To have made my partner switch hotels in London?

[LondonWoes]

My partner surprised me with a long weekend in London, for my birthday. He got us theatre tickets and told me he had sorted the hotel out.

We got on the train today and he started bragging it was £30 a night. That immediately set alarm bells ringing. We arrive and it’s a dump. It’s not even a hotel, but someone’s house with a load of converted rooms. There’s no reception, just a living room, and every door has the same key. That same key also opened the front door. We had been put in a downstairs room, with no window. It was boiling hot.

I told him I wasn’t staying in that hotel. It didn’t feel safe and the vibes were off. He has begrudgingly moved but made me pay, so now im £500 down for my birthday weekend. Was I being unreasonable?

@LondonWoes - Hamilton is amazing - the cheap tickets (depending on what you mean by cheap i.e. the £20 tickets), while still good are likely to be in the Grand Circle, or restricted view - there are some tickets left tonight and tomorrow about three rows back in the Royal Circle. If you don't mind paying the extra money, it would definitely be worth speaking to the box office to see if you can upgrade!

We went to see it in London in 2022 and managed to get seats on the second row in the centre of the royal circle. Paid £100 a ticket, but totally worth it!

We've seen the touring version as well as the film in the cinema a couple of weekends ago and would go to see it in London again in a heartbeat if I had the chance!

You did the right thing with the hotel as well - a £30 a night room in London - I can only imagine how grim that was!

How are you getting on OP? Have things improved any?

Even students in London don't sleep for £30 a night.

Oh op, well done for not excepting the bare minimum here , enjoy the rest of your birthday weekend

Op i know but I really want to be there when he realises he has t leave the room 🫢

Cannot believe anyone is sticking up for the tightarsed boyf here.???

books a hovel for a birthday hotel room - he was expecting to have sex in this shithole I presume, nice - and offers a takeaway burger as a birthday “treat” .

whilst treating himself to a ski holiday with his mates. When someone shows you where their priorities lie - believe them.

Some of these messages are rediculous! He has put in no effort apart from buying theatre tickets (It is a fab show so at least that is something)! £30 in London is stupid and a takeaway is not a dinner reservation! Get a grip some of you!!!

I don't know why people are being so nasty. You don't offer to spoil your parter with a weekend away and then put her up in a share house and buy takeaway burgers for a birthday meal. I'd rather not go if it was going to be that cheap and nasty. He could have just bought a smaller gift if he couldn't afford a weekend away.

Ibis is good but not luxury - It's not like OP is asking for a stay at the Dorchester!

It's because she said "birthday". Some people on Mumsnet think anyone over about 15 should be happy with a cursory nod from their partners on birthdays.

I hope now that you are newly single you are doing all the things you want to do rather than spending any time with your ex. Stinginess is a ghastly trait, throw him back and work on your self esteem if you are happy for that to be your life.

Ok so he booked you a room in a dodgy area with no windows, a mouldy shower room and a dirty bed, and his idea of a dinner reservation is a burger in your room (sitting on the dirty bed?).
And ok so he wouldn't leave the hotel room YOU booked and paid for, and you found him in the bed he wouldn't pay for after you went out for your solo dinner, but you should be GRATEFUL, OP.
GRATEFUL I tell you! 🙄

To be fair he's lucky you didn't call the police on him when he wouldn't leave.

Yay well done getting rid of this knobhead 🙌

Enjoy your weekend! 😃 looking forward to hearing about him getting chucked out the room 😂

It doesn't take a genius to figure out that £15 per person per night in London (or anywhere else, really) is going to be a shit hole. You'd struggle to get a bunk bed in a hostel dorm for that. I don't know what he was thinking. Bottom line is you're not suited to each other.

Sorry if I’ve missed this - did you / will you get tot see Hamilton?

100% this!!

Well played @LondonWoes 👏🏻😁

Well done OP for taking control of the situation! I hope you have a lovely weekend in London

My head hurts trying to work out your logic of why those keys don’t work like that.

One key (not keycard but actual metal key) for the Airbnb house front door and bedroom. If other occupants have the same metal key for the front door, surely that would open op’s bedroom door? How can everyone’s (one) key open the same lock for the front door but then won’t be able to open op’s room? It’s the same key??

I guess you didn't read the bit where she said it was a suprise so she didn't ask!

So glad you’ve taken control of the situation for your birthday weekend, rather than moan about it. Good on you!

Genuinely I don’t know how you can have been together 18m and not realised that he’s the sort of person who thinks five guys is a birthday treat meal for an adult woman (might be for a 10 year old!). Or the kind of person who thinks £30 per night in London is going to be an acceptable standard. Surely you would have picked up on these kind of attitudes over the past year and a half?

No it really does work like this. I know because we just got the same two weeks ago and I was baffled too. You can have a key that opens your own door and the front door. And every one else has a different key that also opens their door and the front door. And you can’t open each other’s doors! It’s interesting I know

Please dump this twat of a man asap OP.

Enjoy Hamilton and then send him home.

A lot of trouble 😂

It helps to read the OP's posts before insinuating that she's not truthful.

If you can’t afford a swish weekend away, you tell the person you want to go with. You say something like, hey @LondonWoes , I have got tickets to Hamilton for your birthday but my ski trip has wiped me out. How shall we do this- can we split the cost of the hotel and make a weekend of it together, going cheap on the food and stuff, but the tickets are the present?

What you don’t do is say hey LondonWoes, I’m taking you to London for your birthday, I’ve booked a hotel, a restaurant meal, and theatre tickets and it’s my treat but then be a stingey tightwad and sulk when you’re called out for it. You say ‘oh hey, I really thought this was a bargain, but you’re right. Let’s sort this out now together and I’ll make it up to you’.

@Hysterectomynext are you this guy’s mum? I hope you’re not someone else’s mum and brought them up to think that this behaviour is ok- or worse, that they should accept this behaviour from a partner!?