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Is 30 too old to be deemed conventionally attractive

140 replies

OneSnugLemonTiger · 09/10/2025 15:17

Or not

OP posts:
Starlight1984 · 09/10/2025 15:43

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 09/10/2025 15:42

Is MN always full of twattish threads in the afternoon, or is it just today? I’m not normally here at this time.

Today has been an exceptionally good day for twattish threads in my opinion. Our work servers have been down and I've been thoroughly entertained.

YYYDlilah · 09/10/2025 15:43

My beauty is not comparable to conventionally attractiveness. When people say I'm stunning, it's because they are stunned by such a vision. Being past my 30th year has not diminished my my exquisiteness.

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 09/10/2025 15:44

Starlight1984 · 09/10/2025 15:38

If I wear a bag over my head for meet-ups?

As long as I don't glimpse any crows feet through the eye holes.

MaxBeth · 09/10/2025 15:45

YYYDlilah · 09/10/2025 15:43

My beauty is not comparable to conventionally attractiveness. When people say I'm stunning, it's because they are stunned by such a vision. Being past my 30th year has not diminished my my exquisiteness.

I’m similar. In fact, I transcend physical beauty. I’m more of an essence, a spirit, or an energy.

PinkArt · 09/10/2025 15:46

Yes, the sight of disgusting old hags like Rihanna, Margot Robbie and Selena Gomez makes me do a bit of sick in my mouth. How embarrassing for them to be so far from conventional beauty now they're past it in their 30s.

Starlight1984 · 09/10/2025 15:46

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 09/10/2025 15:44

As long as I don't glimpse any crows feet through the eye holes.

Gosh the pressure. I think I'll just stick to knitting in my rocking chair and the occasional WI meeting.

fireandlightening · 09/10/2025 15:47

Member869894 · 09/10/2025 15:23

What a depressing and frankly moronic post

I'm voting for moronic too🙄

Sagaciously · 09/10/2025 15:48

I saw Eva Longoria on the catwalk at Paris fashion week. She’s 50 and looks better than she’s ever looked.

DramaAlpaca · 09/10/2025 15:48

GeorgeClooneyshouldhavemarriedme · 09/10/2025 15:21

Well I'm 57 and drop dead gorgeous.

So no.

And I'm 61 and I've still got it. I'm stunning and utterly fabulous.

mondaytosunday · 09/10/2025 15:48

I wouldn’t call Helen Mirren conventionally attractive at all @FurForksSake- I think she is a woman who has grown in to her unconventional looks! She’s always been sexy though , rather than pretty.
OP how can you ask such a question? I’m in my 60s and think I’m reasonably attractive, though I’d rather not ever be considered ‘conventional’.

FurForksSake · 09/10/2025 15:49

High fashion models tend to retire late 20s or early 30s. Perhaps that is why you think that conventional attractiveness ends at 30. Of course your face and your body are changing, but it doesn’t mean you stop being attractive.

SuspiciousTimes · 09/10/2025 15:50

OneSnugLemonTiger · 09/10/2025 15:19

It’s more how I feel about myself

I’m sorry you feel this way. Try not to. You’ve got a lot of your life left to live.
I’ve never in my life been deemed ‘conventionally attractive’ but I know I’m an attractive person in other ways. Age has nothing to do with it.

PinkArt · 09/10/2025 15:51

OneSnugLemonTiger · 09/10/2025 15:37

I started to notice ageing from 26.

Well you'd been aging for 26 years at that point. Of course you looked older than when you were 6, or even older than when you were 20. 46 year old you will find this hilarious though because by any standards 26 has never looked anything other than young.
Never has the quote about youth being wasted on the young felt more apt.

ChaToilLeam · 09/10/2025 15:53

Have you internalised some weird incel crap about women “hitting the wall” at 27 or so? Because it’s complete shit.

Ageing is great, it means you’re not dead.

beaniebabby · 09/10/2025 15:54

No, no women in their nineties are conventionally attractive.

The oldest good looking person I can think of is James Brolin who is early 80s (?). He's still a handsome man.

BunnyLake · 09/10/2025 16:01

OneSnugLemonTiger · 09/10/2025 15:19

It’s more how I feel about myself

Is that to do with hitting the 30 mark? There is obviously a different vibe to being 20 something or 30 something but I personally felt at my most attractive in my 30s.

Meezer2 · 09/10/2025 16:03

I’m 58 and more beautiful than ever

BunnyLake · 09/10/2025 16:06

Silverbirchleaf · 09/10/2025 15:34

Yes they are. Many older women are conventionally attractive.

Especially if they were ballerinas. They seem to have been handed out beautiful cheekbones and face structure from birth, as if they were destined for the ballet.

LoveItaly · 09/10/2025 16:07

No! At 30 you are still in your prime, you only realise this when you are well beyond it, in my opinion.

Fantomflangeflinger · 09/10/2025 16:07

Logan’s run

JaneJeffer · 09/10/2025 16:08

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 09/10/2025 15:18

Yes, looking at anyone over 30 makes me physically sick.

😂

Onegingerhead · 09/10/2025 16:10

To whom, exactly?
If you’re planning to date Leonardo DiCaprio (whose age cut-off seems to be about 27), then yes, it might matter.
You also wouldn’t be attracting a paedophile, I’m afraid.
On a more serious note though, from what I’ve seen, people tend to lose that “youthful” look somewhere between 28 and 35. It doesn’t make them unattractive, just different.

Delphiniumandlupins · 09/10/2025 16:13

OneSnugLemonTiger · 09/10/2025 15:37

I started to notice ageing from 26.

You are ageing from the day you are born.

I got lots more male attention (unsought) in my 30s and 40s than any other time.

CunningLinguist2 · 09/10/2025 16:17

I’m 54 and fucking gorgeous!!!
Dame Judy Dench is gorgeous!!!
Sheila Hancock was beautiful every day of her life!!!
Of course you’re beautiful whatever your age!!!

Cynic17 · 09/10/2025 16:26

OP, have you seen Judi Dench, Helen Mirren, Kristen Scott Thomas..... not one of them under 60 (& in fact, up to 30 years older than 60) and all of them are phenomenally attractive.
Dame Jilly Cooper (RIP), aged 88, and still pretty, giggly and obviously fantastic company - hugely attractive.
Why on earth do you think it stops at 30?!