Happy Dia-versary..

[Travelfairy]

Just saw this on FB, a former classmate wishing his son a happy dia-versary on the anniversary of getting diagnosed with diabetes....

Like is it just me it is this weird/inappropriate/cringe....

YABU- she's celebrating her son
YANBU- she shouldn't be posting about his personal medical information, its weird and not everything needs a # 🙄🙄

I have T1 and I find it weird, self indulgent and attention seeking. No I don’t celebrate but I am grateful for technology that helps me manage it well!

Two of my friends do this and I think it’s poignant to note the sheer utter HELL these parents have gone though so if celebrating is what they need to do then to hell with it, you do have the opportunity to scroll on past and not be affected. They however do not.

This.

I think the thread has derailed. I didn't say diabetes is not a serious condition, nor did anyone else afaik. Its the attention seeking behaviour combined with putting your child's medical information out without consent. He is too young to consent. And a whole load of muffins sent into school that he is a blue cape hero (I thought that was autism?).
I think on a closed fb group for diabetes parents that would be fine. My DD is ND and lots of little wins are huge for her. I make a big deal at home but don't post on SM. Some people know she is ND, some dont. Its her business.
My DS has medical condition which requires hospital admission twice a year as well as lots of OPD appointments. Not ONCE have I tagged us at the hospital. Or gone on a rant.
I don't make my whole personality about being a parent/carer of children with additional needs. Even thoigh yes its a significant part of my life. I just think this over sharing of children's medical info is a slippery slope. This particular lady is not raising awareness about diabetes, it was just an attention seeking post tbh. Her little boy is great managing his condition, no doubt but it didnt need a 3 paragraph post outside of maybe a diabetes page. There is lots of awareness around diabetes. Its not a rare disease/condition no one has heard of.

Just asked my T1 DH about this. He knows the year he was diagnosed, but it was 19 years ago and he has no idea of the date. All he knows is that it was during the summer. He's never heard of anybody celebrating the anniversary of diagnosis and doesn't understand what there is to celebrate. He's not entirely sure who the diabetic community are either, but then he's not chronically online.

@HGSurvivor1 100% what you said.
Parents using their kids for “clout” online is really not ok imo.

So celebrate as a family how is posting online for likes celebrating. Is that your idea of a celebration for your child.

This is interesting to me… Because earlier you posted about your health struggles which have no relation a child with diabetes and to be it seemed like you were attention seeking.

What do brain bleeds have to do with this? You are also fishing for attention.

I've not posted my medical conditions at all and mumsnet is anonymous its not like Facebook. Writing about your children on an anonymous forum is not the same as posting about your children on social media

I was replying to someone who was talking about head injuries

This is you comparing. It’s attention seeking especially when you have no clue how hard it is to be a parent to a child with diabetes.

It is life and death each day. That’s pretty significant to me.

How do you know i don't have a child with diabetes iv not stated any of mine or my child's medical conditions online and if you went through my social media you would also find nothing as I respect my children's right to privacy

And this. Why? Make your own thread.

You’re being competitive either way a child.

Great. If this is simply about children’s privacy why are you going on about how you suffer medically more?

Your post is about your medical issues not privacy.

This.

I never said I suffered more im saying its odd to celebrate anniversaries of medical conditions. To which i was told its to raise awareness. Everyone is fully aware of what diabetes is. There are a significant amount of rare conditions people are not aware off. But thats for the individual to decide when she/he is old enough. You don't seem to grasp the difference between social media and an anonymous forum.

I’ve said it before on here and I’ll say it again. If you do not have LIVED experience of T1 diabetes … shut up about it.

We don’t personally ‘celebrate’ but if people want to make a fuss of their child on the anniversary of the day their life changed irrevocably in ways that people who have no lived experience can ever imagine (their body is actively dying at all times and they keep themselves alive every day) then what harm does it cause?

People will view gushing posts about kids with T1 on SM and think … why? and again I wouldn’t do it but unless you know what that child is dealing with every day you will just never understand the feeling.

There are probably many things that if they made their way out of their own niche corner of the internet we’d pause but it’s absolutely not your place to comment on whether it’s appropriate or not.

Mumsnet is a social media platform.

Its very common to mark your di versary.
Unless you’ve had to put up with this shitty illness you wouldn’t get it

Well happy flu adversary then to anyone who had flu before 🥳🥳🥳🥳

I'm a late diagnosed autistic adult, and we definitely had a 1 year anniversary on the date I got my diagnosis.

I didn't post about it on social media, but my mum did buy me a £2.50 victoria sponge cake from lidl.

It was tongue in cheek, but it did celebrate a date in my life where I was finally given answers about myself.

My son, also autistic, does not get the same celebration though mainly because cake is one of the only foods he will eat reliably so I guess you could say that it's always celebrated in our house, often against our will.

Mumsnet is anonymous

You’re being ridiculously unkind.

Not everything is about you.

Yes. It’s still social media.

What do you think social media is????

There’s plenty wrong with you judging by your posts.