Happy Dia-versary..

[Travelfairy]

Just saw this on FB, a former classmate wishing his son a happy dia-versary on the anniversary of getting diagnosed with diabetes....

Like is it just me it is this weird/inappropriate/cringe....

YABU- she's celebrating her son
YANBU- she shouldn't be posting about his personal medical information, its weird and not everything needs a # 🙄🙄

saying she's doing something weird/inappropriate/cringe
litterally IS bitching about her, on social media no less.

Why do you have former class mates you don't like on yourFB? Weird.

I love how the ones who find it weird and innapropriate are the ones who have absolutely no experience of living with diabetes.

Personally I think that it’s a nice thing. Celebrating the small wins is important when you have a chronically ill child - keeping them alive without a functioning pancreas for an entire year is certainly an achievement for all involved.

My young adult DD had major spinal surgery to correct severe scoliosis a few years ago - we celebrate the anniversary of her lovely, straight metal spine each year and acknowledge how far she has come since then.

Or we live with significantly more serious conditions so find it hilarious that people are making it into their personality

Are you really trying to minimise the impact of T1D on a young child and their family? Shame on you.

Since when is mentioning the anniversary of a significant diagnosis "making it your personality"

Then you wouldn’t mind naming it then would you?

They're not celebrating having it, they're celebrating having managed the condition for a year. They already had it before the diagnosis, it's just an anniversary of when treatment and management started.

Ooh, are we playing chronic condition Top Trumps now?

Clearly. 😂 Whats on your cards?

DS2 had a head injury two years ago that left him with long-term concussion and horrendous chronic migraines. A few weeks ago I wryly wished him “Happy Headiversary”. Not on SM, because I barely use it, but just to him. It actually felt really positive. This time last year he was still in huge amounts of frequent head pain. However over the past few months finally he’s seen a brilliant neurologist and has a medication combo that works for him. It felt like a positive milestone.

End of the day just delete the ex-classmate. You have bitched about her on here with some of the words you’ve used. Lets hope your pancreas doesn’t pack in one day. God forbid you learn some empathy.

I have lived with type 1 for over 45 years, and although I know the date of my diagnosis, see nothing to celebrate in this relentless, frustrating, impossible disease. But if you want to, that's up to you. It's hard enough being diabetic without more judgement.

We did this for DS's 1st anniversary, he was a young teen who had been through a shit year and you know what, he deserved a celebration.

Naming what? listing all my medical history on the Internet. You honestly don't think there is significantly more serious conditions then diabetes. A common condition that actually has treatments and a significant amount of funding going into it try having a rare condition where you have to travel to the other side of the country to see one of the few specialists in the country. Where the only treatment options are experimental. Where everytime you go to your gp or any other dr they can't help you as they don't have the knowledge to. Where everytime you end up in hospital you have to be transferred over 200 miles away from your family just to see specific drs.

My friend has T1D - she does post about her condition and celebrates the date of her diagnosis. As others have said, she’s celebrating making it another year.

Her (adult) daughter also has T1D and she also posts about her dia-versary for the same reason as her mum.

But as you've posted about it on the UK's largest parenting website which also happens to be public, would you feel like you've been a bit of a cunt to her if she stumbled across it?

I would.

This is potentially one of the most tone deaf, childish and plain ridiculous things I’ve ever read on MN. A grown adult trying to minimise a life long, chronic disease in a child requiring 24/7 monitoring and intervention. You do realise it’s not a competition of who can suffer the most? Again, shame on you.

That sounds awful and very frustrating 😕

😂😂

Chronic condition in a war zone! Surely I win.

I have a son who is T1D and on the anniversary of his diagnosis i will always take time to tell him how proud I am of how well he handles a really shit condition as a busy teenager and sort of check in on how thibgs are (obviously i do this part more than once a year!) so in a way I mark it but not on sm.

😳 A war zone?
Hands down… you win. 🏆

YANBU. It's not the concept of the 'dia-versary' that I find especially weird, but just in general people sharing their kids online, and especially medical stuff. It's such a massive invasion of privacy and is inherently exploitative.

I don't"celebrate" either of my head injuries (one being today...) but one does come up on my FB memories. I do acknowledge the dates though

You are being ridiculous.

We are all aware that little kids are diagnosed with critical issues everyday, and if it 's anything like DIPG, it's tragic.

You are still ridiculous and frankly rude to casually dismiss what affects other people.

You have the luxury to travel and see specialist in this country, for free, and you are given a bed in a hospital in your own country. What are you complaining about ? Others don't have that luxury (see how that work? my point is that you are ridiculous)