To not want to give up my double bed for my parents?

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I am renting a two bed holiday cottage on my own for a week. I had invited my parents (in their early 60s) on a trip overseas but they said they didn't fancy it/ I should ask my friends instead. Alright whatever, so I changed my plans and found a holiday cottage. They have since booked their own trip abroad.

It has one double room and one single room. I am solo. My parents have got wind of this and have asked if they might drive by and stay for a night or two mid way through my stay?

This would mean I would have to give up my double bed for a couple of nights and move into the single. I am paying for the holiday cottage. AIBU to say no? I don't want to give up my double bed when they aren't contributing and made it clear they didn't want to do something with me where they would have to contribute.

Out of respect I definitely would give them the double bed. The effort it takes to raise a child (even suboptimally) I couldn't imagine doing anything else.

No don’t give your bed up. Unless you really want them to come and if you do there isn’t really another option.

the whole popping in during my holiday would irritate me.

No and they shouldnt be expecting you to. It's your holiday. Just pop in and see them afterwards they don't need to crash your holiday.

Nope if they wanted a double bed they should have arranged to book a holiday with you so you could book together something appropriate.

No way would I pay for a cottage for my self for someone to invite themselves along for free and kick me out my own bed. Nope.

Why on earth wouldn’t you give up your bed? You’d be colossally selfish not to. Would it really be so bad to sleep in a single bed ?

“No sorry, there’s no room. I didn’t book extra space as you said you weren’t coming.”

Because they are not paying and were not invited.

They trying to nab a free break inviting themselves, and kicking the paying person out of their own bed. How selfish of them. Not op

I would give up my bed for parents without a moment's hesitation, but that's because I love and respect them.
I guess the alternative is they don't come? Do you want to see them?

Having made other plans when they decided they didn't want to come when they were invited, I'd probably not want to change them. I'd have planned my alternative holiday.

"Sorry Mum and Dad. When you said you didn't want to come on holiday with me I made different plans and booked accommodation suitable for just for myself. Maybe next time?"

Unless you still want them to come. Then you'll have to give up the double bed.

Tell them there is only one bedroom so they can’t stay.

Or tell them you’ve got a reduced rate on the understanding that the occupancy is one 1 person.

Are you sure they’re not offering to keep you company for a bit? i.e. intended as a nice gesture rather than taking advantage of a freebie? If someone invited me abroad and I declined but later found out they were holidaying alone then I might feel a bit guilty. Obviously fine to decline though, either way!

I get that you're paying but if you love your parents it's surely not that bad sleeping in a single bed.

I would as I like my parents and would want to see them. Up to you if you want to see them or not!

I would always offer my bed to my parents and would be glad to see them!

I would definitely give up my double for my parents, wouldn't have to think twice about it.

It sounds like you are punishing them for turning down your choice of holiday abroad.

If they stay one night - why wouldn't you let them have the bed?

Strange attitude

I would just tell them there isn’t enough space and you’ll see them another time.

Really depends on your relationship with them. Personally, I wouldn't be thinking they didn't pay so why should they get the double room. I assume your parents like most have done a lot for you (spend thousands of pounds over the years and spent countless hours caring for you), I wouldn't be calculating the cost of a double room in that context. If you enjoy their company welcome them and make them comfortable. If you have issues with them, don't.

Then you have zero understanding of the sheer bliss of a solo holiday. (And also need to be a little less condescending - you don't need to feel sorry for single people!).

It’s no big deal, is it?

You sound immature.

I’d sleep in the floor and give my parents the double bed, if I had to. But I have a great relationship with them and they’ve definitely sacrificed more for me over the years. You know your relationship with your parents and if that’s not the case, then that’s up to you.

Did you read the post, she invited her parenst abroad they said no, so she went on holiday in her own in the uk

now her parents are looking to invite themselves, so actually they are the ones being selfish

Op I would say sorry it won’t work for you and carry on on your own

I'm with you OP.

If your parents had said that they were coming, you may well have booked a cottage with 2 double beds, so that you could have one yourself

Their suddenly change of mind (for a free holiday?) shouldn't mean that you are out of pocket and inconvenienced.

No she doesn't. She sounds like someone who has booked the joy of a solo holiday and this freedom and independence is now being disrupted.

I try to go on a number of solo holidays and it really pisses me off when people ask to join me. You wouldn't invite yourself to someone's family holiday so why do people think they can just rock up to a solo holiday?

"It would be lovely to see you during my holiday but I didn't book it for 3 people and it's not big enough, it would be uncomfortable and cramped and that's not a nice holiday for me - let's meet up for lunch somewhere half way between your house and where I'll be, one of the days midweek"