To ask is a 5bed house is a waste in these circumstances

[Chickenshwarmamarma]

Young couple who have 2dc half the time (and no plans for any more!)…5bed house…is it a waste? YABU=yes ridiculous YANBU=no, each to their own.

Unpopular opinion on here but I do judge people living in huge houses when their adult children are desperately saving to get on the property ladder but can’t afford to. Unfortunately it’s very expensive just to move so it has to be a significant downsize to make it worthwhile.

I’m in a 3 bed but when my children leave home, if they need a house deposit I will downsize and help them if I can.

Other than that no, people should live wherever they like. My neighbours live in a 3 bed and have no kids. My mum lives in a 4 bed alone. Bedrooms don’t have to be used just for sleeping. The rise of home working means rooms are also needed to work in.

It's their choice so if they can afford it its up to them.

I guess Id be annoyed if they ever moaned about how poor they were or protested about nearby housing proposals.

In a very nice village near me I once saw a beautiful big thatched cottage with a poster stuck up protesting a new housing estate about two miles away. I had hard work not to knock on the door and tell them not to be so bloody selfish.

I wouldn't like it as it's more to heat and clean and I'd be scared to be on my own in it at night. But some people love spare rooms for things like art, sewing, gaming etc so it depends what you like

@cadburyegg I agree, my siblings and I all had help onto the ladder.

You sound jellus @Chickenshwarmamarma !

People can have as many bedrooms as they want. It's up to them. My older DC has just her and her DP in a 4 bed house, with 3 reception rooms, a nice bathroom, a study, a conservatory, a cellar, a dining room, a utility room, and a large kitchen. Why? Because they can afford it, and it's what they want.

Obviously if it's social housing, a 5 bed for a couple who have 2 children just half the week would be batshit, and a 2 bed would do. But if they've bought it
it's nothing to do with anyone else.

Puzzled as to why two thirds of people think YANBU, but most comments think YABU. Baffling!

I am laughing at the competitive bedrooms oneupmanship on here though. One poster claims to have a 7 bedroom house, so another poster trumped it with a claim of an 8 bedroom house. 😆

Anyone got a 9 bed??? Come on! 😂

We have six bedrooms in a four storey house, with two adults and one child. We have a guest room, an office each for me and DH, plus a playroom. If you can afford it and like the space, why not. I work from home quite a lot and particularly like having an office where I can shut the door and walk away. Previously, my office was also the guest room, where I slept when I was co-sleeping with my child or if my tossing and turning was keeping my husband awake (he is a very light sleeper and, if woken, struggles to get back to sleep). I like having these spaces separate now. We would struggle with a smaller house.

Is op the parent of the said 2 children that will live in the massive house part time??
I wouldn't want to live in a house too big for my family purely due to bills, but might suit some ppl better with view of expanding family, wfh, or parents moving in

We have a 4 bed and are creating more space using the kitchen and conservatory, we enjoy all the space we have and it really came in handy when our eldest daughter and granddaughter moved in after a break up , she didn’t have to worry about where to live at a moment’s notice .
if they can afford it and want it , why not ?

We live in a five bed.
One room is my library/wfh office. One is a music room. The three remaining rooms are in use as bedrooms although DS1 has left home and DS2 is at Uni. So they both have rooms to come back to and we also have regularly used both rooms for guests.
I'd find a set of permanently unused bedrooms a bit odd though.

If they can afford it and will enjoy it it's not a waste.

You haven't explained what the rationale for your thinking is here, @Chickenshwarmamarma ?

Why would you wonder whether a 5 bedroom house is wasteful for 4 people, when it is within the parents means?

I like space in a house. My jdeal house would have:
2 x Offices
Dining room
Cinema room
Den room for the kids
3 x Guest bedrooms
Kids bedroom 1
Kids bedroom 2
Dressing room
Bathrooms
Gym room.yoga studio
Posh lounge
Comfy lounge
kitchen
Breakfast room
Karaoke room and bar- i stayed in my exes friends house that had this and it was epic
Pool house

I think that would be fine for me, dp and the kids 😁

I’d love a fifth bedroom so dh and I could sleep separately when he’s snoring and maybe a gym (currently set up in the garage but would be nicer indoors.

we have a 4 bed house with a study so I guess equivalent and have no plans to move when dc leave home.

Well DH and I have a 5 bed 3 reception room house, I have my sewing room he has a footy room complete with beer fridge and our adult children and DGCs constantly use the 4 spare bedrooms throughout the year since we live besides the sea.

If people can afford it and it makes them happy, they can like wherever they like.

I have a 5 bedroom house and we have one child and a small dog. Bedroom 3 is the guest bedroom, bedroom 4 my dressing room and bedroom 5 the office. Works brilliantly. 5 bedrooms also equates to ample living space downstairs, and it’s nice to have a separate living room/ dining room and kitchen breakfast room.

You don’t need to have lots of kids to justify living in a bigger house.

Part of the issue is that the number of bedrooms correlates to the space downstairs in most houses so if you want a decent size kitchen, utility, a couple of decent sized reception rooms to host family and friends that means having more bedrooms. But as everyone’s says I’m not sure why it’s anyone else’s business- there’s certainly worse things you could do with your money than invest it in property surely?

It wouldn't be a waste for me if it was affordable. I'd easily make the use of the spare bedrooms. Home office, guest bedroom, play room, dressing room, music room, snug room, sensory room, games room. If you think the rooms will just be sat gathering dust though it may be a waste for you.

What is it a waste of?

The couple’s money? - up to them whether they can afford it.

Or

a waste of a larger house when they could live in a smaller one? - again up to them.

so overall if they both want it, then not a waste

A waste of what?
We have a 6 bed for our family of 5 although two of the rooms are on the third floor (loft conversion) and not used as bedrooms. One is a den for the kids (tv, Lego collection, where they hang out with friends), one is an office for wfh.
Every room is used and has a purpose, we love the space.
I will admit that we have too much stuff because we have the space for it, and also that keeping on top of the housework can be a challenge. But I don’t see it as a waste, it’s full of happy memories.

Who cares? Honestly, why are you even giving this a second thought, let alone posting a thread about it to get opinions?! If they want that house and can afford that house, then crack on. Their business, no one else’s.

I am single no kids and own a four bed. Not a waste at all.

every bedroom is used

1. i sleep in
2. guest bedroom (used about once a month)
3. home office
4. dressing room.

i live every inch of my house and dare anyone to tell me it’s a waste

A waste? A waste of what?

Some 5 bed houses are quite small. Newbuilds often divide tiny spaces into multiple bedrooms and bathrooms that dont add up to much in floorspace

And why should they?

I get totally pissed off with people who think everyone should live in a fucking shoebox. We have a 4 bed house, kids left home, semi retired.

should we move to a poxy bungalow to free up the home we’ve made over donkeys years? Piss off.

it’s none of your fucking business.