To be concerned about my neighbours?

[Lynn981]

My neighbours are a young couple with a toddler. I normally seem them but I haven’t for 3 days now. All their lights and curtains hahe been drawn but their cars are still on the drive and haven’t moved. Or am I over thinking? It just seems a bit unusual. We are rural and you can’t really get to anywhere without a car, not even local shop. Also they’re not abroad or anything, as I actually spoke to the lady neighbour the other day and she said someone from the council was meant to be coming round

I think OP’s heart was in the right place, but perhaps too prematurely. The thing is, even if they had have succumbed to death by carbon monoxide or murder or a gas leak or a horrendous gardening incident, then they’d all be dead anyway. And 3 days isn’t weird. Over 2 weeks maybe.

I think the police would make a judgement on that.
It really depends....I don't have much of an idea of the comings and goings of one of my immediate neighbours so while I may note that e.g. the lights are on all night and curtains open (unusual), I wouldn't act upon it.
The other neighbour is an elderly women living on her own, very, very set in her ways. I know what time of day it is by her actions - calling the cat in for the evening, lights all off as she's gone to bed, car out 2 times a week for a few hours, hearing normal noises through the wall. An absence of that would cause me concern and I would act upon it.

I was just going to say "fabulous for admitting it - aren't we all in our own ways" but saw you then updated it 😂

Being aware of unusual behaviour and caring about it doesn't make anyone a nosy neighbour though. It makes you a thoughtful person

Maybe you should ask for the thread to be taken down OP once you've established all is definitely ok. In case the mother sees it!

How nasty are you? The OP seems like a caring neighbour to me

Ha ha, Freudian slip? You’re a nosey neighbour in the right way, you notice normal patterns and worry if they change. You’re welcome to move to my street.

I fully agree.

Hopefully you will see the woman and child today too @Lynn981

Oh, I would definitely check in on an elderly or lone disabled neighbour. No question.

I am glad you’re looking out for them .
I would definitely knock and /or ring doorbell .
Where I live we have a WhatsApp group for the street and for the estate .
Not everyone is in the groups but it means I have a way to contact neighbours .

Maybe the neighbours went away to avoid any possibility they could be stranded without electricity during or due to the storm? We lost electricity for 20hrs, it hasn’t happened in this area for 38yrs or so.

Whenever there is a news story about someone being found after lying dead in their home for a week, or a child killed even though everyone heard the screams or any other numer of things where you think, how didnt anyone notice, this thread explains how.

I wouldn't be surprised if they're avoiding you because you're watching them too closely.

OP says they share a drive and they walk past her front window regularly. That's not watching, it's noticing. It also might be that she only recognised their regular patterns when they stopped (akin to only realising how busy the skies were with planes when they pretty much stopped during hard lockdown).

It was more of a joke tbh

Being offended is overrated maybe choose not to take offence from small stuff.

okay…I’ll give you an opportunity to practice what you preach…leave me the fuck alone, nosey.

All those attacking OP, have you read the recent news story about a nonverbal neurodiverse child that is missing in the US?

Bullies

Why are you waiting? Just knock and see if they are OK. Stop pussyfooting around. You are just a concerned neighbour.

Nice that you care. I would knock at the door.

Why are you waiting? You are a concerned neighbour so stop dithering and knock now. If I was concerned i would have been there long ago just to ease my mind.

Jesus Christ, will you knock on the fucking door and update us so we can all move on with our lives!!!!
You must have splinters in your arse sitting on the fence this long ffs 🙄🙄

She updated ages ago ie yesterday

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She already updated on the latest news, more than once in fact. Given you didn't manage to read beyond her first post - here's the précis - she knocked two days ago to no answer and then saw the male last night walking the dog.

Feel free to move on with your life... 🙄

I don't think you were being nosey...
It's really good to keep an eye out.

Whenever I read a post like this my mind goes back to that poor little boy who died of dehydration and starvation who's body was found curled up next to his father who had died of a heart attack.

I saw that post but thought she would have tried again. I would be trying alternative avenues, other neighbours, if a local residents WhatsApp, even call the police at this point. I'd rather be called a nosey neighbour than something awful has happened them...