To ask if most straight men are attracted much younger women?

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Had a depressing moment at work today, male colleague played a Jimmy Carr stand-up clip on his phone and it went along the lines of “if I had to pick my favourite child it would be my neighbour’s hot daughter.” The other men with him laughed at it. I couldn’t help feeling a bit nauseous and it’s made me question whether many older straight men actually do fantasise about girls in their late teens or whatever. Perhaps I have been naive to think it was something that just appealed to a minority of perverts. One or two of them have daughters too and it just strikes me as odd that they could even laugh at a joke like that. Am I naive to feel this way?

That's unfair, plenty of men know it's morally wrong to sleep with a 15yo as an adult.

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Seriously though, you don't really think that poster is a man?

Of course it was meant to be funny. Everyone understands that no amount of eating something will turn you into that item. My mum didn’t say it as a threat, but as a silly comment to elicit laughter. Which it did.

Do most adult women not find early 20s men attractive? Surely most do?

Whether they'd date them is ofc very different.

More controversial ofc is how many women find postpubescent teen boys attractive.

Sadly I think Spain has some way to go in those stakes...

What do you think men talk about when alone with each other?

Look at the 70s,,when many men were open about finding even younger actress like Brooke Shields or Jodie Foster attractive.

Do most adult women not find early 20s men attractive? Surely most do?

Nope

Do you think being friendly and gentle is less important than having resources- from a moral not evolutionary perspective, mind you?

Evolution also involved women being brood mares for a long time & often rape. Those are still detestable, evolution or not evolution.

Really?

I mean, attractive as in sexually attractive, not as in 'yes I'd marry/date this man, they're a good prospect'

This study suggests a lot of women DO find younger men attractive - just not a long term prospect.

https://www.theguardian.com/science/2025/jan/27/both-men-and-women-prefer-younger-partners-study-finds#:~:text=The%20researchers%20analysed%20questionnaires%20completed,or%20even%20the%20same%20age

What I think doesn’t matter. Evolution cares only about what works to further the species, not what is moral.

Yep.

What's weird is hebephilia, when men only like young adolescents.

Of course. Just the way you were writing, it almost seemed like you shared that same view as evolution does (not that it has a view as such, but ykwim)

Not for me nor my friends my age.
Our taste has followed us with age.
You tend to find women do like men similar to their age. Not 20/30 years younger.

Yes they definitely are! I’m sure lots would deny it very convincingly but I think it’s just the nature of the male species. They are programmed to feel this way as their bits still function reproductively for the most part, long after women. Many older men will love their middle aged wives and feel deeply connected to them, having a shared history together and raising children. However they absolutely fancy younger women and they have thoughts they wouldn’t dream of admitting- guaranteed

I certainly do not share those views. I just don’t understand why so many can’t, or won’t, understand that we’re dealing with a biological imperative, shaped by evolutionary pressures, not a sexual perversion.

When I was pregnant at 16, the midwife said the opposite. You're more likely to be overdue if you’re younger, and deliver early of older.

Mid-late teens to mid 20s is the biological age for optimum fertility/pregnancy.

Yes that's why I don't find men who defend attraction to early-teen girls convincing since biologically that's not an optimal age for pregnancy.

Animals don’t wait for the optimal age for pregnancy. To maximise their chances of having plenty of offspring, they get started as soon as they can. Why would humans be any different?

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The older I get the more I am repulsed by men.

I do think the average man finds teenage girls attractive, long after it would be thought appropriate, but that doesn't mean they'd act on an attraction to a 16- or 17-year-old. I wouldn't be impressed by an adult openly ogling a teenager, but it's not surprising that men find teen girls objectively appealing, based on their looks alone.

Same here

True, I suppose

Are you repulsed by women for responding to their biological urges to have children, and seek a mate with access to resources? Or is that somehow different?