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To tell best friend her DH has been discussing their sex life?

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Laurasdiary · 07/10/2025 12:53

I’ve been with my boyfriend about a year and we had a big row yesterday around our sex life. Basically, stuff he’d like us to do (which I’m sure most would think is nothing overly wild) which I’m not overly comfortable with or don’t think I’d enjoy.

In arguing about it, he said ‘well I know X and X do it so why don’t you just try’. I said I don’t care about what they get up to and that I hope he doesn’t speak about us with others either. He said my friends DH ‘makes her out to be a right filthy bitch’.

We do socialise with them quite a bit , usually my friend and I are present, but they were on a stag together last month so would have had opportunity to talk without us there.

My dilemma is whether to tell my friend what her husband has been saying or to keep my mouth shut?

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KawasakiBabe · 08/10/2025 18:29

OneDenimBird · 08/10/2025 16:09

I had (unwanted) conversations with school mums discussing their sex life when frankly I could not have cared less and I didn't know them that well 😂 And don't get me started about the baby groups!

Yes, women speak. A lot.

I talk with my friends. Maybe YOU don't, fair enough, but there's nothing ground breaking about it.

Refer to my next list.

KawasakiBabe · 08/10/2025 18:30

KawasakiBabe · 08/10/2025 18:29

Refer to my next list.

next post, not list.

Elsvieta · 08/10/2025 19:03

I think a more important question is why you're with this creep. He tries to coerce you into acts you don't want, whilst simultaneously labelling any woman who will do them as a "filthy bitch"? He's a misogynist arsehole.

Wadadli · 08/10/2025 19:05

Laurasdiary · 07/10/2025 12:53

I’ve been with my boyfriend about a year and we had a big row yesterday around our sex life. Basically, stuff he’d like us to do (which I’m sure most would think is nothing overly wild) which I’m not overly comfortable with or don’t think I’d enjoy.

In arguing about it, he said ‘well I know X and X do it so why don’t you just try’. I said I don’t care about what they get up to and that I hope he doesn’t speak about us with others either. He said my friends DH ‘makes her out to be a right filthy bitch’.

We do socialise with them quite a bit , usually my friend and I are present, but they were on a stag together last month so would have had opportunity to talk without us there.

My dilemma is whether to tell my friend what her husband has been saying or to keep my mouth shut?

Accept he responded in kind and dump this creep asap

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