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Is 30 too old to be deemed conventionally attractive

140 replies

OneSnugLemonTiger · 09/10/2025 15:17

Or not

OP posts:
didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 09/10/2025 15:18

Yes, looking at anyone over 30 makes me physically sick.

XWKD · 09/10/2025 15:18

Don't be ridiculous!

OneSnugLemonTiger · 09/10/2025 15:19

It’s more how I feel about myself

OP posts:
shellyleppard · 09/10/2025 15:20

Depends on how much you base someone on looks alone....

NooNakedJacuzziness · 09/10/2025 15:20

Wait til you get to your 50s, they make you wear a sack on your head and ring a bell while saying “unclean, unclean”

FurForksSake · 09/10/2025 15:20

Helen Mirren is 80 and conventionally attractive. Depends on who you are trying to be attractive for.

RobertaFirmino · 09/10/2025 15:21

Yes. I woke up on the morning of my 30th birthday, looked in the mirror and discovered I'd turned into a grotesque old hag.

fireandlightening · 09/10/2025 15:21

This question exposes your ageist hang-ups, I'm afraid. Obviously, people at every stage and age in life are and can be beautiful and even 'conventionally attractive'!

MasterBeth · 09/10/2025 15:21

Yes.

That's why there are no conventionally attractive celebrities over the age of 29.

GeorgeClooneyshouldhavemarriedme · 09/10/2025 15:21

Well I'm 57 and drop dead gorgeous.

So no.

Jellybunny56 · 09/10/2025 15:22

Being “conventionally attractive” or not isn’t dictates by age. You can be 50 and conventionally attractive or 20 and not.

Satisfiedkitty · 09/10/2025 15:23

GeorgeClooneyshouldhavemarriedme · 09/10/2025 15:21

Well I'm 57 and drop dead gorgeous.

So no.

Absolutely. I'm 54 and stunning.

RobertaFirmino · 09/10/2025 15:23

fireandlightening · 09/10/2025 15:21

This question exposes your ageist hang-ups, I'm afraid. Obviously, people at every stage and age in life are and can be beautiful and even 'conventionally attractive'!

The recently departed Jane Goodall, for example. She was still beautiful at 91.

Member869894 · 09/10/2025 15:23

What a depressing and frankly moronic post

Nofencesitting · 09/10/2025 15:24

Not another ageist thread.

There are beautiful, attractive, pretty, women in every age group. Right up to those lucky women with lovely cheekbones that are beautiful in their eighties and nineties.

It's quite natural OP to look in the mirror and see the changes to yourself as years go by but it doesn't mean you aren't still attractive. It just means you are a slightly different version of yourself.

MasterBeth · 09/10/2025 15:25

RobertaFirmino · 09/10/2025 15:23

The recently departed Jane Goodall, for example. She was still beautiful at 91.

Sorry, but 91 year olds are not deemed conventionally attractive by Western societies, even if they still have beautiful bone structure and beautiful souls.

Sagaciously · 09/10/2025 15:26

Absolutely, all attractiveness and the bloom of youth is well and truly over.

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Redpeach · 09/10/2025 15:27

Given that the average age of death for women is 82, its a tad riduculous to come on to a mainly female forum and complain you feel old and ugly at 30

Dontlletmedownbruce · 09/10/2025 15:27

Over 30???!!! Jesus that's supposed to be your prime. Very few famously beautiful people are under 30 when they are at their most admired.

beaniebabby · 09/10/2025 15:27

A lot of people grow into their looks then

5128gap · 09/10/2025 15:29

You have eyes OP, so surely you can see for yourself there are attractive women over 30? You may not consider yourself one of them, but if that's the case, it won't be due to your age but your natural features, body shape and general presentation. Because the effects of age alone on appearance at 30 are negligible.

beaniebabby · 09/10/2025 15:29

But generally someone who is actually beautiful facially tends to still have a beautiful face as they age. Most people aren't beautiful so youth does a lot of lifting

CheerfulBunny · 09/10/2025 15:31

I think Judi Dench and Helen Mirren are more beautiful now than they were in their 20s. I think the late Jilly Cooper was gorgeous all her life, old and young. But that's my subjective point of view. I don't think beauty or attractiveness has anything to do with age or body weight or anything like that. It's about individual people and their charm/charisma or some indefinable quality. Nothing to do with tight skin or thinness.

Crushed23 · 09/10/2025 15:31

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 09/10/2025 15:18

Yes, looking at anyone over 30 makes me physically sick.

I don’t know why over-30s aren’t made to wear a paper bag over their heads by law.

Starlight1984 · 09/10/2025 15:33

Crushed23 · 09/10/2025 15:31

I don’t know why over-30s aren’t made to wear a paper bag over their heads by law.

😂