour. Please ignore the MRAs on this thread, OP.

MRA because I think it's unreasonable to insist upon changing hotels and then evicting your partner into the streets after they've handed back the keys to the hotel they originally booked?

🤣

She didn't strop off, she went for a walk and dinner, it was him that sulked and stropped and went for a walk to 'cool off'.

How he thought a filthy, mouldy dive and a takeaway burger was in any way acceptable is beyond me. I also can't believe that people are attacking the Op!

Evicting? Really? Are you the sister?

"Evicting? Really? He had his original Airbnb, he wasn't without a roof over his head."

They'd checked out of the Airbnb.

Judging by some of the hilarious comments accusing OP of being an ungrateful princess it would appear that ex-boyfriend and his sister have found thread.😬

No, the OP is just very very funny. Shes been with this bloke for 18 months and all of a sudden discovers he’s a shit ancient never did like him really