To ask if most straight men are attracted much younger women?

[RubyTuesday10]

Had a depressing moment at work today, male colleague played a Jimmy Carr stand-up clip on his phone and it went along the lines of “if I had to pick my favourite child it would be my neighbour’s hot daughter.” The other men with him laughed at it. I couldn’t help feeling a bit nauseous and it’s made me question whether many older straight men actually do fantasise about girls in their late teens or whatever. Perhaps I have been naive to think it was something that just appealed to a minority of perverts. One or two of them have daughters too and it just strikes me as odd that they could even laugh at a joke like that. Am I naive to feel this way?

The clue is in your use of the word liberal

I have never met one either, totally agree, and my experience with men is that they prefer younger looking women.

I don’t know about that, I think genuinely my friends are better looking now than in their 20s. I think I am too.
Maybe this is my brain telling me this though and it’s the same brain that’s telling me that older men are more attractive now too.

Have you ever been to a comedy show. Tgis is going to come as a shock... but many woman laugh at jokes too, including this one. It doesnt mean they want to sleep with young girls either.

Yes but OP was asking about attraction, not relationships. Would most men over 40 want to date someone in their early 20s? Probably not. Would they want to have sex with them? Absolutely.

And this is exactly as it is.
These animals are behaving only due to societal rules being in place.
So happy my life is not contaminated, yes, contaminated, by any of them.

spot on

I’m still not convicted by that ? Are you attracted to young fitter blokes ? I’m early 40s and I’m not and certainly wouldn’t want to have sex with one . Why do you assume men would ? Or at least all men ?

I think this is difficult, now we know that your brain isn't fully developed until your mid 20's and so that gives the older partner in this instance a lot of undue influence. They aren't two young kids figuring life out with an equal power balance they are an adult and child in a relationship and it's quite possible that the adult is able to guide or even mould the younger party in a way they wouldn't if they had been of a similar age. I suppose you could also say that about lot's of things but in general people tend to feel it's more empowering for younger people to have a more equal power balance.

I know some people who have this kind of relationship, a friend of mine met his partner who is 18 years older than him when he was 19 and they are still together to this day 35 years later. We could say that the relationship is a success but he was also quite vulnerable when they got together and so it's not clean cut that it's all ok I think.

Funnily enough I think a lot of young guys like older women though. I’m in my late 30s and get so much interest from guys in their 20s. Fully aware there may be some mummy issues there lol but I wouldn’t say universally all men want barely post pubescent girls.

I disagree.
I think age brings a confidence that can make a person more attractive, women and men.
I understand shallow men prefer younger women, dating apps proves this, often looking for a woman 20 years younger, I can't imagine they get much attention from women 20 years younger.
I don't think most men are attracted to 16 year olds, maybe I'm wrong, if so, the world is hopeless.
I think most humans can find another human in their prime attractive.

Strength is attractive, but it's not THE attractive trait that women look for. Social competence beats everything. And if you want to look at it from an evolutionary perspective, the man who's likeable enough to gather 5 of his friends will beat the dickhead loner, however strong that loner happens to be.

Big, strong, mean bullies is the thing that makes redpiller types nervous though. That's called projection isn't it?

I suppose it depends. Confidence alone isn't enough. Confident men can be dicks and confident women can be shrews.

Tbf I'm probably a perv, my niece has a friend , 21, who works out professionally, 4000 calories daily for his gym routine. He is rippled to perfection.
I do stare for a moment.

Thank you for the insight, it’s good to get a male perspective. I understand younger women but anyone under 18 just feels inappropriate.

@Chiseltip

Why would you want to look 19 again? For what reason? I can’t relate.

I am 53 and definitely do not wish to look 19 again. Been there, done that. I am at a nice stage of life with young adult children who bring me a lot of contentment and I now have an increasing amount of freedom.

My partner is the same age as me, we met 6 years ago. He fancies me and Gillian Anderson!

I appreciate the beauty of the youth's I know and see but do not want it again for myself nor am I sexually attracted by it. I wouldn’t want to hang about with weirdos my age who were.

Some girls in their late teens do look older & therefore I do believe men do find them attractive
When I was around 19, 20 I had my parents single friends regularly try it on. I was of course legal by that age, but he had known me since a kid (not a close friend but had definitely met before when I was a child)

Do you not think they were a type of men, nearly grooming.
I dated a man who was 38 when I was 18, he was a sick twisted fuck, hence the need for a more naive partner, easy to manipulate.
I still have occasional nightmares about that time in my life.

Yes, I wondered this as well. If it's the same survey that a PP posted above, it asks whom you think 'looks the best' rather than which do you 'most fancy'.

After the age of 31, the women also all said that men younger than them 'look the best', albeit choosing a range of younger-aged pictures (I assume that's how they did it) rather than just the ones aged around 22.

If you asked most women who 'looks the best' and showed them pictures of George Clooney, Tom Hiddleston, David Gandy, Kev from next door, Phil who works in the local shop - or indeed their own DHs - the vast majority would laugh and say obviously the famous ones. That doesn't mean that they don't find their own DH very attractive for everything he is to them or that they would instantly dump him in favour of a Hollywood actor, though.

Germaine Greer released a book a long time ago called 'The Beautiful Boy', which featured photos of young juvenile males (sometimes partially clothed) and focused heavily on how nice-looking/attractive/beautiful they were. That was the whole premise of the (creepy) book.

I think it was very ill-advised of her indeed, and had the sexes been reversed, I don't think a male author would have got away with it for a second (and rightly not imho). It still makes me look at her in a different light, in spite of all of the wonderful insightful things that she's said, written and done over all these years.

I think it's very important to make the distinction between a young adult and an actual child. If GG had released a photo book of young men aged, say, 18-25, it would still have been creepy, but nowhere near as questionable.

One place I worked at, there was a man in his 50s who had always seemed generally OK, but once he told a nasty 'joke' that always made me extremely suspicious of him from then until the day he left.

It was something along the lines of "What's the best thing about having sex with 29-year-olds?" (as you would naturally hear and process it); the 'punchline' being "There are 20 of them!"

I hope he was just trying to shock, Jimmy Carr-style; but I always felt quite sick every time I saw him after that and distanced myself.

A lot of people in my circle (work, friends, etc) - including myself - got divorced in their late 30s - early 40s. Most of the females are still single. Most of the guys are with girls at least 10 years younger... Generally 15 years younger. Make of that what you want!

Just in response to those saying it’s “obvious” men like younger women, I was referring to teens (as was implied in the joke) not women in their twenties.

I think generally men make no distinction between 20 and a teenager. Young 20 year old does not look different to a older teenager - sometimes its hard to tell. Man just love young women, no matter what their age is. I would imagine "hot daughter" refers to a young woman with curves etc.

I'm not talking about obvious children, I doubt all guys are pdf files.

Yeah that's pretty bad

Very telling which men laugh at it

Bear in mind these men will have daughters themselves

I don't accept that. 15 year old girls are not fully developed. Most men are attracted to curvy women not skinny teenagers.