AIBU to think this "wedding pianist" is unbelievably rude?

[Bamsmam]

We are getting married in April and have found a lovely venue which allows us to source music ourselves. I looked around options locally and they all charge a fortune for 5-6 hour packages which we don't really need - just someone to play a few tunes as guests arrive and during and after the ceremony, nice and quiet, nothing complicated.

A friend told me about a friend of hers who plays for weddings sometimes, not as a full time career because she does other music work too. So I got in touch with her, mentioned my friend's name, said what I wanted and asked for a quote. She came back to me with £220!! For a couple of hours piano playing! Surely this is money for old rope.

I wrote back and said I thought it was a little on the steep side and this is where the rudeness comes in. She actually messaged me back and said I should start taking lessons now myself and in ten years I'll be as good as her and can play for my next wedding! AIBU to think that this is extremely unprofessional and also a very unpleasant way to communicate with prospective customers?

#teampianist

Haha good for her! And how rude of you!

If you want a professional player, you have to pay them.

You were rude to her OP. It's even worse as she's a friend of a friend. How embarrassing for your friend who recommended her. How much were you expecting to pay out interest?

If she is playing for you then she isn’t working elsewhere. She has to practice and she has to plan suitable music. YABU

You’re the rude one here not her.

£220 is cheap. I think you deserved the response you got

Well you were rude first. You were told a price, the options at that point are that you accept it or you say no thanks/don’t respond if you don’t want to accept it. There’s no need to say that you think it is a little on the steep side.

Yes her message is rude but not sure what you were expecting after that!

Sorry, Mortified for you. She put you in your place though, fair play to her.

It's a very decent offer. You are the rude one here.

You sound delightful. Pianist is correct.

Your are the cheeky one. £220 is nothing for a ln artist to play at your wedding. You've made your self and your friend look a right fool. Play the radio if you’re not that bothered.

A professional musician for 2 hours? That’s very reasonable. I think you need to get out more OP!

I’m sorry - I’m stunned at your ignorant attitude.

Honestly you are so out of order. Describing someone's very reasonable quote as money for old rope. I'm cringing reading this.

YABU. How much were you expecting to pay?

Nah, that’s a brilliantly funny response. Woman who knows her value 😃

You're not just paying for the couple of hours. You're paying for the skills she's honed over years.

Boom ! She nailed it. I love her response

You were extremely rude.

That’s cheap!
You were rude.
Her reply was brilliant.

This is definitely a reverse!!

Whilst her reply was perhaps a little blunt, perhaps she’s fed up with people not valuing her talent. It takes years of hard work and dedication to reach a high standard on the piano. £220 seems reasonable to me, taking into account travel time and warming up etc, and of course the years of hard work,

To describe her as someone “just someone to play a few tunes” is rather condescending. If you just want a “few tunes”, perhaps approach a school student looking for experience, or just play something on a sound system.

OP you are totally in the wrong here. That’s very very reasonable for a professional pianist and you flatly told her she charges too much. YABU.

This has to be a joke, surely - not only complaining about the price (which is reasonable) but also use of the word 'source'.

Is this a reverse?

It sounds like your budget is more like stream a Spotify playlist which is fine.