Just wondering what other toddler parents think of this situation, my little boy is 21 months and my currently childfree friend (although is now expecting) think I’m being completely unreasonable to not want to take my toddler to her boyfriends mums house (where she lives) and always want her to come to my house. She thinks I’m not making any effort and am making excuses, but it’s not that at all, I have tried to explain to her it’s due to her house not being toddlerproof, maybe this seems silly to someone who has never had a toddler before as I know I had absolutely no idea how much a small human changes and can dictate how you live your life🤣There is no stairgate on the stairs, there is ornaments everywhere in reach of little hands, last time we went my toddler destroyed a candle, three food all over the floor and sofa. I find the whole situation extremely stressful as I have to watch him like a hawk whilst being told ‘to just relax and sit down’ impossible when you have a toddler running around someone else’s house, made worse by the fact it’s not even my friends house it’s his mums house and all of her stuff. Although the whole family have said there don’t mind at all, it doesn’t make it any less stressful or embarrassing. I do understand she probably doesn’t realise how situations make you feel as a parent when it’s actually your child causing carnage!!
I have also explained it’s easier if she comes here as my toddlers toys are here and it will be easier for us to chat as my house is toddlerproof and he has lots to do to keep him entertained! It’s also hard as she lives 45 mins away from me and to incorporate travelling there around his nap time which is usually about 12-2, so that means not getting there until 3, she wants to me stay and eat dinner but my child will then fall asleep in the car on the way back, every parents worst nightmare am I right?🤣Please let me know if you think I being unreasonable? Obviously once she has her own baby, she will also have toys and a more child friendly home environment so things will be easier.
All my other friends are happy to come to mine everytime without question, as it’s just easier and less chaotic for everyone involved!
She said she is 23 weeks pregnant and is big and uncomfortable, which is the main reason she now wants me to go to hers, yet she manages to drive to my town for her hair appointments and came here to go for a meal out the other weekend, so I struggle to believe she feels too uncomfortable to drive, especially at only 23 weeks with a small bump. I do understand the pregnancy tiredness obviously, I just said to her it’s just how life is at the moment so maybe we just need to leave it for now🤷🏼♀️