To ask is a 5bed house is a waste in these circumstances

[Chickenshwarmamarma]

Young couple who have 2dc half the time (and no plans for any more!)…5bed house…is it a waste? YABU=yes ridiculous YANBU=no, each to their own.

We live in a 3 bed but are saving to convert the attic into another 2 rooms and another bathroom , we only have one DC. We want one bedroom for us , one for ds, a guest room, I want a dedicated home office back which will double as a hobby room for DH because he has far too much stuff, the fifth will be a second room in the attic which will be a play/hang out/homework space for ds with a sofa bed for when his friends stay. He will have the top floor with this room, his bedroom and own bathroom.
If they can afford it and plan to stay long term what's the issue?

@Chickenshwarmamarmaare you going to come back to this thread and explain what this is actually about?

as far as I can tell, they have a bedroom for them, a bedroom each for the 2 dcs (who do stay with them sometimes), they can use one as an office for the person who works from home and one spare /guest room.

To me this doesn’t sound excessive. We can’t afford anything that big in this area but doesn’t seem out of the normal range of the sort of house I’d expect people in that situation to buy.

The thing is though, the people in the OP's post don't have multiple spare rooms. They have one, and one of them works from home two days a week.

Two children who are there half the time having bedrooms is hardly ten bedrooms lying empty the majority of the year.

I would love a 5 bed house and we would only have one child 🤣

Our room
Child’s room
Spare room; I would LOVE to be able to invite people to stay over.
Office
Gym (well space for a treadmill, bike and yoga mat would do me)

Sorry, I removed the post by accident and forgot about it. I’ve been so busy. I am the parent in the 5bed. I have had a few comments (one from ex, another from a friend and another from an aunt)
Ex basically said I had wasted my money on a 5 bed for I only have 2 dc half the week.
friend basically said the same.
Aunt said(and I quote) “was that really necessary, I know several families with more dc who have a better need for it…I’m sure the family you outbid are struggling to find another much needed 5 bed! They have 4 dc who need space” she knew them and was pissed off I suppose.

Anyway, I’m glad everyone agrees and it’s not wasteful! It’s our home and we need the space we use 3 bedrooms as bedrooms, one as an office and the other hasn’t been decided yet.

Is this 5 bed house a council / social accommodation?
If not, and by outbid means you bought it - really not yheir business. Especially wrong fir your own aunt to comment like she did

No we bought it.

I am single and bought my dream four bed house a few years ago. I love it. I work really hard and this is my reward. I have a home office and a big dressing room and a large guest bedroom. A beautiful nature garden.

i have found some people make comments - particularly men of a certain age. I have never need married and bought this with my own money. It’s just jealousy and sexism. I love it 😂🤣.

some sad middle aged neighbour commented on me spending my ex husbands money when I put an extension on the house.

I'd have been so tempted to tell your neighbour that you needed something to disguise where you'd buried 5 former husbands. And add there's space for one or two more bodies, so do they fancy nipping down the registry office with you?

I bought in a conservation area so there are minimal new housing developments near me. Not a particular choice, the house I liked happened to be in that area.
And I fail to see the relevance of the “number of bedrooms” in the UK. There are numerous threads on here that demonstrate very clearly that people in social housing refuse to down size and give up any “spare” bedrooms. Understandable for many reasons, the most common being because there often isn’t anywhere suitable for them to downsize to. How on earth do you think owner occupiers could be forced to do that? The number of bedrooms in the UK is irrelevant.