To have made my partner switch hotels in London?

[LondonWoes]

My partner surprised me with a long weekend in London, for my birthday. He got us theatre tickets and told me he had sorted the hotel out.

We got on the train today and he started bragging it was £30 a night. That immediately set alarm bells ringing. We arrive and it’s a dump. It’s not even a hotel, but someone’s house with a load of converted rooms. There’s no reception, just a living room, and every door has the same key. That same key also opened the front door. We had been put in a downstairs room, with no window. It was boiling hot.

I told him I wasn’t staying in that hotel. It didn’t feel safe and the vibes were off. He has begrudgingly moved but made me pay, so now im £500 down for my birthday weekend. Was I being unreasonable?

This isn't someone you want to have kids with. Send him back to his original hotel if it was so fabulous that he is grumpy you didn't want to stay there!

What a tight fisted wanker!

Where else has he taken you in the last 18 months? Is this a blip or a pattern of not thinking you deserve nice things? Dump him

Imagine what would have been lurking in the bed !! I think the key was a minor problem here.

Tell him to go and please dump him. In your twenties pre kids he should be treating you amazingly for your birthday weekend. It only gets worse unfortunately.

I think you have done an amazing thing up. You didn’t accept the horrible room, you haven’t stayed in for the rubbish burger. You have decided that none of this is good for you - and that is spot on. It isn’t good enough op. None of it. It’s good you see it now, you can lob this cheapskate back into the sea.

The way I understood OP got ONE key that opened the front door and then the room.
So unless the door has a lock that changes for every single occupant by magic, everyoen has the same ONE key that opens the front door and their respective rooms, which means all the keys are the same.

Well done for having standards and boundaries. Men who expect a gold medal when telling.women they are worth almost nothing are not worth keeping.

£30 for a London hotel - dearie me - what is he on?! can’t get a decent one on a weekend for less than £200 I would’ve thought.
He needs to pay the £500 cos it was his stupid mistake.

I did.

I had a wonderful evening. I was lucky enough to get a table at Circolo Popolare after explaining my crap day to them 😅 and had a wonderful dinner before I went to Westminster and walked along the Thames there. I told him to be gone by the time I got back, but he wasn’t. He was asleep in the hotel so I packed all my things, went to reception and got a new room. I also cancelled the booking of the other room for the other two nights so he’ll be kicked out this morning!

While he has behaved like an idiot, asking someone to pay for a long weekend in London is a big ask.

She didn't ask though, it was a surprise. She'd probably rather have not had the trip than be expected to stay in revolting substandard accommodation.

I didn’t ask him to pay. It was entirely his suggestion and I would’ve been happy to not come. His skiing weekend will end up being a lot more when you take into account the booze he’ll be consuming, and he can afford it!

I’m so happy to hear your update OP! He can go back to the Airbnb he liked so much. Well done for not letting him ruin your weekend. You deserve so much better than his disrespect.

Well done @LondonWoes. A lovely couple of days in front of you without dragging a sulky manchild around who will begrudge the cost of a coffee and cake.

Has he forwarded you the email for the Hamilton tickets? I wouldn’t put it past him to cancel them out of spite.

Fair enough. But there’s a bit of a communication breakdown here. ( though I still agree he’s a naive twat).

unless he is rolling in cash, I’d be wondering how he could afford it.

but agree the burger thing would be the last straw! He should be spending on a nice meal since she dropped £500 on an ibis

I love that you didn’t let your setbacks ruin the trip for you. Happy Birthday (for whenever it was). Enjoy London! xx

It’s not even about the money. It’s the sulking.

Also, he was asleep when you got back to the room? I’d be disgusted he didn’t even want to make sure I’d got back safely from my solo jaunt around the city.

Chuck him in the bin and enjoy Hamilton.

It’s not a communication breakdown since it was a surprise. He took it on himself to “surprise” her with a trip to London and should have made sure he could afford it. What’s not OK is doing this and then forcing OP to have to drop money on a last minute hotel because of his poor planning. He should have paid for the hotel as it’s entirely his fault that the cost was necessary.

I hope you didn't have to pay for the second room, but either way well done for sticking to your guns.

Happy birthday, have a lovely weekend.

It can still be done, eg you can get mystery 5* hotel deals all the time.

Im so glad you went out and had a lovely evening. Good for you for asking him to be gone and shame on him for staying. That’s turned my vagina inside out. Thinking you’d just get into bed beside him yuk!
Wish I could be a fly on the wall to see his reaction in the morning. Please block him, move on and don’t look back. You deserve SO much better

I’ve seen Hamilton 3 times, it’s fabulous, enjoy! It’s quite an early start but the restaurants nearby are good at pre Theatre dining. Flat iron was decent

I didn’t expect, nor ask, to be wined and dined in luxury. He decided to paint this as a big fancy trip. He was the one who said that it was going to be nice.

The room was far from acceptable. I didn’t get to look around properly but the shower was mouldy, the bed was made in a mess and it just didn’t feel safe. Feeling safe on a trip away is the bare minimum.

God he sounds like a fucking idiot. Throw this one back in Op. He’s showing you what he’s really like - you deserve better. Enjoy London.

IBIS is a decent stay, comfy bed, SAFE, and can be about £100 a night if you’re a member.