To have made my partner switch hotels in London?

[LondonWoes]

My partner surprised me with a long weekend in London, for my birthday. He got us theatre tickets and told me he had sorted the hotel out.

We got on the train today and he started bragging it was £30 a night. That immediately set alarm bells ringing. We arrive and it’s a dump. It’s not even a hotel, but someone’s house with a load of converted rooms. There’s no reception, just a living room, and every door has the same key. That same key also opened the front door. We had been put in a downstairs room, with no window. It was boiling hot.

I told him I wasn’t staying in that hotel. It didn’t feel safe and the vibes were off. He has begrudgingly moved but made me pay, so now im £500 down for my birthday weekend. Was I being unreasonable?

I know this isn't the point and btw I don't think you're being unreasonable at all but it's possible to have keys that can open the same front door but then only the room you're in.

The thing is the basement was still nice, and definitely not a bargain! It was a ten minute walk from the concert we were going to, had aircon, etc etc. not like this place!

But hasn’t the op been the one who has sulked? Hotel not good enough. Food not good enough. Theatre tickets too cheap.
imagine planning a treat for someone and then the person demanding more.

ok so room had no window and it should have. But a lot of hotels have non opening windows. So windows are not usually the fire escape. I agree you have to feel safe, but I can’t imagine how hurt I’d be to make the efforts to plan something and have it kicked back in my face.

but I’m clearly very much in the minority here!

I suspect you need to look at your own standards and self-esteem here, if you think that constitutes "a lot of trouble".
The only thing he's gone to a lot of trouble to do, is spend as little money as possible, and to hell with the enjoyment, pleasure, safety and comfort of his partner.

Could you please point me on the direction of this ski resort, where I can have a holiday, to include flights, accommodation, ski rental, airport transfers, and lift pass—for under £500pp?

I didn’t say the food wasn’t good enough. I was surprised that he had said he had dinner reservations which transpired to be a takeaway! And I’m incredibly happy with the tickets - I’ve been wanting to see Hamilton for a decade.

as you’ve already said, £500 gets you an ibis. With travel, food and entertainment for two people, its easily going to another £500.
you say he’s going skiing, but it will probably have cost him less than this trip.

I'd love to know where you can get a whole skiiing trip for the prices you think. Lift passes alone are a fortune.

Yes I can see that there was a big difference in the 'niceness' of this room & basement room (& price by the sounds of it). Maybe he wasn't aware of the basement price & isn't as sensitive to 'niceness' as you are (my partner literally wouldn't notice such things as long as he had a bed!).

I hope you enjoy Hamilton - it's really fantastic.

I know! My sons ski trip with school is £1,650 and that’s relatively cheap because they stay in basic, shared room accommodation.

Anyway OP, what have you got planned for yourself today? Hope you have a lovely day enjoying London.

Have you heard anything from him today?

What else are you doing with your lovely weekend, OP? There's always the TKTS kiosk at Leicester Square for a matinee or something to watch the night you aren't seeing Hamilton - single tickets are easy to get to most things.

He should have offered to split the cost of the Ibis at least. It’s great you have high standards for yourself OP, I think you can do much better than this guy.

This comment has made my morning 🤣🤣🤣

Bloody hell. I cannot imagine what kind of hellhole you'd get for £30 in London. However, as other people have mentioned there is a happy medium between £30 and £500. If you paid the bill for the £500 one then no you are not being unreasonable.

There is absolutely no point having standards or boundaries for oneself if you don't uphold them. I wouldn't expect my daughter or my best friend to stay in kind of shithole the OP describes. Brava to you for standing up for yourself, @LondonWoes. I'm sorry that there are people on this thread who think you should settle for the bare minimum because they don't have decent standards for themselves, and they want you to validate them.

I hope you love Hamilton. I took DD earlier this year (second time for me) and we loved it so much.

That's so unbelievably stingy. My first husband was like this, everything had to be the cheapest possible. I began to feel like a cheap date on every special occasion. Tell him this isn't acceptable.

It's not £500 per night. OP clarified it's more like £150 per night.

This reminds of my friends son who asked to go to Five Guys for his 18th birthday meal - his mum (not knowing anything about them) rang them up to book a table 🤣🤣🤣

You only have to look at AirBNB with a price range of upto £40 a night in London to get an idea of the kind of place he booked 🤢🤢🤢

So weird with people getting aggy with you. Obviously they are willing to accept less than the bare minimum. You (and we all) deserve better.

YAdefinatelyNBU and dont listen to the women who have such low self worth they'd be willing to accept any scraps a man throws them.

He's showing you how he feels about you. You're simply not worth spending money on or putting any effort in for. His sulking is just the cherry on top.

You wouldn't have alarm bells if a 'room' in London was only £30 a night.
You're either very naive or don't mind sleeping like a student.

It was an Airbnb, not a hotel, if you see my earlier post about the hmo opposite me, that advertises on Airbnb, you’ll appreciate what £30 in London means. It’s not good, it’s not safe, it’s not clean.

The bf said he’d made dinner reservations for her birthday. He got takeaway - would you really be happy with that? If he originally said it was takeaway there wouldn’t be the expectation but he said a dinner reservation.

The OP made no complaints at all about the tickets - other posters theorised. The bf stalked off in a sulk.

I really can’t see where the op has been unreasonable - if someone told me they had booked a surprise weekend in London with hotel, restaurant and theatre bookings I would expect a premier inn level as a basis (at their age). It’s seems to me that the op would have been happy with that.

I really can’t see where the op has been unreasonable - if someone told me they had booked a surprise weekend in London with hotel, restaurant and theatre bookings I would expect a premier inn level as a basis (at their age). It’s seems to me that the op would have been happy with that.

I would too. Even the Premier Inn near Westminster with the tiny pod rooms with no windows - can't remember what they call them now. I'd be happy with that and a chain restaurant food booking.

What are you down 500 when you are paying for the hotel? Surely he’s not demanding you pay for the show and dinner

Because 3 nights in an Ibis costs nearly £500

Plus she had to take herself out for dinner

Have your read ANY of the OP posts?